1. Recognise the importance of forgiving yourself. Not forgiving yourself will deplete your energy, and leave you feeling all chewed up inside. It keeps you living in the past instead of living in the present – so it’s hard to make the most of what’s happening today.
2. Recognise the effects of not forgiving yourself. Those negative emotions like shame and regret are also bad for our long term health – as they undermine and damage a healthy immune system.
3. Name the emotions you are struggling with. Simply naming your emotions can help reduce their power. It brings some order and control into our lives again when we’re hit by overwhelming and negative emotions.
4. Reflect on the fact that we all make mistakes, make foolish decisions and act badly at times. It’s part of being human – you’re an imperfect person. We all do stupid things, and say some things that we regret.
5. Try to let go of other people’s expectations. We can’t please everyone – it’s not going to happen. Decide on your own standards, then try to live by them. Also, if you’re looking for approval you’ll never measure up as you’ll always meet someone who will criticise and judge.
6. Practise self-forgiveness. It’s healthy to acknowledge the regrets that you have – but then you need to be willing to let go of the past – and decide to move forwards - and live life differently.
Bothering the beast
And I’m done with grey’s. Series finale was 13x16. Bey. I’m not watching this shit ever again. Ever.
Grey’s just completely gutted all of the Japril fans. The direction they chose to take their storyline in and they way they did it is so heartbreaking and disrespectful to the fans and all the love and emotional investment and attachment we have built for their relationship. It’s disrespectful to their journey, to the albeit bumpy but uniquely beautiful story they shared. This is disrespectful to all the amazing things about Japril: their friendship, their chemistry, their deep love for one another. Also, this is a slap in the face to what Jesse and Sarah have created, their commitment and dedication to the characters and the fans, and their own long term investment in building this relationship. Even introducing the idea of this storyline, it feels like they've ruined, or at least tainted, the beauty of Japril.
Japril fans, ASSEMBLE!
Jackson and April mean a lot to us. Everyone’s japril journey started at a different time but one thing we have in common is that we love them and still root for them. We have Sarah and Jesse, who have been nothing but invested in japril’s story, trying their best to deliver a performance that takes our breath away and every time they have a scene together, they own it. In the last few days a lot has happened which made everyone question if our favourite couple will ever be given another chance to be together in any sense. Whatever happens, we know we love them and we will never stop fighting for them. We would like you to help us show our gratitude and love to japril and especially Sarah and Jesse who remain the best captains ever and support us and always find a way to calm us down. We would like to have japril trending on twitter for the last two episodes before the hiatus begins!
Thursday November 9th for the 300th episode, join us for a simple “japril” trend to show that japril are an integral and important part of grey’s anatomy.
Thursday November 16th for the episode 14.08, join our trend “we love japril” to express how much japril means to us and to show that we don’t give up that easily!
*Remember that we’re NOT trying to get someone mad or angry, we’re spreading positivity about japril and our trend is for showing love to them, Sarah and Jesse, and showing our gratitude to all the writers, producers and directors who made our story happen. Please don’t tweet “I hate ___ for doing ___ to japril” but rather “I love japril for/ I can’t wait for japril to/ grateful for Sarah and Jesse and etc. giving us japril/ and etc.) Positivity, guys :)
IMPORTANT!!! Guidelines for trending:
1. We are trending a word and a phrase, NOT a hashtag (#) since it’s easier to trend something without this symbol. 2. If you don’t have your location on, it doesn’t count your tweet!! So please turn your location on! (Go to Settings - Privacy and safety) 3. Timezones!! We start trending at 5pm EST, 10pm UTC, 11pm CET, 2 pm PST, 4 pm BRT and etc. so be prepared to start! Google 5pm EST and it automatically should show you what time is it for you. Please keep tweeting AT LEAST for an hour and if possible keep tweeting during the US air time and after. 4. If you feel like you can’t come up with many tweets so quickly during trending, try preparing in advance. Every tweet counts! Use https://tweetdeck.twitter.com to schedule your tweets especially if trending begins in the middle of the night for you and you love your sleep or you have to rest before school/work and etc.
Finally, we can’t wait to see your amazing tweets and share love and positivity for japril with you! If you have any questions, please contact @16confessions, @safooa, @insideimfeelinpurrdy and @japril
I absolutely HATE that Maggie is now related to this situation/parallel
When that bus exploded, and I thought you were gone, I…
I started a new ficlet and a part of it was supposed to be a small flashback scene about the boys in college. Well, that original ficlet is now scrapped and what I have for you is the first chapter of what could be about a 10-ish chapter-long collerge!rhink fic. It has a hint of exhibitionism, lots of smut and pining. There will be angst, since that’s kinda my brand. Let me know if you’d like me to continue! —
Rhett caught Link jerking off a few too many times on their dorm room couch before he started to suspect that Link was doing it on purpose; that he deliberately chose times when he knew Rhett would be coming back to their room. When the idea popped into Rhett’s mind, he couldn’t get rid of it. It gnawed at him. It seemed totally ridiculous a first. Why would Link do that? But there was already a mountain of evidence to support his hypothesis. Despite his growing suspicion, Rhett turned the idea around in his head for a good while before doing anything about it.
Then one Wednesday night, he purposefully mentioned to Link in passing that he’d be back from study group around eight. Link didn’t seem to react in any way. He was buried amongst a pile of textbooks and notes when Rhett left the room. So, he didn’t expect anything to actually happen that night but, lo and behold, when he returned to their room, Link was sitting, bare legs spread, on their couch fucking his own fist.
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