Todays The Day!!!

my first offical drawing of ’23 had to be wenclair

eventually you realize you don’t want to die. you just don’t want to live the life you’re living. and slowly you try to create a life you want to live. just gotta start there.

So, this week I ordered a new couch pillow because I had a husband pillow full of shredded memory foam, and the thing needs to be opened and shifted around about once a week with the way I use it so it doesn't shape up weird and actually fuck up my back when I bought it to NOT fuck up my back.

I now have a wedge pillow, made of one piece of foam. And I ordered a book cushion from etsy, and I just wanna say to anyone who has thought "that adaptive thing seems like it would be useful, but I'm not disabled, so maybe it's not for me?"

It's for you. Trust me. My back hurt because I was slouching weird on the couch. I got a husband pillow. It helped a lot. But, it turns out, what I need is one giant piece of memory foam, not a bunch of tiny bits.

And the book cushion? Books are heavy sometimes. Being able to rest it higher in my lap so it's easier to read and hold? Better for my body.

Also, do you wake up with pain in the mornings? Try a contour pillow and a knee pillow.

Get those extra-strong treaded soles to wear with your heels because you wobble otherwise.

Wear compression gloves when you type. Get those orthopedic shoes because you can walk longer distances in more comfort. Buy the bra that actually supports the weight of your boobs. Get a lapdesk for your computer. Use a neck pillow even at home to keep your neck straight. Wear socks to bed. Listen to audiobooks. Read large print books.

You see something that you think will work for you and improve how you feel? Use it! Let's fucking normalize adaptative shit for everyone!

Allistic people really need to stop phrasing requests as questions because it's fucking with me

"Do you want to help me cook dinner?"

No, I'm still overwhelmed from earlier and want to stay in my room.

"well fine, dinner will be ready when it's done." And now they're upset with me

And I'm just here like ???????

I am not responsible for who I become when hyperfixating

Enid's dog smile 🐶

AO3 is down for maintenance, and we're all being so brave* about it.

*crying about it on Tumblr dot com

This is literally why I write what I usually describe as sapphic smut, but is actually closer to the classic fantasy stories from 80′s and 90′s that initially (and unhealthily) shaped my perspectives on romance and fiction. What I write (professionally) has a bit more sex and romance than those, but with an actually diverse cast, in regards to gender/sexuality/race. However, I only describe it as smut because most people treat it as such, since it isn’t cis/het sex, causing it to be treated as effectively pornographic in nature, which, in a vacuum, I’m not upset about, BUT, if I were to provide the exact same sex scene to the exact same publisher with only the pronouns changed, a scene involving a cis/het man and cis/het woman is treated as nothing to look twice at, whereas the same scene with a transwoman and cis woman is, for some fucking reason, treated as hardcore pornography unfit for the general public.

My actual heartfelt dream is to be able to write stories that help people of all kinds to understand what it really feels like to fall in love and continue to be loved, sexually, romantically, or platonically, in a healthy and happy way. If I could help every person in the world to understand what it feels like to fall asleep in the arms of your lover, feeling nothing but safety and comfort, I would happily give my life.

Writer and RiteGud co-host Raquel S Benedict criticizing sanitized portrayals of queerness in media.