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So you want to talk dirty but you have no clue what to say?

Dirty talk is an awesome way to explore your fantasies in a safe environment, but it can also be a daunting task if you’re not used to expressing your sexuality in such an explicit way.

What do you say? How do you say it? And how do you know he’ll like it?

Diclaimer: the following advice reflects our kinks and likes but the principles can be used for any fantasy you want to talk dirty about. We’re very much into hotwifing both of us. Basically he enjoys to watch me being fucked by a hung guy. He’s not into humiliation or being put down, but he do like to hear that another man can give me just as much pleasure as him, sometimes even more. For me, I enjoy walking that fine line where he’s a mix of horny and jealous. I want him to be horny thinking of me cumming over and over again, but I also love to know that it does sting a little bit when I tell him that a bigger dick can turn me into an obedient little slut and make me cum instantly.

Some safety rules.

First thing first. We don’t want your dirty talk to turn into a stupid argument, so let’s get some safety rules down first.

• Talk about what he like and doesn’t like beforehand. What I’m writing in this post is based on our likes and kinks, and they are not universal guidelines. You should always talk to your husband and find out exactly what it is he would love to hear from you. It’s important to keep this conversation non-sexual, so you get an honest answer, not a horny answer.

• What is said in dirty talk might not reflect real life. This goes both ways. Dirty talk is a great way to explore fantasies and boundaries, but not everything said when you’re raging horny is valid when you’re not. If something is said that surprises you, talk about it after. And remember, you’re going make him REALLY horny, so he might express fantasies or thoughts that is just that - fantasies and thoughts, and not necessarily something he wants to act on. In the same way you need to be clear about how you’re also just exploring your own fantasies as well as his, and might say something in the heat of the moment that you don’t necessarily mean or want to act out in real life.

• This is dirty talk, not a lie detector test. You’re allowed to exaggerate to increase his enjoyment, but I strongly advise you to reveal the truth after he’s had his orgasm so you won’t create a distorted image in his head.

What dirty talking is not

Dirty talking is not overthinking how to phrase the perfect sentence. In fact, once you start articulating your husband’s fantasies, I guarantuee he will be so horny he couldn’t care less how well you phrase it. Just the fact that you’re talking about his fantasies means that he’s too busy trying to keep his orgasm back to even care. Just relax and say something. Anything.

Don’t rush it

The goal with dirty talking is of course to make your husband have an amazing orgasm, but do not rush it!

I’ll dare say that for your husband the process and the talk itself is way more exciting than his orgasm. So take your time and let him  enjoy and simmer in it.

Don’t worry about repeating yourself

You might be thinking “but I already told him that story 3 times, I can’t think of something new”. Don’t worry about that, just tell it again. Trust me.

And now…. Without further ado here are my secret dirty talking methods that’ll make your husband lose his mind.

And then what

I find that the biggest obstacle in dirty talking is how to start it. That first thing you break the ice with. It can feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll quickly get the hang of it. I’m a big fan of something I call the and then what technique. Basically you just start with a rather innocent question or statement and then evolve into the next natural thing that would happen. So you say something, and then pretend someone asks you “and then what” and then you answer that question.

So let’s pretend for a second you’re on top of your man, riding him cowgirl style and you want to spice it up a little.

Simply starting with a “you like the way I fuck you?” Is enough to break that awkward ice. He’ll answer yes of course. And then what? “then imagine how Mark (using names of actual guys you know works amazingly) would feel if I fucked him like this”

And then what?

“I would bounce up and down his cock just like this. He’ll get to feel how tight your wife’s pussy is”

And then what?

“then I want him to….”

You get it.

Reliving the past

My husband is very much into hearing stories about guys I used to fuck so this one is his favorite type of dirty talk. The way it goes is when I give him a handjob, blowjob or even ride him, I would say something like “you like the way I stroke your dick?” (asking if he likes it is always a great way to break the ice and initiate dirty talk without feeling awkward). This always gets me a very enthustiastic “YES!” to which I answer something like “this is exactly how I used to stroke [name of guy I used to fuck]’s cock…” (pause for dramatic effect) “except… His was a lot bigger than yours”. This line alone is usually enough to almost bring him over the edge, and if not it’s a great way to go into more details - how did it feel to stroke a much bigger dick, would you do it again, perhaps the guy used to get so horny that he would fuck you before you could finish the handjob, etc. Details, details, details, I can’t stress it enough.

