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ok i'm sure you get this asked a lot but i haven't seen it - just how did you get/develop your art style? i love it so much!! it's so pleasing to look at.

why thank you! honestly “finding my art style” was a huge thing for me back when I was starting out. I went from style to style pretty wildly, and it was really only when I realized that art style is more about technique & how the art is made - rather than just how the faces look or whatever - that I actually fell into the current style I now have. I made a little “art journey” chart under the cut so you can kind of see what I mean! This really only covers about /half/ the different styles I tried out, especially in the early days.

K-Drama Recommendations: Soft/Beta Male Leads

Beta males are my main character trope of choice:  A soft boy who lets the woman take charge or who defers to her. He is dedicated, doesn’t play mind games and doesn’t worry about taking on traditionally masculine roles. He puts the leading lady’s needs first, remains loyal and kind, and allows the woman’s personality to shine. Sounds perfect right?

K-Dramas that features soft male leads:

Because This Is My First Life

Nam See is an introverted and thoughtful beta male with a fondness for his kitty (bonus!). He’s smart and capable but also honors his contract marriage with Ji Ho, and treats her with an overwhelming amount of respect. He is the first character I’ve seen in a drama that truly understands consent. When this show aired, everyone was smitten with Nam See because he was the “perfect boyfriend material.” As a side note ironically, Lee Min Ki (the actor who played the perfect Nam See) had his own personal scandal which seems the total opposite of his character and I’d feel weird not mentioning it.

Healer Swoon-worthy Park Bong Soo is not only a super capable action superhero behind the scenes, but has total puppy eyes for Chae Young Shin. This couple makes the show one of my favorites even if the plot isn’t 100%.

Ho Goo’s Love / Fool’s Love

Ho Goo is in my opinion the poster child of the soft male lead and Fool’s love is one of my top five favorite dramas (it covers sexual abuse and has a gay storyline - I know, shocking for a k-drama). When people ask me for examples of non-problematic boyfriends, this show comes to mind first. Ho Goo is quiet, really sensitive, caring and puts everyone before himself. He’s a bit naive to the world’s workings, but when he falls for a medal winning athlete with a troubled past and an unwanted pregnancy, he’s willing to drop everything to be with her. It’s one of the best dramas I’ve seen though it does have a small bit of slapstick.

Flower Boy Next Door

Enrique Geum is a creative and kooky character who falls for an introvert. He’s soooo goofy and adorable, it’s almost like watching a cartoon character interact with real live people (plus he cuddles with puppies and look at his panda hat!). He sets his sites on an introvert and works hard to build a friendship (and romance). The show is a bit trying at times due to the annoying SLS and what I like to call “k-drama nonsense” but he’s so soft!

The Happy Loner/ Individualist Ms. Ji Young

This mini drama features a puppy-like boy trying to befriend a “cold” female. He is persistent in winning her over but not overbearing by any means. I had a couple of issues with this show but overall it’s one of the better mini dramas I’ve seen. 

Reunited Worlds

Hae Sung, a senior in high school dies and through k-drama magic, travels twelve years into the future to solve the mystery of his death. He reunites with his high school sweetheart (a now 31 year old woman) and the two fall back in love. He’s really smitten with her regardless of her age, and works hard to make her feel comfortable with their age difference. He’s a lovely friend with a pure heart and is completely adorable. The SLS is also incredibly beta (though not a very charismatic role - people complained about his acting skills). I don’t know a lot of people who liked this show as much as I did, but Yeo Jin Goo melted my heart and I felt all of the feels (plus I love the fated lovers and time travel tropes).

Weightlifting Fairy Kim Bok-Joo 

Joon-Hyung is a sweet and doting beta male who falls for Bok-Joo really hard, like puppy dog hard. He loves her for the tom-boy she is and respects her athletic prowess. These two are adorable together and there are TONS of cute scenes with them on dates and cuddling, though his immaturity/nick names for her annoyed me sometimes (maybe I’m sensitive).

