As They Said... Why Is It Not Surprising To See You In The Chocolate Section?

same...just same.

Throwback thursday to when I was like 12 and I was putting out new writing DAILY...... Like entire Chapters of my then-current wips just, over an afternoon. What the fuck was I on

lotta people I know, especially neurodivergent ppl with special interests, express fear that they're a "know it all" or a "snob."

If that sounds like you, allow me to clear things up for ya:

A know-it-all loves making others feel inferior with their knowledge. They worked hard to learn something, and now they find great joy in holding it over others' heads.

To a know-it-all, there is no greater pleasure than realizing someone else doesn't know something, and subsequently humiliating that person for their ignorance on a topic.

Snobs and know-it-alls live for that "gotcha" moment, when they get to embarrass a person and lord their knowledge over someone, making them feel worthless for even daring to speak about something they don't know much about.

Whereas someone who just knows a lot revels in getting to share their knowledge with others. The infodump is not to brag, taunt, or embarrass. In fact, just the opposite, we info dump with the goal to engage others in something we love.

When we correct someone, it's because the information we have is important to us, and we want the facts known by everyone possible. Our goal is never to humiliate.

Above all, a know-it-all and a snob will never admit when they are wrong. They will double down and rage against the notion that someone else might know more than they do about a topic.

Someone who admits they are mistaken, that they don't have all the facts, even if it takes them a day to come back embarrassed and say "you know what, yesterday you were right, and I wasn't,"

Can never be a know-it-all or a snob.

Keep learning, keep teaching, keep sharing.

If you spread what you know with honest joy, passion, and the understanding that other people have something valuable to add, you cannot be and are not a snob, and the world is better for your passion!

If I had a dollar for every fictional character I fell in love with, I could finally afford therapy.

Thanks for giving me a chance ❤

Have I posted this yet

So, who wants a publishing story?

No one?

…Tough.

To preface, this was prompted by a post I saw about always making sure you read a contract before signing it. I wholeheartedly agree.

So, I write books. A roundabout result of writing books is I occasionally get to speak at conventions. When I do speak at conventions (which hasn’t been for a year. Thanks, covid), a standard question I get asked is about the benefits of self-publishing versus getting a contract. And yes, I fully realize that everyone’s experience in this is different, and I get that. Here’s mine.

Afficher davantage

Leonardo Da Vinci, The Last Supper, 1495-1498

someone: how many times can you read about your OTP falling in love?

me: