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On the Benefits and Pitfalls of Living Through Fantasy

For me, life is like a movie. I can always see its narrative arc. I can always see my character archetype. Narrative arcs tend to have limited options, so you try to spot the ending. You try to find who the other main characters are and guess where your story will take you. You try to spot the heroes, villains, love interests and comic relief of your life. You try to spot where you play these roles for others.

In short, you live in a world of fantasy. This can be both the best and worst thing for your life.

On one hand you can live life with the reassurance that the story will finish. You can see how the trials you face can motivate your character arc and enhance your story. However, once you feel you've completed an arc, you feel a bit empty. Life works in installments of plot for you (series, novels, episodes, etc). When you complete an arc you get into a rut and you have no reassurance it's going anywhere until a new plot unfolds. You get scared you could be stuck like this forever.

When you live in a world of fantasy there is always somewhere to escape to. Always your vision of how it could go differently, a fantastical plot of another universe, a made-up romance, or a wild adventure. But you know this isn't real. The discrepancy between fantasy and reality can often be confusing, jarring, and misleading.

Of course sometimes it helps to go through life as if the fantasy is the reality. To go through life thinking you deserve all the good things, that you are learning through your own adventure. It's a great way to think about yourself. It's how you think about others that becomes the problem.

Who did you unfairly cast as a villain? What when the happily ever after you expected doesn't come? How about when you lose someone you were hoping would be a main character?

I am constantly tortured and comforted by the fantasy I surround myself with. Of course I could say the same about my reality.

I know it' been done but I just realized how Lucy Gray coded Silver Springs is and I'm obsessed

I only know Gossip Girl b/c my sister likes it, but finding the Chuck Bass to my Blair Waldorf is the dream

my mom's watching law and order in the other room and one of the characters referred to LGBTQIA+ as just "LGBT," and another character (an LGBTQIA+ activist, i assumed) corrected him by saying "LGBTQIA." i got really fucking hopeful because she was recognizing these identities, but when someone asked her what the "QIA" meant, she said "Queer, Intersex, Ally." not to be a dramatic bitch or anything, but as an asexual, my heart shattered. this was said by someone who either "supported" or was a part of the LGBTQIA+ community.

i'm going to say this one more time:

THE "A" IS FOR ASEXUAL/AROMANTIC/AGENDER. ALLIES ARE NOT PART OF THE LGBTQIA COMMUNITY. IT IS NOT A SEXUALITY OR GENDER IDENTITY. YOU ARE CISHET. YOU ARE NOT OPPRESSED FOR SUPPORTING US.

I AM SICK OF THESE IDENTITIES GETTING ERASED. IF YOU CLAIM THE A IS FOR "ALLY," GET OFF MY BLOG.

reblog if you support your ace, aro and agender friends

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{disclaimer: i appreciate and love allies and all your support, but you are still not part of the community.}

My Panic! At The Disco obsession turning into a Fallout Boy Obsession turning into an Arctic Monkeys obsession really explains what it's like to grow up

I'm not going to say I had a bad day because I'm low key in a good mood, but let's just say there were no stops to get off the struggle bus today.

A poem

I'm going to hate you

I'm going to love you

I'm going to want to kiss, marry and kill you

I'm going to want to hug you

I'm going to want to hurt you

But most importantly. .

I'm never going to need you