Stop Wasting Time In Explaining Yourself...Instead Start Doing What You Want..

Don't put anybody above yourself. Yes, be selfish because at the end of the day, you are the only person who is going to be with you till the end.

Seek your own support.

Become self-reliant.

Become stronger.

Care for yourself because no one else is going to do that for you

Become your own hero/heroine.

LOVE YOURSELF

It's really suffocating, it's not very postive and good...but it's somewhere peaceful. When you know you could have done better, but u also know u couldn't have actually done better..U know u gave your best. And u know what is best for you. But still this world time and again makes you realize that you efforts were not just enough! That 'in comparision' to others ,u performed less. Yes, it's somewhere true too. In order to survive in this world, u need to work like anything! But again, U KNOW WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU AND YOU KNOW YOU GAVE YOUR BEST! ISN'T THAT ENOUGH?

The dark mess that I am!

What happens when you don’t find that right person? Do you just spend the rest of your life in a relationship where the conversation isn’t great, everything isn’t perfect, but it’s nice and sweet?

Miranda Kenneally, Catching Jordan (via quotefeeling)

I thought you would understand me at least 'you' would. But, again it's completely fine. It's not the first time tho! But I guess now it's time for me to finally(happily) accept the fact that I am actually ONE OF A KIND..

As soon as I lose touch with you, I find myself completely lost. I feel my happiness being snatched away. I start looking for temporary pleasures which never give me that level of satisfaction...U are my tonic!

You shouldn't have to be your parents therapist.

You are not responsible for their mood swings. You shouldn't have to spend your days struggling to keep the peace between them. You shouldn't have to put all your energy into avoiding conflict.

They shouldn't make their emotional problems yours to deal with.

You shouldn't have to suffer for their bad days.

You are their child. You shouldn't have to he more mature than them.

They are the ones who signed up to take care of and raise you, not the other way around.

I wasn't very kind to myself for a really long time and I'm trying to learn that now. So do what you need to do, and push yourself, but also forgive yourself if you fuck it up, or if you're struggling.

— Chelsea Wolfe, in an interview with Julian Lara c. Nov. 2019

"I have given myself the permission to be // a monster in little ways."

- Anna Meister, As if

Dismantling the Lies of Abusive Parents Masterlist

Resources

Giving you food and clothing is the bare minimum

You don’t owe gratitude for food and clothes you needed as a child

You had the right for basic resources

Parents shaming you for costing money is ironic and stupid

What it means when they say ‘This is MY house’

My house = my rules is blackmail

Children don’t owe absolute obedience for being fed and sheltered

Physical abuse

You are allowed to refuse any touch, not only violence

If they ‘don’t know they’re hurting you’, why do they ignore or punish you when you protest?

Hitting children is irrational and doesn’t work

You cannot ‘provoke’ your parents to abuse you if they’re not abusive

Why do parents actually hit, manipulate and traumatize children

Blatant Lies

Care, nurture and affection do not make you weak

They’re lying when they say it ‘wasn’t that bad’‘

You wouldn’t have grown up spoiled if not for abuse

You got too affected by it’ is a lie

Your parents are not ‘just too emotionally immature’ to understand abuse

‘You’re not living in the real world!’ is nonsense

You’re not worthless, a burden, ungrateful, or stupid, and your parents know that.

Constant undermining of your accomplishments is abuse

Not being allowed to talk about the past is symptom of abuse

Parents who want you to be happy vs look happy

You are not abusive for resisting abuse

When they claim ‘they didn’t mean it’, it’s still abuse

Your parents are responsible for their own actions regardless of how badly they try to shift blame on you

Psychological abuse

Blind Obedience is not required in a healthy upbringing

Disgust is a weapon abusive parents use on their kids

If they say they love you, but walk all over your feelings, they don’t 

Parents don’t have the right to enter your room to scream at you

Parents insisting for you to be ‘tough’ are doing it to hide the trauma

Even if a kid acts like ‘they can take it’, it’s still abuse

Pretending abuse is discipline will leave children permanently scarred

It’s inhumane to control and shame children’s reactions to abuse

Why don’t you already know this? vs Teaching you necessary skills

Acting like they’ll change is escape sabotage

Parents are responsible for protecting children from harm

References to how healthy parenting looks like

Not being allowed to be angry with your parents is psychological abuse

If parents want you to act way you did when you were little, they’re dangerous

Threats about how hard your life will be later on, are bad for you

Lack of continuity and ever-changing rules will cause anxiety

Forced obedience will lead you to abusive relationships

Parents acting like you’re a ‘bad’ is a shame tactic to control you

There’s healthy and abusive ways to give children chores

Revisioning the past and insisting you remember it wrong is gaslighting

If your parents make you suicidal, they’re abusive

Parents threatening ‘they could be worse’ is abuse

Always assuming the worst intentions for your actions is wrong

Keeping children hostage in abuse is torture

If this hits home, also read Recognizing Abuse Masterlist