Fair warning: not everyone is into hearing about your past! Make sure your husband is into that before springing this on him.

The commentator

This one is super easy because you don’t feel like you’re talking dirty, you’re just saying what’s on your mind. So the way it works is to watch porn with your man and simply make comments about the movie paying. Particularly about the guy and what you like about him. Compliment his dick, go into details about what you like about him, think out loud like “I really wish I could get fucked like that one day” / “look how big his dick is. He would make me cum so fast with that”

If you’ve fucked someone who reminds you of the guy, by all means tell your husband about it. Watching a porn with a guy who’s fucking some girl senseless and hearing your wife drop the bomb that the guy is the exact same size as some dude she dated in college is a sure way to make your husband look at the porn and all he will see is you being fucked right there on the screen. Very hot for both of you.

The yes ladder

This is a really simple but very effective technique that is easy for new dirty talkers and is guarantueed to drive him crazy.

In a nutshell what you do is ask him some questions that all leads to a yes. With each question the intensity in what you’re asking increases. There’s something crazy hot about this almost confessional way of talking dirty and being “forced to admit” your deepest fantasies. This is a great way to get yourself going, and to test out boundaries.

Optional: let him know ahead of time that you’re going to ask him questions and if he says no just once, he don’t get to cum. See what he’s willing to say yes to - just remember these are forced and horny yesses expressing what he likes in the heat of the moment. They don’t necessarily count in real life.

Example of a yes ladder.

“you like this huh”

“would you like it if i did this to another guy?”

“would you let me pick any guy i want?”

“what if i want a guy who’s bigger than you, would you allow that?”

“do you want him to fuck me hard?”

“what if he makes me cum really hard, can you handle that?”

“what if he makes me scream out his name, can you still handle it?”

“can I fuck him right here in our bed?”

“would you allow me to fuck someone I’ve dated before?”

“even if he really knows how to fuck me good?”

“what if I want him to fuck me while you wait in the other room, will you do that?”

You get it, just continue like this. Make the questions increasingly more provocative and test his boundaries, maybe even cross them if you know he can handle it.

The O-bomb

This method works extremely well if you’ve been teasing and playing with him for a while, keeping him right on the edge and he’s SO close now that you can make him cum any second.

All there is to it is asking him “do you want to cum?” he’ll answer yes almost pleading. And that’s when you drop the O-bomb. The O-bomb is some of the blue thought you put into his head and force him to cum to before he can even react.

For example: he just said yes he wants to cum. You then say “good. I want you to cum while you think of me cumming all over (name)’s big dick” and then you simply force him to cum before he even gets a chance to react. As he’s cumming you keep feeding him the thought over and over until he’s done. “yes, cum while you imagine how he makes me scream” etc.

The story

My personal favorite. One thing is to talk about imaginary stuff that could maybe some day happen. Another is to talk about stuff that actually already happened simply by telling him a story about some incredible hot sex you’ve had, either because the circumstances where hot, because the guy knew what he was doing and fucked your brains out or the guy happened to be seriously hung.

This is also super simple for you because you dont have to make anything up, you simply just tell what happened and describe the situation.

Don’t worry about elaborate descriptions or anything. Trust me he’ll ask you to elaborate when he hears something he likes. Just describe what happened and how it felt for you. Especially the “how it felt” part is very important.

The talk

Now in the safety rules i told you to talk about what he likes and dislikes without touching him so his arousal won’t reflect his answers. This time you do the exact opposite. Simply have a conversation about what he likes while slowly touching his dick. There’s something really hot about just talking while casually stroking him. And you’ll be able to measure his response simply by the way his dick throbs, which is incredibly hot.

How to start it: just casually ask him a question about his likes and as he answers you slowly start touching him while asking him more questions.

The close your eyes and imagine

Sometimes it can be a lot easier if your husband can’t see you when you talk dirty.

Example:

“close your eyes. Do you like my hands on. Your dick? Now imagine i was doing this to another guy. Stroking his big dick just like this. I would be so turned on knowing it isn’t you. My pussy would want to feel him inside me. Imagine how he would push me down and fuck me. Imagine how i would gasp when he starts to stretch me. How I would scream when he goes deeper than you.”

