We As A Queer Community Don't Talk Enough About The Reality That Some People Are Forcibly Outed.

we as a queer community don't talk enough about the reality that some people are forcibly outed.

i was forcibly outed and it is jarring and uncomfortable and i wasn't ready for it. it's emotionally violating, and you cannot ever go back into the closet.

the reality is, some people are just not safe, just not trustworthy, and don't actually value your well-being.

it shapes your experience in the world, especially for a young child to learn that someone they thought was trustworthy is not actually willing to protect them. it sets up the basis for fear, and denial, and repression. it cements in someone's brain that no one is to be trusted with your identity, and that you are somehow wrong.

it's never a good thing to tell someone to repress their identity, but the reality is that some people do not have queer safety in their minds. some people do not care.