Enneagram

Six: You’re always so calm, no matter what happens. How do you do it?

Nine: It’s easy. You just got to make yourself dead inside. Then it doesn’t matter what happens… good… bad… nothing gets through, so nothing bothers you. Easy.

I’ve seen a lot of posts about how “no one mourns the Wicked” is actually about Galinda, but I’ve been listening to it again, and I gotta say, I think the song is actually about the Wizard with rather dark implications.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure Galinda thinks and believes it’s about her. But Galinda became good in the end, she was Elphaba’s friend, Elphaba and Fiyero miss her, and Galinda has friends in Oz, the musical ends with one of Elphaba’s flying monkeys getting the ability to talk to her and Galinda can help them now. She’s mourning Elphaba, and she might be alone in that, but in other respects, she isn’t alone or dead or wicked or forgotten.

The same cannot be said of the Wizard. “The Wicked’s lives are lonely” is very much about him. Even at the height of his power, he had to isolate himself so that no one could see he was a fraud. When Elphaba threatened him, he became paranoid and spent his days in isolation and fear. Whereas Galinda, even at her worst and limited power, has always been well known. The Wizard has left Oz, and the people don’t seem to question it because they have Galinda now, and they know Galinda and they love Galinda, while the Wizard was more an idea than a man. He never visited them, he never did what Galinda does for them. No one misses him, why would they? Galinda fills his role, what little of it there was, a thousand times over. The lyric “no one cries they won’t return” fits the Wizard best, not Galinda. People are thrilled to see her, and don’t seem to care that he’s gone, while Galinda cries for Elphaba.

Also “the wicked cry alone” applies to the Wizard too, when he mourns Elphaba. Yes, Galinda technically mourns for her alone too, but at least Galinda has the Animals, the few that can still say some words. The Wizard cries, but Galinda doesn’t cry with him, because the Wizard is crying over his own actions as well as her death, and Galinda has no sympathy for him, no one does, and that’s his own fault for making them hate Elphaba. Also the song says “Nothing grows for the wicked, they reap only what they’ve sown” and the story that Galinda tells during the song isn’t her and Elphaba’s story (that’s later), but Elphaba’s and her father’s story, specifically, how the Wizard brought about Elphaba’s existence and set himself on this path. Galinda asks if people are born wicked or have it thrust upon them, which is ironic because the Wizard is the reason Elphaba was born AND why she was vilified.

Then we have “no one lays a lily on their grave” and “the wicked die alone”. I’ve pointed this out in other posts, but it’s never confirmed in any or at least most versions of Wicked/Wizard of Oz source material that the Wizard makes it home or has any way to do so. I’m not sure what the movie is gonna do about this, or if they’ll attempt to repair the balloon or heavily imply he dies, but the Wizard dying alone in his grief and no one missing him while instrumentals of “no one mourns the wicked” play in the background certainly takes care of that problem.

Also “woe to those who spurn what goodness is, they are shown” also applies to the Wizard. He has a whole song in part 2 about goodness being a matter of perception and rejects Elphaba’s plea to help the Animals. He vilifies her goodness and believes, truly, that he is the hero because he has declared himself so, and that he is a good “father to the nation” because he declared it. He makes himself the subjective decider of goodness. It’s only in the end, when he realizes what he’s done to Elphaba that he has regrets and begins to see and understand the evil he has done. Elphaba is what he “misses when he’s misbehaved” as the song says, and although none of the villagers know that, Galinda witnessed it and knows that the Wizard missed the opportunity to be a father, which was all he claimed to ever want. It’s a missed opportunity, information he would not have been missing and discovered earlier had he acted differently, and “missed” in the sense that he misses the daughter he threw away.

Unexpected MBTI Qualities of People I Know

ENFP: Can be real scary when serious

ENFJ: Apologizes at the most minimal mistake

INFJ: Can get really obsessed

ISFP: Wants to be babied

INFP: Can be real scary when angry

INTP: A closeted crybaby

INTJ: When their partner goes all cutesy, they go all cutesy

how do you think each MBTI would react to their crush asking them out?

c r us h: would you like to get a coffee tomorrow?

INFJ: *stuffs excitement down down down down* yes. yes. i would... love that. 4pm? *jumps around whooping like a little kid once crush leaves*

INTJ: *malfunctions* whY? *starts blushing.... from embarrassment* NO not why i should go with you i meant. yes. i meant- why- *stop talkng now stop talking stop-*

ISFJ: *wide eyes* *starts smiling* yeah! yeah i would love to! *does a little jaw drop when you're gone* ohmygosh!

