LOOK! SOMETHING SOFT AFTER A SHITSTORM I'VE MADE :D
And you're doing just great, @adventurous-phoenix .)
(I'm scared as f actually, but your post motivated me to post too, cuz I had to start posting someday anyway lol)
“Hyperfixation” has become another word for “hobby” or “fandom” and I’m really fucking sick of it
sometimes I guess is there any disorders when you're always late
do y'all also get excited when you see aromanticism mentioned in a place you're not expecting it? it feels like such a niche identity that nobody outside of the queer community (and like a third of the people within the community) knows about it, so when you see it mentioned unexpectedly in a YouTube video or like an scp report you're just like
ways to respond to being asked "are you a man or a woman?"
i sure hope not
who's to say
that's between me and God
i'll tell you for $100
i don't think so, why?
probably, not sure though
oh god it looks like im greyro and i think im falling in love and lads oh it is not worth it. what are these feelings please take them away??? romance?? no thank you please put it back¿??
like i've felt love. i love my friends. i love my family. it's like lying by a warm fireplace in the winter, or like the morning sun glowing on your skin. this shit? I AM THE FIRE. I AM ON FIRE. I AMI NSIDE THE SUN. so much energy and heat and intensity but uh randomly all at once? and its very nice somehow for a while but fuck IM STILL ON FIRE please someone come PUT ME OUT
I understand why allo ppl cant describe this shit its so fuckng odd, like, id like control of my emotions back please thank you
does anyone else feel like this or am i the only one losing their own mind
i seriously feel i might spontaneously combust
This may be one of the most relatable asks that I've ever gotten. 100% this. Why is romance and can it go away and let me feel my feelings at my own time pls
A Life with Less Societal Expectations
Lacking something sometimes feel so alienating.
Aside from asexuality and aromanticism that can exclude you from romantic and sexual experiences, aplatonicness is also something hard to take. It excludes you from so many things life has to offer.
Aroace people who are also aplatonic, aspec peple who struggle to make friends, aspec people who are outcasts, aspec people who are loners, aspec people who have a past negative experience with friendships, aspec people who are introverted, aspec people who are not comfortable with social interactions, aspec people who were bullied, aspec people who were the last choice in a friend group, aspec people who don't have a stable social circle, aspec people who only have two or three friends they can truly trust, aspec people who have social anxiety, aspec people who are always misunderstood, aspec people who have an "unfriendly" appearance, intimidating aspecs, aspec people who try to fit in so hard but it always feel fruitless, aplatonic people who are happy, aspec people who have no choice but to be by themselves, aspec people with avoidant attachment style, aspec people who love the friends they have but don't know how to show it.
It can never feel the same.
But does it have to?
The successful and happy life seems to be so linear. Graduate, get a high-paying job, be financially secure, find a partner, get married, have children, have sex. Build friendships. It's tiring having to stress out when it's ever gonna happen in this life.
Being aro and ace can already exclude you from at least two experiences. Does being a socially-anxious have to exclude you from making meaningful friendships too?
At this point, it won't even matter anymore. A life with less societal expectations is good too. At least, by carrying those labels around, there is a concrete reason for not engaging in a certain activity for the experience.
Additionally, building a life where we don't have to feel like we're missing out on what is socially expected - dating, getting married, having children, having sex, friendships - doesn't sound like a bad idea.
Lacking something doesn't need to be so alienating. If you extricate yourself from the feeling that makes you uncomfortable in the first place - not having a certain relationship - and replace it with something good, like focusing on your career and volunteering, it feels much more fulfilling.
Accept the void.
P.S.: The thing Medic said means "Sleep is for the weak"
Arin •|• They/them •|• aroace voidpunk enjoyer •|• Learn too many languages to be alive •|• Eng/ru/fr/pl/fin btw •|• Have a strange kinship with insane characters
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