Do you see how the above also make use of the and then what technique to tell the next part of the story?

Putting it all together

Now, I know reading about it and actually doing it is two very different things. When you’re first starting out I actually advice you to plan out your dirty talking. This might not be as sexy and spontaneous, but while you’re still getting the hang of it it’s nice to be a little prepared so you don’t run out of things to say. I would also advice you to start off doing it while giving a handjob, as you will have a much easier time focusing on what to say than if you were giving a blowjob or having sex.

Let’s break the ice with an innocent “do you like the way it feels when I stroke your cock?”

When he says yes I would then say something like “good…. Now close your eyes” wait for him to do it.

Then: “would you like it if I did this to another man?” - “yes”

Then: “you know, [name of ex / bull / fantasy guy] used to love when I stroked his dick. Of course his was a lot bigger than yours, I could barely close my hand around it”

Then: “do you like that, thinking about how I used to stroke his big cock?” - “yes”

Then: “having that big cock in my hands always made me feel so tiny and horny”

Then: “do you want me to show you how I used to suck him?” - “yes”. Then put all your effort into giving the best head you have ever given.

Then: “mmh… Can you imagine how good his cock must have felt in my mouth? I used to suck him just like that until he came in my mouth”.

By now he should be getting pretty close, so it’s time put on the finale. Ask him “do you want to cum?” - “yes”. Start stroking him faster.

“tell me…” - make him say that he wants to cum.

“I want you to cum while you think of me getting fucked by [name]. He would always make me cum so hard. Imagine how I used to scream his name” - if you really want to go all out you could start moaning the name of this other guy, whether that’s your bull, an old fling, your husband’s friend or who ever you like to fantasize about.

Do you see how easy it flows from do you like it, to imagine it’s someone else, to describing how you used to do or would do it on someone else?

With time it will come naturally and you won’t have to plan ahead, but to begin with it’s nice to have an idea of how you want to start it, how you want to end it and how you bridge that gap.

There you have it. My secrets to driving your husband wild. Now go… Make him lose it.

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Approaching Your Partner...

This might be the tough part for most people…

You might know what you like, and know what sensations you want to try out. Perhaps you saw some porn that seemed really up your alley in all sorts of surprising ways. But none of that matters if you can’t bring it up with your partner and have it done to you!

Why are we afraid of approaching our partners, and why are we shy in a way that we normally wouldn’t be?

Because we are afraid of them judging us. Rather than attempt to convince you from this fear, I’ll just say this: they’ve seen you naked and know what your orgasm face looks like. They’ve already judged you and are still having sex with you. They know that people like different things and that vanilla missionary sex isn’t ideal for everyone.

If you’re with a good partner, you won’t be judged for wanting to try something new. They should actually encourage openness, expressiveness, and hearing your true feelings and preferences.

And that should run both ways. Remind thеm thаt уоu аrеn’t thеrе tо judgе thеm аnd you might even want to reveal something vulnerable about yourself to set the open and non-judgmental tone.

Thе bеѕt wау tо bring thе tорiс up is not in a rеhеаrѕеd fоrm, it iѕ bеѕt if it iѕ brоught uр inсidеntаllу and ѕоmеwhаt ѕроntаnеоuѕlу. Spontaneously as in mentioned in an offhand manner, not that you won’t have rehearsed it.

There is a big difference between: “Hey, sit down. We need to talk about something.” Versus a casual: “Hey, I just heard about this. What do you think?”

If you want to be slightly more indirect and feel safer doing this, you should concoct a story about the kink or spice that you want to introduce into your sex life.

“I just read about this kink… what do you think?”

or

“My friend just told me he did this… what do you think?”

Thаt way, you aren’t making a ѕuggеѕtiоn, уоu are ѕеtting it аѕ a probable venture, аnd уоu can gаugе thе reaction of уоur раrtnеr tо уоur ѕtоrу. Gently probe their reaction and see how open they might be to it.

When introducing your ideas, however you do it, the key is to not be aggressive or 100% excited and forward about it. This might make them feel forced to do it, even if they aren’t interested in it, if they see how strongly you want something. Don’t push too hard, because then it will cause one party to be happy and the other party be to silent and resentful.

