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Here are some facts about the aspec community whereas if you struggle to grasp or comprehend them, you probably still have some amatonormativity / allonormativity to unlearn:

Asexual people can have and desire romantic relationships even if sex is off the table for them.

Some asexual people like sexual content in fiction but not in real life.

There's a difference between an aroallo person and a non-committal cishet. No your cheating ex boyfriend who only cares about sex isn't automatically aromantic.

Being aroallo is not synonymous with a high libido.

Queerplatonic relationships can look exactly like an allonormative romantic relationship and not be one because things like kissing etc. aren't inherently romantic.

Asexual people can wear and like clothing that is revealing or commonly regarded as sexual without it meaning that they desire sex.

NOTHING but literal intercourse is inherently sexual. Kissing isn't inherently sexual. Not even french-kissing or making out. Neck kisses aren't inherently sexual. Flirting isn't inherently sexual. Hell, I only found out like two weeks ago that some people, even in the ace community, consider these things to be inherently sexual.

No form of affection is inherently romantic either. Kissing isn't inherently romantic. Hand-holding isn't inherently romantic. Cuddling isn't inherently romantic. Even all of these things in combination aren't automatically indicative of a romantic relationship.

You define whether something is sexual or romantic to YOU. This does not mean it is to everyone else.

Some aspecs just don't want a partner at all

Some aspecs aren't aromantic but don't mind not having a partner either.

A QPR isn't the only other option aside from platonic or romantic relationships. A QPR also isn't romance lite or the aro version of a romantic relationship.

Being demisexual or gray ace doesn't automatically make someone sex-favorable

Frayromantic people feel romantic attraction until they develop a close bond with the person. The romantic attraction fading does NOT necessarily mean they care about that person less or don't desire a committed relationship with them because relationships and attraction isn't hierarchical.

Some people don't want to engage with sexual content at all.

If you read these and you realize these never occurred to you or that you have been assuming some things, that's not a judgement of you. We all have internalized allonormativity and amatonormativity. It just means there's work to do.

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youre done lil man

in my local queer bar someone graffitied the single occupancy disabled stall sign* to read “quadruple occupancy” and i’m so fucking done.

*grafitti on the bathroom doors is perfectly normal and encouraged at this bar. the issue is vandalizing a disabled stall with a joke about misusing it to fuck.

i pointed it out and how fucking upsetting it is to have our fucking BATHROOMS be the butt of endless jokes about drugs and sex and uncleanliness and laziness CONSTANTLY. it’s fucking insulting to have the active misuse of the only place a cripple can fucking pee be treated as a haha funny by people who don’t suffer from it and in fact often PERPETRATE that.

when i brought up that it’s way less funny when you’ve had those jokes made to you constantly when you’re just trying to piss—a right constantly denied to cripples—an abled person just went “yeah, we’ve all been in middle school!”

they didn’t respond when i said “oh, so you’ve been a middle schooler with a wheelchair?”

ableist abuse from peers was a major factor in my losing my right to education, and the rest of it was not being given basic accomodations. i’m not interested in entertaining it from grown-ass adults.

(also, given that tonight is, i shit you not, TRANS NIGHT, you’d think people would have an idea of how humiliating and shitty it is to have the only bathroom you can use mocked and misused for sex.)

Had to do my own version of this absolute banger

Gulpppp I need to start posting again

pure love

Ah yes, the 3 genders. Male, female, and “what the fuck are you, a cop?”

heather, heather, heather, and eyeless jack

gotta say i don't like how many "how to pass ftm" guides are straight up just like. be monotone and uninterested and don't engage in your "feminine" hobbies and don't wear bright colors and don't be polite and don't smile at people and don't show emotion ever. like how precisely is this a healthy thing to be teaching people (especially the young people these are often targeted at)??? i am a bubbly boy. a cheerful chap. a merry man. a good-humored guy. a glowing gent. a veritable ray of fucking sunshine and i am NOT toning that down!!!! fuck you!!!!!!!

and i hear my hearts breaking tonight

i hear my hearts breaking tonight

do you hear them too?