And They Say Brunettes With Dimples Can’t Stabilize The Reactor Core 😏

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Give love to people,

to do that you must be there for them,

To be there for them you must take care of yourself,

To take care of yourself you must know your needs,

To know your needs you need to be open but also sometimes it means stopping talking to someone who wants to use you etc. and not looking back

To do that you must know your priorities

And time is one of the things you don't get back so put it up there

One thing I’ve noticed about people in or entering their 30s is they don’t make as many compromises anymore. If someone doesn’t meet them halfway, is not up to standard, is just not where they’re needed to be, they’re just like “ok cool” and they move on from the person. Which is not to say they’re less empathetic or understanding, but more that they have learned that time is their most prized possession and they’re not willing to make massive compromises on it. They are not obsessed w the idea of fixing someone (bc the concept of fixing a person doesn’t really exist). They simply move on to someone who is up to par. I want that. I want to always move w the awareness that time is my most priceless belonging and I can never buy it back. Ever. So I have to use it wisely

i think we should start taking beloved archetypes for male characters and using them to make female characters. this woman is an asshole with a heart of gold. this woman is a loveable goofball. this woman is a cool but scarred lone wolf who just wants to protect people. this woman is a badass con artist who is always seen wearing an immaculate suit. this woman is a dilf

I think the reason why some cis people are so offended by being called "cis" is because they're entirely unfamiliar with the idea that they might be things that they didn't deliberately choose to be, or that the way they inherently are and hadn't considered as a distinct thing may be a concept that's been named, observed and defined. They don't like to learn that there are names for them that they had not been aware of.

When you've lived all your life with a vague and lingering dread that you are somehow different from everyone around you, it's a relief to learn that there are words for what you've got going on, that there are names for people like you. That you're not somehow uniquely wrong in some way in which everyone else is right, you're just type B when the vast majority of people are type A. There are others like you, whose patterns are like yours, you are not a deviant for deviating from the "norm".

Default Settings People get strangely insulted by the mere idea that they, too, have a slot in the classification system. They'll protest this, being the biggest, most typical, and statistically most likely category isn't enough, they want to be outside of this system completely. Arguing "I'm not some type, I am normal", like being sorted into a type at all is dehumanising and insulting. They want there to only be One Type, and that everyone falling outside of it is a Miscellaneous Deviant. Being "typical" in contrast to "atypical" isn't enough, they want to be normal in contrast to abnormal.

In unrelated news, the ADHD subreddit on reddit has banned the word "neurotypical". That kind of language has been deemed as 'political', meaning that it hurts the feelings of neurotypicals and therefore should not exist.

How to see the next step ahead

Source: https://martinrue.com/to-be-productive-be-prepared/

Motivation by itself gives us the willingness to do something, but nothing more. Once we make a start, the game changes and it becomes about knowing how to make progress.

Knowing how to make progress and making progress are two different things, but we often conflate them and treat them as the same thing. We basically jump into the task and start. Only, it’s not really starting because we’re repeatedly stopping to think about design, architecture, security, how it will look, how it will work, which database to use. The list goes on.

But knowing how to make progress before you start is important. Before you start your next task, complete the following in as much detail as possible:

Describe exactly what the new [feature/bug/thing] will do

Describe exactly how it will do it, giving as much technical detail as you can think of now

If it has a visual element, quickly sketch out how it’ll look

If you can do this before you start, you’ll have a good idea of:

What you’re doing and what the definition of complete is

What to add (or what to change) in order to make it happen

Roughly how it looks or feels, which often clarifies details of the point above

Hello everyone,

I found another interesting chart that explains Autism pretty well. I hope some of you find this helpful. :)

Autism

"Surely I am faking this" I tell myself crying quietly and alone. "I am doing this for attention", I sob.

"surely im faking this," i think, directly experiencing all the symptoms nd not benefiting from it at all

The Ethnic Cleansing of Palestine, by Ilan Pappé (2006)

Just a reminder that Israel was built, by design, on ethnic cleansing.

Oh no I did something maybe possibly irritating or weird.

Now I will weird out us both while I additionally withdraw because I start overwhelming myself.

sorry for ignoring you ive been going insane

My self-enrichment program:

Always be massively self aware

Simplify myself until I can no longer over few months

Explode for few years until I almost no longer understand myself

Repeat

Always keep and row, row to where the heart you takes, ask your soul for clues

curious. anyway,