That’s another reason why bringing it up spontaneously and not as a sit-down topic is better. Just put it out there and see how they feel about it without any pressure or expectation from you. The last thing you want your partner to feel is pressure or expectation. It’s uncomfortable and downright unsexy.

It’s also worth repeating that you hаvе tо сrеаtе a ѕаfе ѕрасе for them tо talk аbоut whаt thеу wаnt, givе them еnоugh timе tо think оn your ѕееming рrороѕаl, and рrоvidе thеm the best еnvirоnmеnt fоr their dесiѕiоn tо be mаdе in.

No pressure in any of those stages.

Then, givе thеm thе opportunity tо save fасе and let you (or themselves) down gracefully if they ultimately decide not to engage in what’s proposed. You want the decision to be 100% on them – but it’s a delicate balance because you’ve also implied that you have needs that aren’t being satisfied, so there must be some degree of compromise.

To make them feel invоlvеd and аррrесiаtеd, you can gо tо a ѕеx shop where a lоt оf products related tо sexual оr еrоtiс еntеrtаinmеnt - ѕuсh аѕ vibrаtоrѕ, lingerie, аnd оthеr rеlаtеd рrоduсtѕ - are рut on display аnd ѕоld.

Yоu can gо there tоgеthеr fоr fun and just see whаt thеу think about ѕuсh thingѕ. Again, you are gauging their reactions. A sex ѕhор makes аvаilаblе аll sorts of inanimate оbjесtѕ that can bring a willing human bеing intо the ѕеvеnth hеаvеn. Yоu should definitely bе рrоfiсiеnt in mаttеrѕ of sex ѕhорѕ аnd whаt thеу оffеr for members оf thе populace whо аrе соnсеrnеd with, аnd involved in, matters оf thе еrоtiс. It should be one of the first steps in your researching of kink and spice.

Another way to approach your partner is to show thеm a pornographic video thаt you hаvе fаllеn in lоvе with, serve as a bare-minimum соmmеntаtоr throughout thе durаtiоn of thе mоviе, раѕѕing соmmеntѕ and mаking sure they аrе аbѕоrbing it, ѕо the venture wоn’t be a waste. Dоn’t tаlk too muсh, do nоt bоrе thеm with уоur wоrdѕ, аnd dо nоt diѕtrасt them from whаt уоu want thеm tо ѕее. Sее whаt thеу have tо say with rеgаrdѕ to thе роrnоgrарhiс video you juѕt showed thеm. Show them and see if they are intrigued or at least open.

Onсе уоu аrе аblе to сrеаtе a safe space whеrе you can tаlk аbоut these mаttеrѕ, you ѕhоuld uѕе a ѕitе like mоjоuрgrаdе.соm, which lеtѕ уоu fill out fеtiѕhеѕ and kinks аnd mаtсhеѕ uр thе оnеѕ both you аnd уоur раrtnеr choose. More importantly, it does not list the fetishes and kinks that only one person has listed. Therefore, it is a completely safe way to say what you want because they won’t see what you’ve marked if they haven’t also marked it.

It’s something I recommend to all of my clients and I’m shocked something like this hadn’t been invented earlier!

Mojo Upgrade, and your own exploration, can help, but before you approach your partner, you should probably create two lists. The first is “HARD NO’S” – non-negotiables, not to be done under any circumstance. Everything else is negotiable depending on your partner’s needs.

The second list is desired outcomes – what is the exact act you want to introduce into your sex life? Make sure you know these things before going in to keep it as clear and productive as possible!

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Hotwife Quotes to Fire Up Your Relationship and Spice Things Up!

Hotwife quotes provide a unique perspective on relationships, marriage and love. They offer insight into the minds of those who are in committed relationships where one partner is allowed to explore sexual experiences outside the relationship. Hotwife quotes can be inspiring for couples looking to spice up their marriage or for individuals seeking an alternative lifestyle.

1. “There’s something about being a hotwife that just feels so naughty and fun!”

2. “A hotwife is a woman who enjoys the attention of other men, but stays loyal to her husband.”

3. “If you’re not married, don’t try to be a hotwife. You need permission from the husband first!”

4. “I like to think of myself as a modern-day hotwife!”

5. “Hotwives are wild and free, but always remain faithful to their husbands!”

6. “It takes two people in an open marriage to make it work—and lots of trust!”