The Package

This show aired without much notice but I happened to really enjoy it. The lead had a sweet and open personality and I just honestly loved that about him. When the couple argued they actually used their communication skills! If you’re looking for a quiet slice-of-life drama that’s a little different, check it out. You can read my review here if you’re curious.

Honorable Mentions (A.K.A Good Solid Boyfriends)

Fight For My Way/ Fight My Way

Fight my way is one of my top three favorites shows. It has an amazing strong female lead (like, really strong but also realistic) and uses the friends to lovers trope really well. It also has a solid group of friends who are regular people struggling to make a living - what can I say, I love it! Dong Man isn’t a truly beta male because he doesn’t become super soft until he realizes he is falling for his best friend. However once that happens, he’s all about Choi Ae Ra and in total support of everything she does (and he should be because she’s amazing). Plus if you look at the flashbacks, he’s really a beta male in training so… As a side note there is one single scene where he says something I don’t like, but I won’t say anything and you probably won’t notice because of the chemistry.

Just Between Lovers

I debated putting this show in my beta males post because both leads are dealing with trauma, PTSD and mental illness, so Kang Doo has some violent tendencies and anger issues which made me hesitate. But make no mistake, he is in love with Moon Soo from the very beginning and lives for her. He cares deeply and gives 100%. He goes out of his way to keep her safe and tell her she’s loved. Plus she’s someone I think of as a strong female character but is strong in a quiet way which I love. So since there is the strong female/mostly soft male it deserves a mention.

Also if you want a few more beta male dramas, @overthinkingkdrama has a great list with more soft leads here.

xoxo, Shana

some of my favourite vídeo essays about art history:

whose migrant mother was this? the story of the native american woman who became the face of the 1930s depression (and got almost nothing for it)

bauhaus design is everywhere, but its roots are political how even a simple choice between what font to use can be a political act

edvard munch: what a cigarette means munch + tobacco = art? (yes we’re still on the topic of art as a political weapon)

art that was never finished how great masters sometimes even didn’t finish stuff. also! the history behind the colour aquamarine

fka twigs on mary magdalene (if you like asmr you’re gonna love this)

having a coke with frank ohara (technically not art history but this video is too good for me not to mention)

video postcard: woman at her toilette a quick dive into my favourite painting of woman impressionist berthe morisot

this documentary about georgia o´keeffe (that ive seen about 10 times)

david hockney on vincent van gogh on love of nature, beauty, attention, and the art of looking (essentially a mary oliver poem in interview format!!!!)

KDRAMA RECOMMENDATION

It’s been a long time since I made one of these. I was asked to make this recommendation a while back and as always, I have been slacking. Mian haeyo :(

In in the world of Korean dramas is there anything our male lead oppas can’t do?? They can jump from one building to another, they can be unrealistically rich CEOs, they can fight 25 people at once (and win), they can sing, they can dance, they can see future, they hear your thoughts, they can go back in time, they are crazzzy smart and the list goes on…but they are also big dum-dums when it comes to love.

This is the recommendation of Kdramas in which male leads don’t even realise that they are in love.

All of these dramas are really amazing in my very biased opinion and you should definitely watch them if you haven’t already.

Brace yourself for a fluff fest!

🌸  Touch your heart: Famous (really cute) actress ends up working as the secretary of a (serious) lawyer to gain experience for her next role.

Dong Wook’s character is probably the most adorable idiot in this list. He is crazy smart when it comes to law, and equally thick when it comes to sarcasm and women’s heart.

Watch this to add 10 years to your life.

🌸  Weightlifting fairy Kim Bok Joo: Story of a female weightlifter full of swag and a male swimmer who can’t pronounce swaaeeeg.

This is friends to lover trope at the most realistic form a Kdrama could be. This drama is the campus life fluff we all need.

🌸  She was pretty: They were childhood friends - she was a pretty girl and he was a fat kid who got bullied a lot. They meet again years later and now, he is her hot boss and she is not pretty anymore. So she lies about her identity and he doesn’t recognise her.

