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I've just realised that I have at least 11 projects on hand right now... I don't even know how I got so many ideas on what to write. And I also actually terrified

I really like drawing perspective, it's such a meditative task, like, it's a nice escape route from real world because you're only thinking about setting figures on the list. I have no idea, why I like this so much, considering ADHD, but it's relaxing for me.

A Life with Less Societal Expectations

Lacking something sometimes feel so alienating.

Aside from asexuality and aromanticism that can exclude you from romantic and sexual experiences, aplatonicness is also something hard to take. It excludes you from so many things life has to offer.

Aroace people who are also aplatonic, aspec peple who struggle to make friends, aspec people who are outcasts, aspec people who are loners, aspec people who have a past negative experience with friendships, aspec people who are introverted, aspec people who are not comfortable with social interactions, aspec people who were bullied, aspec people who were the last choice in a friend group, aspec people who don't have a stable social circle, aspec people who only have two or three friends they can truly trust, aspec people who have social anxiety, aspec people who are always misunderstood, aspec people who have an "unfriendly" appearance, intimidating aspecs, aspec people who try to fit in so hard but it always feel fruitless, aplatonic people who are happy, aspec people who have no choice but to be by themselves, aspec people with avoidant attachment style, aspec people who love the friends they have but don't know how to show it.

It can never feel the same.

But does it have to?

The successful and happy life seems to be so linear. Graduate, get a high-paying job, be financially secure, find a partner, get married, have children, have sex. Build friendships. It's tiring having to stress out when it's ever gonna happen in this life.

Being aro and ace can already exclude you from at least two experiences. Does being a socially-anxious have to exclude you from making meaningful friendships too?

At this point, it won't even matter anymore. A life with less societal expectations is good too. At least, by carrying those labels around, there is a concrete reason for not engaging in a certain activity for the experience.

Additionally, building a life where we don't have to feel like we're missing out on what is socially expected - dating, getting married, having children, having sex, friendships - doesn't sound like a bad idea.

Lacking something doesn't need to be so alienating. If you extricate yourself from the feeling that makes you uncomfortable in the first place - not having a certain relationship - and replace it with something good, like focusing on your career and volunteering, it feels much more fulfilling.

Accept the void.

wiggly static pride wallpapers

lesbian | gay

bi | trans

rainbow | pan

ace | aro

nonbinary | queer

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For you      I would fall                 from grace

my wife: you're the only person who uses the computer correctly

me: what do you mean

my desktop:

I think we need to talk about how some aromantics (me included) still suffer from amatonormativity while being comfortable in a queerplatonic relationships. We always try to make them more "worthy" in the eyes of allos, more similar to the relationships allo have, so they stopped asking questions, or even complaining. But we shouldn't. That's the whole point of queerplatonic relationships — they're not typical, they're special and that's what makes them so beautiful. Yes, they can look like typical romantical relationship, but it should be in a way that people IN relationship will decide, not outsiders.

The final thought? Fuck amatonormativity of course

On the one hand, I have ethical qualms about outing people before they're ready.

On the other hand, the policies they're pushing are literally going to get many of us killed. So I'm kinda leaning towards "fuck those backstabbing assholes."