7. “Sharing my wife with other men is an exciting and liberating experience!”

8. “The most important thing about being a hotwife is to keep the trust between husband and wife.”

9. “A hotwife can really spice up a relationship—for both parties!”

10. “My hotwife has been a great way for us to explore our own sexual desires in new ways.”

11. “It’s not just about sex, it’s also about trust and mutual respect between two partners.”

12. “When I see my hotwife looking so beautiful, it fills me with pride that she chose me as her partner.”

13. “We don’t have to be conventional; there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships!”

14. “Every day is a new adventure with my hotwife.”

15. “Having a hotwife is an amazing opportunity to explore our sexuality and discover new heights of pleasure!”

16. “Being the husband of a hotwife has been the most liberating experience I’ve ever had.”

17. “The thought of sharing my wife is thrilling and really turns me on!”

18. “My hotwife and I have been able to build a strong relationship that allows freedom but also loyalty.”

19. “There’s nothing like watching your hotwife get her groove on with another man!”

20. “Exploring the world of hotwifing can be a journey of discovery for both partners.”

21. “The key to having a successful hotwife relationship is communication and understanding each other’s boundaries.”

22. “My wife and I have found that being open about our feelings has helped to strengthen our marriage.”

23. “It takes confidence and courage to be a hotwife, but the rewards are worth it!”

24. “There’s something exciting and mysterious about being a hotwife that keeps me coming back for more!”

25. “As long as my wife and I are on the same page, we can explore this lifestyle to our heart’s content!”

26. “Being a hotwife means you can enjoy all that life has to offer without compromising your commitment to each other.”

27. “My wife is an amazing hotwife; she knows how to have fun while respecting my boundaries.”

28. “We make sure that we take time for ourselves as individuals in order for our relationship as a hotwife couple to thrive.”

29. “Our hotwifing journey has been extremely rewarding, discovering new levels of intimacy within our marriage.”

30. “The trust between us is stronger than ever since introducing the hotwife lifestyle!”

31. “The number one rule for being a hotwife is to be honest and open about your feelings with your partner.”

32. “It’s all about having fun, but also making sure that everyone feels safe and respected.”

33. “Having the support of my husband has allowed me to explore my wilder side as a hotwife!”

34. “My wife and I have found that our relationship has become even more connected as we experiment with this lifestyle.”

35. “Being a hotwife gives us both the freedom to express our true desires in a secure environment.”

36. “It can be nerve-wracking at first, but with trust and communication it can be an incredibly rewarding experience!”

37. “My husband and I have found that the hotwife lifestyle has only brought us closer together.”

38. “The key to a successful hotwifing relationship is mutual respect and understanding between partners.”

39. “We may explore different kinds of activities, but we will always remain faithful to each other!”

40. “I’m proud to be a part of this amazing journey as my wife’s loving and supportive husband!”

41. “My hotwife and I have been able to explore each other’s limits while respecting our boundaries.”

42. “We don’t take ourselves too seriously; it’s all about having fun and expanding our horizons as a couple!”

43. “We feel empowered by the fact that we can both be adventurous in our marriage without fear of judgement or criticism.”

44. “The more we explore the hotwife lifestyle, the more we learn about ourselves and each other!”

45. “My wife is my biggest inspiration, pushing me to reach new heights of pleasure and connection through this journey.”

46. “Our relationship has grown stronger since introducing the hotwife lifestyle, and I couldn’t be prouder!”

47. “The hotwife lifestyle is a beautiful experience that I would recommend to any couple looking to take their relationship to the next level!”

48. “My wife and I are making memories together that will last us a lifetime.”

49. “We can both express our deepest desires in an environment of trust and understanding – all thanks to the hotwife lifestyle.”

50. “My wife is my everything, and being able to share her with others has been an incredible journey for the both of us!”

Hotwife quotes can be a great source of inspiration and motivation for any couple who is looking to spice up their relationship. Whether you’re just starting out or have been in the lifestyle for years, these words from experienced hotwives are sure to provide insight into what it takes to make your marriage thrive.

Take time to reflect on each quote and apply its wisdom directly to your own life, you may find that it helps bring more passion and connection than ever before! With the right attitude and approach, being part of an open marriage can be incredibly rewarding both emotionally and physically. So don’t hesitate start exploring today!