Jonahs-human13 - Barely Hanging On To That Tied Knot

gentle reminder to just be soft with yourself. I pinky promise you really really deserve it. I’ll stamp it and everything.

When you respond to not-very-well hidden attempts to covertly surveil you by responding to a Russian bot (they've evolved), but you go off with some tangent..yeah, babe, they've got your social #.

Cheers to Octahate.

All of this.

We knew we had ADHDbrain *long* before diagnosis.

We knew we had BPD *long* before even all the symptoms were showing.

We knew we even were Multiple v. early on (but were gaslit by psychiatry).

You know you better than anyone else.

Gatekeeping culture is like: “don’t get your information online it’s too easy😡!!!” Then offer “find research papers online it’s really easy🙄”

Then block you.

Self diagnosing isn’t TikTok videos and random blogs. It’s literally months to years of research. There’s a lot of reasons why someone can’t get professionally diagnosed.

Misdiagnoses happen a lot

People aren’t taken seriously

It’s expensive asf

Its inaccessible

People want to adopt

People want the right to their bodily autonomy

I’m disappointed when I go online and see my bullies are now nurses. That’s kinda the same thing when I go on here and see professionally diagnosed people who shit on undiagnosed for posting coping mechanisms.

Stop calling people “the problem” for coping. The real issue is people who post any “if you have these… you might have” THATS DANGEROUS. what isn’t dangerous is:

Finding coping mechanisms

Find organization tools to function

Therapy

Talking about experiences

Researching extensively on traits

Documenting

Unmasking

Printing off quizzes or research articles from well established resources (Embracing Autism, ASAN, AIM, awn network, A4A)

Stimming (if it isn’t harming)

Advocating for diagnosis is one thing. Being a bully online is another. It’s a disability not a quirk, a lot of self diagnosed people know it’s a disability. We can identify the actual problems in the self diagnosing community but a lot of us aren’t those.

We’re valid

FOR REAL

(and slight trigger here IG)

In the past, when I-or whatever headmate was fronting at the time-used to used Tumblr, 90% of that very specific time..I was v. NOT sober. But-in that (minus the random mood swings), I was kind of bowled away by the sheer COOLNESS of content, because ...it felt like, PEOPLE THINK LIKE ME.

The other thing I thought was interesting was that I would sort of compile this phase work (of trauma), and voraciously research (somehow intuitively I knew how to seek out what information we needed whenever) topics about how to approach things. I gotta talk it over with the Gatekeepers I think, maybe see if we can access that data.

ok this thought is undercooked and i don’t have my adhd meds so bear with me but i think the reason why neurodivergents are drawn to this site is more or less because the world feels random to us, like everyone else got a manual for Socializing 101 and we didn’t, and so we don’t really know how to fit in or follow the general neurotypical code of conduct or the rules of social exchanges and it can feel isolating and overwhelming. but on tumblr chaos is the norm. like there aren’t any rules here, you don’t have to abide by standard social laws. it feels natural and genuinely enjoyable as a form of social media because we can revel in our weirdness and not be judged (at least not in a way that bears any weight) because we’re on tumblr, we’re all weird here. i think this is also why NDs typically find chaotic jokes funny as opposed to traditional forms of humor. the unexpected is the punchline; you don’t have to look into it for hidden social cues

My advice?

Be your own fkcing authority.

That's it, that's all.

Astrology observations I made pt 20

DISCLAIMER- Placements will not play out the same way for everyone and having challenging placements + aspects does not mean that you are a bad person or that you will have a bad life. Take what resonates and leave what doesn’t

-mars in the 10th house can sometimes indicate literally doing sex work and being known for it. It’s one of the rarer manifestations

-a Saturn return for someone with Saturn in the 8th house may involve losing someone important to them. That experience will force them to learn to process and face grief and loss head on. They may get an inheritance out of it

-cancer ascendants tend to have soft features in general, rounded faces, large eyes and small but plump lips

-a Saturn return for someone with Saturn in the 10th house may involve literally changing career paths. You may have been working the same kind of job for years and then your Saturn return happens and you realize “that’s not what it want anymore”. This can also happen for people with Saturn in the 6th house

-people with Lilith in the 9th house has had major beef with a teacher/tutor of theirs at least once during their school days. Everything that teacher did left a bad taste in their mouth. If the native comes from a very religious family, they hated the preacher lol

-contrary to popular belief, Pisces mars natives are far from weak, they’re just lazy as hell and need a little extra push to get things done

-people with a lot of 12th house placements feel the most energized at nighttime and they always have trouble with their sleep patterns

-women with Lilith in the 11th house tend to have to deal with men who pretend to be their friend but secretly want to sleep with them and will jump at any opportunity to get in their pants

-another lesson the saturn return might teach someone with Saturn in the 10th house is to start caring about the public image they project out in the world. If before their Saturn return they were wild, carefree, and not concerned about rules and their reputation, they will learn the importance of certain rules and values put in place by authority figures around them then

-people with mercury in Capricorn tend to have such a proper and refined way of talking, to the point of sounding old-fashioned sometimes. They don’t usually keep up with ever-changing modern slang very much

self help comic yes i cried when i thought of this and drew it immediately

“ The odds of guessing a four-digit passcode are 1 in 10,000, and tools have been used to crack iPhone codes in the past. Apple says the chances of someone having a similar enough fingerprint to unlock a person’s phone is 1 in 50,000, and a similar enough random face tricking Face ID is 1 in 1,000,000 “

that’s a really funny way of framing it, to make it look like passcodes are weak. you know what’s twice as good as the odds given for fingerprints? a 5 digit passcode! what’s equal to the odds given for Face ID? a 6 digit passcode! every time you add a digit, you multply those odds by 10.

and that’s assuming simple numeric passcodes. the odds of guessing a 4 digit, case-sensitive, alphanumeric passcode would be a 1 in 14.7 million. 5 digits is over 1 in 916 million, 6 digit is 1 in 56.8 billion. if you throw in 32 common symbols, we get 1 in 78 million, 1 in 7.3 billion, and 1 in 689 billion. those numbers climb pretty quickly the more digits you add.

i know these aren’t the only issues with passcodes (like 24% of americans using a variation of just 8 common passcodes), but if you’re trying to push people to biometrics i guess you wouldn’t really care for that nuance anyway

Me, in tears, halfway through writing a 300 word essay: I can’t do this anymore

Person on A03 who’s writing for fun:

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