psst in finland this was a thing (enforced sterilisation). you needed it to legally change your gender and often also to get your diagnosis -> hormones. horrific doesn’t describe it well enough and i’m probably one of the first generations of (transgender) finns who wont need to be sterilised forcibly. it also enabled a friend of mine to change their passport marking as a minor without any of that. also, to get sterilised in finland you either need to be 30 or have 3 kids. so they really set that bar lower for us haha
To all the transfems that bring up forced sterilisation when a transmasc talks about forced impregnating and a loss of bodily autonomy: stop.
Transmascs also face forced and coerced sterilisation. In many places, it’s only recently that any trans person can change their legal gender without being sterilised. This is not a problem specific to transfems.
The issue is more complicated for trans people who can give birth (including some intersex transfems) because cis people want them to become baby machines so bad. This introduces more barriers when somebody wants to make certain legal and medical decisions for themselves!
All trans people are directly victimised by a restriction of reproductive autonomy. But the issue tends to be more central for trans people who can give birth, since giving birth is nearly a year-long process that can ruin your life and health. Being forcibly sterilised often is less focal in transmasc activism because, especially as people who might have dysphoria around getting pregnant, being forced to endure that for months, being forced to have permanent and sometimes harmful alterations to your body made, being forced to go through an incredibly painful process where they will almost certainly be repeatedly misgendered, being forced to produce a living being you never wanted to produce, etc., might seem like a worse fate than never being able to have kids in the first place.
This is not me saying one group or another has it worse! And I am not downplaying the pain of transfems (or trandmascs) who were forcibly sterilised. It is still a very serious issue that can cause a lot of pain for many.
But this is me saying that this specific issue is one that much more often impacts transmascs. And if it is not something you will ever be at risk of experiencing, then you have no business taking about how “bad” it would be or comparing the issue to some “equivalent” transfem problem.
Bigotry often does not have perfect equivalents. Transmisogyny and transandrophobia are distinct forces of oppression. Just because one group experience one type of problem doesn’t mean they’re More Oppressed or something. I say this as somebody who experiences both. It’s ridiculous to compare a trandandrophobia-specific problem to a general trans problem or a transmisogyny-specific problem because they just manifest differently. Neither is worse or better. They don’t have perfect equivalents. Don’t let your mind be tainted by oppositional sexism and give your fellow trans people room to discuss their fears and anxieties and experiences with issues that are unique to them.
the US education system isn't even that bad. many countries have objectively worse-funded education systems, but don't display the same belligerent idiocy as them. the fundamental issue is that USAmericans have no real reason to care about the rest of the world, as it will never meaningfully affect their lives unless they decide to go on vacation or take part in an invasion. their lack of intellectual curiosity is because the rest of the world never really registers as a real place.
transmascs have historically been erased by claims of them simply being women trying to escape oppression, and what is the discourse going on right now? oh that transmascs are actually just cis women trying to escape oppression, and being transmasc is somehow a more privileged position? thats interesting isnt it
Are fedoras really that bad?
YES YES THEY ARE
don’t think i ever posted these two but.. dragon lesbians
Eminence is a firescales caretaker and ex-animus. Like, ehh, fluttershy from mlp? but for kids that literally set everything ablaze when they touch it?
Executioner wasp is an ex-soldier from bloodworm hive. Those scars are from her dad (he was not happy about her lack of stripes). As is visible, she has no black scales; her grandpa was a silkwing :)
I gotta outline the problems I have with terminally online people being so damn adamant about putting terms like “TME” or “transmisogyny exempt” in their bios, because as much as I just wanna yell “fuck off with that shit” at the people who insist on making this a thing, I haven’t really found a post wrapping up all the problems with this in an easy to understand way. And that’s a problem of its own, because people are so fucking afraid and otherwise discouraged from questioning any new “progressive” online discourse stance that gains traction and risk getting ostracized from the communities they’ve come to depend on.
For those people, have some food for thought.
Firstly, aside from like some people of color denoting that they’re white-passing (which is an entirely different bag of worms), the vast majority of abouts, bios, what have yous that denote your identity Do Not contain a disclaimer list of your privileges. Saying shit like “transmasc, TME” is about as “redundant” (I’ll get to that) as saying “able-bodied, able-minded, ableism exempt” and therefore unnecessary. Except it’s not just unnecessary - and this is likely why some people so deep into discourse culture insist on using it - it serves to downplay your experiences as a trans person and feeds directly into oppression olympics politics.
If your marginalized identity has to constantly be paired with “I don’t actually have it as bad as these other marginalized people though”, you’re creating an unconscious divider between yourself and people who are actually in a decently similar boat that you are, as well as creating a reminder of “I don’t actually have it that bad” which very quickly evolves into “my experiences as a marginalized individual aren’t valid enough” and that can lead to “so it’s okay if I start getting excluded from communities I thought I was supposed to belong in”. It’s a divisionist, exclusionist method of thinking and serves to weaken our community, whether the people participating in this practice aim to do so or not.
And even if all that wasn’t an issue, the practice shouldn’t even have legs to stand on because no the fuck you’re not exempt from transmisogyny because that’s not how bigotry actually works. Bigotry, in real life, does not attack based on how you identify, for the most part, it attacks based on how you are perceived. Believe it or not, cishet and straight trans people are not exempt from being affected by homophobia. Cishet and cis gay people are not exempt from being affected by transphobia. There are many more examples I could give but I’d start derailing. Point is, marginalized people, ESPECIALLY queer people, have SO many overlapping experiences based on how they’re perceived by their oppressors - and it’s why dividing up the community so staunchly is a bad thing.
If you’re transmasc and visibly aren’t performing your gender properly (which HEAVILY varies from bigot to bigot so don’t even bring passing privilege into this) and are attacked for it, you don’t actually know if it was transmisandry or transmisogyny at play just because YOU know how YOU identify. And your online discourse buddies don’t know, either, no matter what they try to tell you. That’s just the reality of how marginalization works.
Please, just stop drinking this koolaid. For the sake of yourself and others. For the sake of being real about how the world works. Just label yourself as transmasc and literally anyone who is capable of critical thought can then go “hm, it’s probable that they don’t have the exact 1:1 life experiences a trans woman does” if that thought’s even applicable. I’m begging yalls to give this one some more thought before digging your heels in.
Tme this, tma that.
I'm intersex and i want you to stop being transphobic (yes, using these terms seriously is transphobic, even if you are trans) and intersexist
And stop saying someone talking about issues they are facing shouldnt happen cause you are facing issues. We are all in this together. Or do you want the bigots to win?
Opposites might make mortal enemies.
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