It’s Raining Outside Do You Wanna Come Over And Cuddle Until We Don’t Know Where You Start And I

im 19 :)

i'm a bit new to the whole dom/sub thing- i know id be submissive and all, but i tend to be extremely sarcastic and i struggle taking things seriously and focusing in on stuff. it's not that i don't want to submit, i just tend to struggle with letting myself. and when things do get serious, i tend to panic and make a lot of jokes and quips to try and lighten the mood / get out of the situation. im a bit worried that if i did end up in a dom/sub relationship, that my panic attitude would be mistaken for brattiness or disobedience. i really want to be obedient and be able to submit to someone, i just don't know how to let myself and to be honest im kind of scared.

also- i'm not sure why but sometimes i get these really intense like submissive urges (?) and my thoughts get all foggy. it usually results in me having a mental breakdown and cuddling a stuffy and crying. do you know what that is / why it happens?

- 🦊

Hello, my lovely little fox,

Thank you so much for sharing your age. That fox is all yours now, for as long as you want it.

Now, let me just say how brave and self-aware you are for sharing all of this information about you with me. It takes a tender kind of courage to speak so honestly about the things you’re feeling, especially when they feel big or confusing. I see you, I’m proud of you.

Let’s start with that wonderful, sarcastic streak of yours. I think it’s important to say this right away: submission doesn’t mean becoming someone else. It’s not about shutting off your personality or “performing” submission in one rigid way. Some submissives are quiet and still. Others are cheeky, giggly, sarcastic, or even a little chaotic. All are valid.

What you’re describing; using humor and quips as a way to cope or deflect when things get intense, is something so many people experience, especially if they’re sensitive, neurodivergent, anxious, or have trauma responses. It’s not disobedience. It’s not brattiness. It’s your system saying, “This feels too much, too fast, and I need a way out.” That’s not wrong, that’s information. And the right Dominant will see that.

A good D/s relationship isn’t about forcing obedience. It’s about building trust. Softly. Gently. At your pace. It’s about learning how your mind and body respond, and creating a space where submission feels safe, not scary.

And those foggy, overwhelming moments you mentioned? Where you get hit with a wave of submissive urges and then end up crying with your stuffy?

Sweetheart… that sounds like emotional drop, or possibly even a kind of “sub drop” without the scene. When your body wants to submit, when your need feels so strong and unfulfilled, it can create this buildup of intensity that doesn't know where to go. And when there’s no release, no container, no soft voice to catch you, it crashes inward. That’s not weird or wrong. That’s your heart asking for connection, for safety, for someone to hold all that intensity and tell you, “You’re okay. You’re safe. I’ve got you.”

You’re not broken, little fox. You’re sensitive. And that is a beautiful thing.

You don’t have to “get it right.” You don’t need to be perfectly obedient, serious, or quiet. You just need someone who sees you, sarcasm, panic, soft heart, foggy thoughts, and all, and builds something gentle and real with you.

Submission doesn’t have to be scary. It can be a warm place to land.

And if you ever need someone to remind you that it’s okay to feel things deeply, I’m right here.

xo Jade 

it's like i'm lying

in the bottom

of an empty well

and i'm so certain that

i could cry enough tears

to fill it back up

and swim myself out

but i just... lie there instead.

some days i don't even

feel worthy of drowning.

-mars

soulmate (n.)

A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet – a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, strong and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior. Your soulmate understands and connects with you in every way and on every level, which brings a sense of peace, calmness and happiness when you are around them. And when you are not around them, you are all that much more aware of the harshness of life, and how bonding with another person in this way is the most significant and satisfying thing you will experience in your lifetime. You are also all that much aware of the beauty in life, because you have been given a great gift and will always be thankful.

something about her thumb in my mouth while we fuck in missionary

are you tired? come baby, rest on my chest. i'll caress your hair while you sleep

yes yes mean scary sadists are great but what about sadists that smile and sweet talk you while they wreck your shit? sadists that speak in a sing songy voice while making you cry, sadists that giggle when you beg for mercy, sadists that can't help but express joy while they're making you suffer, sadists that strike fear in your heart every time you see their wicked grins?

low stakes prompts for enemies (to friends or lovers, if you wish)

Person A has a tendency to give long, dramatic speeches and person B has a tendency to fall asleep during them

Person A: "Don't you know who I am?" Person B: "Yup. Still don't care."

Person A: "WHY ARE YOU BEING SO MEAN?" Person B: "Have you met you?"

Person A sprinkles lies into conversations throughout the story. Person B pulls out a notebook every time to keep a record of it.

Person A writes the rules. Person B breaks them all.

Person A thinks Person B is full of shit but can't say so to their face because of reasons.

Person A likes to work slowly and methodically, crossing their T's and dotting their i's. Person B constantly interrupts them and makes their work impossible.

Person A and B finish a group project together. Later, Person B goes back and makes changes. When A finds out, there's trouble!

Person A hovers just a few inches away from Person B and says, "I'm not touching you!"

Person A is starving and goes to the snack machine, just in time to see Person B taking the very last one of A's favourite item.

Persons A and B are on public transit together and A is listening to their music without any headphones on. Person B really hates that song.

Person A lives upstairs from Person B and it constantly sounds like they are either tapdancing or jackhammering.

Person A has no idea what "personal space" is and it annoys the hell out of Person B.

Person A keeps sighing loudly but every time Person B asks what's wrong, they say, "Nothing." Person B doesn't even know why they're bothering.

Persons A and B are roommates for reasons other than their own choosing. They have opposite preferences for: waking and sleeping hours, thermostat settings, volume levels of various entertainment options.

Person A will not stop telling Person B how to do their own damn job and Person B is gonna lose it!

Person A gets rearended by Person B and Person B drives off while giving them the finger.

Person A chews with their mouth open.

Person A will not stop talking to Person B about the zodiac, and Person B finds this annoying. Person B gives Person A the wrong date for B's birthday just to see what happens.

Person A is incredibly popular. Person B thinks that Person A can do no wrong. Person C needs to work with both of them to accomplish a goal. Bonus: C hates A but has a crush on B. Alternate Bonus: C hates A because they have a crush on A that A hasn't noticed. Polyamory bonus: C likes A and B but thinks they're dating each other.