ISTJ: Like... together? To- together?

ESFJ: *does not contain it* ohmygosh really? yeah! i'd love that!!! <3333333333333<3333333333<333-

ESTJ: *gets really suspicious* *frowns* did someone put you up to this?? HUH? did one of my friends istg imma KILL them-

ENFJ: *plays it the coolest* yeah, sounds good! *crush leaves* *buries head in hands* soUndS gOoD? iS that ALL we had to SAY?

ENTJ: *malfunctions*. *pause*. YES i mean yeah for sure that would be nice .......(*mentally chucks out their jam packed schedule for the entire evening*)

INTP: *dies* coffee? coffee. yeah.... i like coffee, so, yes! yes.

ENTP: I already had a coffee. *crush leaves* NO NO WAIT I DIDN'T MEAN THAT... sorry i.... forgot to turn it off... how about 4? *after crush leaves* ...the one time i failed to be cool is now? really?

ISTP: Sounds good dude (*internal* dUDe?! DuDE wth how do i turn this thing OFF)

ESTP: Yeah *puts hand out on wall do the the sexy lean but for once misjudges and slips* (doesn't mind because it makes crush laugh)

ENFP: sorry let me just- *puts hand on wall for support* im just mentally keysmashing- *gives them the brightest sunshiney smile ever* YEAH i would love to!

INFP: *blushes perfectly* *wants to run and hide* *gives them the most hurried nod*

ESFP: yeah for sure sounds funsies! *crush leaves* *commence: phone a friend* BESTIE GUESS WHAT HAPPENED. WAIT NO I SAID FUNSIES *cries* WHY DID I SAY FUNSIES. "you always say funsies" I knoW but that was so not a sLaY. wait... what do i wear?? WHAT DO I WEAR?

ISFP: *bites lip and looks at the floor to stop smiling until they regain composure and look up* for sure! i know a super vibey place down the road...

Disorganized (aka fearful-avoidant) attachment style is overanalyzing/overcorrecting when you think your partner might be pulling away from you, but then pulling away from them when they draw close to you.

It is both craving AND fearing intimacy so deeply that you grip people tight in your hands lest they leave you, but keep them at an arms length lest they love you.

Skincare tips: Retinol

If unsure, start with the most gentle sort of retinol (retinol esther, or the 2nd most gentle, pure retinol - read how it works here).

Consistency over intensity. It's better to use a gentle product consistently over weeks, months, years, than it is to use an aggressive/strong product over a brief period.

Less is more.

You can use retinol regardless of your skin color, just start slow and on the low, gentle end of retinols.

What it does: thickens the skin, encourages cell turnover / skin regeneration. Smooths wrinkles and fine lines over long-term consistent use.

How much to apply: a pea-size amount is sufficient for the entire face.

When to apply: in the evening, after doing your skincare routine, on a clean & dry face. Avoid applying in the morning, as retinol makes your skin sensitive to sun damage, and retinol itself also breaks down under the sun, making it less efficient in the mornings.

How often: 2-3 times a week (ie. Monday - Wednesday - Saturday). Keep up this routine to see if your skin tolerates it well, if it does (and this may take even a year to adjust) you can increase the frequency to every night.

What season to use: you can use retinol all-year round, just make sure you are protecting your skin with sunscreen, as it makes your skin photo sensitive.

When using retinol, be careful with these areas (as in the skin there is more sensitive, so apply less product + more gentle retinol): around the mouth, neck, chest.

The only time you need to use retinols specially made for the eye area, is if you have very sensitive skin and standard retinols irritate the delicate skin around your eyes.

Be careful with using any acids* in your routine. Do not use them at the same time (ie. same evening). Alternate the days for each: if you apply retinol one evening, use acids the next evening only.

If you have underlying skin conditions (eczema, rosacea, etc), check with your dermatologist first before testing out retinol.

Retinol is not recommended to be used during pregnancy.

Don't exfoliate on the same nights you use retinol (ie. salicylic acid or other acids*), as it's too aggressive on the skin.

For most retinol products, it is best to apply moisturizer before, to use as a buffer, and then apply the retinol. This includes the chest & neck areas.

(Source: dermatologist S. Idriss)

Xaden: So you sister was casually poisioning everyone

Brennan: *being extremly proud of her*

My nemesis: sweaty armpit stains on shirts 😤

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