Hermestoldmeurgay - Dont Look At Me Like That

hate when someone asks how are you and you say good how are you and they say "oh not so great" or something. it's always like ohh okay i see we're being honest i thought we were playing pretend. can i have a do-over

hey, i heard that adhd medication causes anxiety. what's your experience with that? i have adhd and while not on a psychiatric level i experience anxiety too. so im a little skeptical about using meds...

I don't know, my personal experience with anxiety is of the "went so deep into the madness that I came out sane on the other side" sort. Instead of being scared of being in the wrong place and doing everything wrong, I accepted the assumption that I am always in the wrong place and doing everything wrong, but that it's everyone else's problem until someone has the balls to stop me.

If I'm sitting in a crowded room where everyone secretly hates me but nobody's brave enough to actually say it out loud, then I'm the most powerful person in the room. So either people don't hate me at all, or they fear confronting me about it. And that's their problem, not mine.

i need feminism because when jesus does a magic trick it’s a goddamn miracle but when a woman does a magic trick she gets burned at the stake

proficient in using ranged and deranged weapons

The definition of a woman is an adult human female, right? Is that transphobic?

No offense to you, I just want to see if the trans movement can actually define the term woman since I haven't been able to and I think your blog could help. I'm new to this and I'm pretty curious. Again, absolutely no offense meant and I'm sorry if you take any.

When I was a kid, I thought that nobody actually wanted to be a girl. That it's just one of those unfortunate fates you get handed, like being born with no eyes or no legs or something. That it's something miserable, that's supposed to be miserable, and everyone else is just better at sucking up and enduring it than I am. That it's supposed to hurt and you're supposed to act like it doesn't, and that's just what everyone does.

Being born in mid-90s, I was vaguely aware that trans women exist, but I was like 13 when I discovered that it goes the other way around too. Like you can transition female-to-male. And my first thought was "how hasn't everyone done this?" I thought it had to be some very well-guarded secret, because otherwise how else would they stop every woman from flocking to these things. My first initial thought was that if women knew there was an option to just stop being women, the world would run out of women.

I don't understand why anyone would want to be a woman, but it gradually came to my understanding that some women do. They actually enjoy that. So, as far as I'm concerned, the definition of "woman" is anyone who wants to be one. I don't understand why anyone does, but it's not off my plate if someone does.

The definition of a woman is a person who wants to be a woman. That is none of my business for as long as they let me stray out of it.

can i talk about something as a kiribaku shipper without bkdk shippers saying unhinged shit ab it bc like

im not hating on any bkdk shippers that aren't delusional acting like its canon when its not, and im not saying every bkdk supporter is like this BUT

u gotta understand first i dont even watch anime like that. im brazilian-rromani and japanese, it was a cultural thing for me not in the way you think tho. early 2000s was the time people were still throwing out the "beautiful, exotic, Oriental" 'compliments' while kind of transitioning into confused acceptance of the concept of minorities in general, so hearing that shit starting at five plus seeing how women and girls were portrayed in anime a majority of the time was too much for me, it felt disrespectful to the women in my family who didnt need unproportionately sized body parts that were unnerving almost in an Uncanny Valley manner to achieve incredible things, i didn't want anyone associating ME with that image. it felt like being reduced to this one little box and i didnt want anything to do with it

now im older, im dipping my toesies into this side of the internet, i finally find ONE anime i genuinely like, with a WHOLE cast of characters that have real plotpoints and character arcs and AMAZING fan media, all the good shit-

and listen ive been in a lot of fandoms and yea some are toxic some arent but i don't know that i've ever seen the same competition between ships that i do in mha/bnha. i cant go one krbk media without there being ONE comment talm ab "gross i dont like krbk" "this wouldve been better if it were bkdk sorry :/" "bakugou would never do that he only cares ab izuku >:(" LIKE

PLEASE let me enjoy this. its hard enough to find krbk art and media as it is, seeing that bkdk is the predominant ship. u already have soooooooo much shit to comment on, you dont NEED to leave comments on krbk or wtvr other ships deku is involved in that arent with bakugou. we fucking GET IT already.

and just as someone who goes to school to manically psychoanalyze people characters & plots and write way too much about them, i dont fucking like bkdk. THERE I SAID IT FLAY ME ALIVE YOU VULTURES.

deku's morals, values, beliefs? yes spectacular ur doing amazing sweetie

the love for his friends and family and for the whole goddamned world that ends up being the driving force to save said goddamned world? WONDERFUL FABULOUS GIVE ME MORE

his inherent codependency and survival skills centered around that one kid from his childhood who had a really cool quirk who subsequently told him to kill himself?

i get it, they were kids, they moved past it, he apologized, there was character development for both of them, it was a beautiful moment. to me, no matter what it screams stockholm syndrome for both of them bc realistically and psychologically speaking, trauma bonds are never how you want to start a relationship bc its almost never going to end well.

there are exceptions sure. is there chemistry between them? absolutely u'd have to be blind not to see how well they work together when they pull their heads out of their asses. IS THE SHIP VALID? YES. but people saw "childhood connection", took it for "soulmate pipeline" and said it was law as if there's absolutely no possibility of another kind of relationship between them. they fight like brothers, they compete like best friends, they find each other like soulmates - love comes in SO many different forms and you all have the most media showing the romantic type so can you PLEASE leave me and my ethereal stupid little krbk art alone thank you and goodbye

I was doom scrolling your page and saw a lot of stuff about Finland

do you live there or were you like born there and moved?? of you have lived in a different place, how different was it?

Oh, I'm a native, born and raised here. The reason I'm seemingly implausibly fluent in english is a combination of random factors, both odd and not that odd. When I was like 3-4 or so, mom put me into an english-speaking daycare for a while so that I could pick up the language properly when she noticed that I was learning to understand english faster than I was learning to read subtitles on TV (unlike in many other countries, finnish TV is never dubbed save for children's cartoons).

Both of my parents needed english for their jobs - my father was an IT wizard and my mother an international sales agent - so they were both fluent and understood just how important knowing the lingua franca du jour is going to be in an increasingly international world. The fact that they were willing to put this much thought into our future wellbeing but I was still bullied at school for being filthy because nobody kept an eye on my hygiene probably illustrates what kind of a odd mish-mash of being neglected, materially spoiled and randomly well-provided for my childhood was.

Then I turned 11 and was allowed to free-roam unsupervised on the internet. This was back when "grammar nazi" was a scalding insult and not a government job title, so whenever I got into arguments on the internet with strangers who had no idea they were arguing with a child, aggressively correcting the opponent's grammar was considered a winning move. My grasp of english grammar rules was honed on the brutal battlefields of obscure 2005-2010 forums with no sympathy for angry teenagers with an undiagnosed Something Wrong With Them.

So I am not "officially" bilingual by many formal parametres since neither of my parents were native speakers, but the same standards also don't recognise "the living room TV" as a parental figure, or consider "feral child abandoned into the wild who was found and raised by a wild pack of internet strangers" a valid backstory.