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“They say you don’t get over someone until you find someone or something better. As humans, we don’t deal well with emptiness. Any empty space must be filled. Immediately. The pain of emptiness is too strong. It compels the victim to fill that place. A single moment with that empty spot causes excruciating pain. That’s why we run from distraction to distraction and from attachment to attachment.”

— Yasmin Mogahed

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“Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs. Peace has its victories, but it takes brave men and women to win them.”

— Ralph Waldo Emerson (via coral)

Things I want to tell myself at 21 1. You’ve achieved so much in terms of self care and self respect but there are still some things you have to work on. Like dancing. Yes, you can get drunk and dance and you can dance alone in your room but why do you feel so restrained in front of people? 2. You have a beautiful smile. But you can’t smile genuinely in crowds. Blur them out. Crowds shouldn’t dictate how wide you smile. 3. Have more ice cream. Have double scoops of different flavours and walk around when the sun is out with sticky hands and stained lips. 4. When you’re in situations you have no control over, do not stress. There’s literally no point. Instead focus on things you can control which will indirectly have a positive impact on those tough situations you can’t directly deal with. 5. Always read the preview of a book before buying it. Always. 6. Don’t force yourself to giveaway your childhood books. Somethings you can keep for yourself even if only for occasional smiles and nostalgia. 7. Try. And don’t give up. You will have relapses. You will be doing so well and then will suddenly faulter. A day. Maybe five. But you can get back to it. You can start again. The number times you go back to something you’re trying to change, something you’re working on, strengthens your will. It’s not a sign of losing. It’s a sign that you will eventually conquer. 8. I know you just can’t understand when women are against feminism and when men and women have such a wrong idea of what feminism really is. But you can’t get so agitated. You can’t forcefully change their beliefs. 9. You would like to believe that a friend would be a certain way and your grandparents would be a certain way but just because they are supposed to be loving and available doesn’t mean they actually will. People hardly ever live up to what they should. Even if they are family. Even if they are love. 10. Save first. Then spend out of the remaining money. That’s the only way you can have your Seoul trip by 2020. 11. When you watch a movie or read a book that makes you emotional and nostalgic, texting them isn’t a wise option because they aren’t feeling the same way. It will just be another unwanted text from you. 12. You are privileged. In different ways from most but still privileged. Know your privilege. Don’t look down on others. They aren’t blessed with the same advantages as you are. 13. Let those who want to cancel plans cancel. There’s no point in meeting someone who isn’t as excited and as desirous of meeting you as you are of meeting them. Even if you are friends since 9. Even if you have a treasure trove of childhood memories with them. 14. Sometimes excuses are genuine reasons. 15. 20s isn’t the only decade you’re alive. Don’t stress yourself to achieve everything in these 10 years and don’t drive yourself insane accomplishing things you don’t even want to but believe that you should. 16. Be true to yourself. Even if that’s the only thing you will ever be.

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mental health tips

{day 12 of #wilstudiesfeb}

for bad days

get some sunlight

workout

have a warm drink

sink into your hygge

create something, the world needs more creators

call someone and vent

watch some vine compilations

take a luxurious bath (or shower if they’re more your thing)

wear something comfortable

colour in a colouring book

doodle

scroll through some positive reminders on tumblr or pinterest

important ~ daily

make sure you’ve eaten in the last 6 - 8 hours

make sure you’re hydrated

how long have you been sitting still for? have a stretch.

set alarms for any medication that needs to be taken. seriously, it only takes a matter of seconds, and it’s better to be safe than sorry.

small things to do if life is going smoothly

meditate for 10 minutes

call a loved one

cook a nice breakfast

moisturise

brush your hair

smell something nice whether it’s a candle, bodyspray or a plant.

drink some more water

improve your posture

research what you can do to help the world

change your sheets

make your bed

open your windows, let some fresh air in

kiss your body, caress your body. love yourself.

delete conversations between people you no longer talk to.

reminders

“you are allowed to be proud of the little things you achieve; like becoming better in a video game, baking really good pancakes or just getting out of bed today - not everything you do has to be world changing” - @gentle-reminder

“Don’t ever do something simply because someone else forces you into it. At times, people may try to make you do things that you may not want to do. However, you must respect yourself and only contribute to what you feel comfortable with doing.” - @thepowerwithin

“There will be other tests. Other assignments. Other jobs. But there might not be another chance to dance with your sister on her wedding day. You may never get another opportunity to sing along to all your favourite songs at a concert. There are no guarantees. So, forget the test. Miss the assignment. Skip the work day. Life isn’t made by those things. It’s made by living. By experiencing and enjoying every thing we can while we’re still here.” - @ifthenightcouldtalk

“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.” - @psychofactz

I have so so so many more tips that I’d love to share, so perhaps I’ll make a part two next month aimed at a different audience, who knows? In the meantime feel free to ask me for advice or send me a message if you ever need anything! I’ll leave you with a sweet little meditation gif below :3

Much love xx -wil

“I thought about how love was always the thing that did that - smashed into you, left you raw. The deeper you loved, the deeper it hurt.”

— Wally Lamb, She’s Come Undone