As controversial as this trope is. The story is surprisingly not. The drama has no bad characters and reminds me so much of Ugly Betty as it’s based in a magazine world. It has one of the best female friendship and a very serious second lead syndrome. The female mc is so refreshing played by Hwang Jung-eum.

Honestly, if this doesn’t convince you…watch it for Choi Siwon and Park Seo Joon.

🌸  What’s wrong with secretary Kim: Narcissistic boss can’t live without his secretary.

This is basically it. You don’t want to miss this one.

🌸 Clean with passion for now: Man who has a fear of germs and woman who doesn’t care about cleanliness.

The guy’s fear of germs is another level where he can’t even let anyone touch him let alone think about a relationship. This is a very adorable drama with very cute leads.

🌸 My love from the star: He is an alien who can’t wait to go back to his planet, she is a famous actress who lives next door.

This is a gem that people forgot about and I want everyone to talk about this more often. Kim Soo Hyun and Jeon Ji Hyeon are in it. The plot is good, the chemistry is amazing, their love story is what I love the most about kdramas.

Watch this even if you have seen it all those years ago cause it is still a classic.

🌸 Because this is my first life: He owns a home, she doesn’t.

Honestly, this drama is a masterpiece. It is very entertaining, very simple and very lovely. Watch this… It will water your crops, clear your skin and make you crave for more.

🌸  Oh my ghostess: A shy woman is possessed by a thirsty virgin ghost.

This is horror (very light), comedy, romance. Park Bo Young is just so cute. The entire plot is ridiculous but highly entertaining. It’s a kitchen romance so keep food ready before hitting the play button.

🌸  Suspicious Partner: A trainee prosecutor becomes a murder suspect.

This is a crime, law, romance drama. My love Ji Chang Wook is in it. His character is a strict guy who doesn’t want to fall in love and the female lead (Nam Ji Hyun) understandably falls for him…all this but with murder and other crimes.

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Alright. That’s it, folks! I can probably add so much more here but that’s it for now. See you again next time. Hit me up if you need recommendations or talk about dramas in general. 

P.S. Check my blog for more kdrama recs, this hell-site won’t let me link them here. 

How do people get good at shading skin.......I wanna .......know......please tell me your secrets uwu

Dealing With Executive Dysfunction - A Masterpost

The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method.

The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method.

The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method.

The “get stuff done while you wait” method.

The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method.

The “break the task into smaller steps” method.

The “treat yourself like a pet” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method.

The “put on a persona” method.

The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method.

The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method.

The “wait for a trigger” method.

The “do it for your future self” method.

The “might as well” method.

The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method.

The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method.

The “make it easy” method.

The “junebugging” method.

The “just show up” method.

The “accept when you need help” method.

The “make it into a game” method.

The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method.

The “trick yourself” method.

The “break it into even smaller steps” method.

The “let go of should” method.

The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method.

The “fork theory” method.

The “effectivity over aesthetics” method.

Don't you see the people on TV, the singers, the actors, the sportsmen with envy? Do you wish that you could be like them, shining? But then your heart dismays because you know. You know, you'll never be like them. Not a star just someone in the background. Alone and dark. You then curse, why weren't you blessed with the same opportunity, provided with the same facilities. You wish there wasn't such a huge stigma behind such professions in your society. You wish you could be anyone but yourself.

the word lover but in urdu/hindi:

chitchor (heart stealer)

deewana (initially means mad)

majnu (a popular trope)

dilruba (usually referred to a woman, means the pleaser of my heart)

mehbub/mehbuba

aashiq (referred to a man)

saajan/sajni

preyasi (i think it's from bangla but it deserves to be on here)

sanam (gender neutral? ig?)

Nat’s 1K Celebration ↳ Favourite Romantic Comedy - 13 GOING ON 30 (2004) dir. Gary Winick (🎁 for @milesgmorales)​