Flr-philosophy - Quintessence Of FLR

FLR doesn't have to be about dressing up. A simple power play interaction where the Goddess asserts her authority and the male is cowed into submission is a great reminder to both of them that a woman is in charge and the man is the one to obey.

"Call me when dinner is ready"

How to be a good husband

Disclaimer: FLRs differ from one another, and this is not by any means meant to apply to everyone.

Show your Wife proper respect

The way you conduct yourself around your Wife is very important. You must make sure that your submission is expressed implicitly, and explicitly in the way you interact with your Wife.

Lowering yourself to greet your Wife is a common and effective show of submission, whether it be: kneeling, bowing, prostrating, etc. Couple this gesture with something along the lines of “How may I serve, Goddess.” Make sure that you do this the moment She enters the room, regardless of what you’re doing, so that She knows you have no priority higher than Her.

In the same vein, keep your head lowered in Her presence after the initial greeting. It helps to cement the mutual understanding that you are beneath Her.

When given an order, act quickly. Show some urgency! Show Her you’re worthy with an enthusiastic “yes, ma’am!” This lets Her know that She is being taken seriously, and that you are paying attention. However, make sure go at a speed where you can still fully control yourself, a clumsy husband is not useful!

When your Wife is scolding you, show Her that you are taking what She says to heart. Make sure your body is facing Her, and nod along. Make sure you acknowledge Her corrections. A sincere “I’m sorry, Goddess” or a “I understand, ma’am,” can go a long way. The best default position for this situation is being on your knees, with your hands folded on your lap, bowing your head. You must make sure She knows you understand and are ashamed of your mistakes, and that you know what you need to fix.

When your Wife raises Her hand, you might flinch, it’s only natural. But never attempt to block Her, or dodge away. These are signs of resistance. DO NOT RESIST YOUR WIFE! You may drop to your knees, but keep your body straight, and your face exposed. Do not beg for mercy, simply apologize for your wrongdoings. You may even want to thank Her for giving you harsh correctional measures! Remember that serving your Wife is your purpose, She is only helping you fulfill that purpose when She punishes you.

Learn what is expected of you

Know what your Wife typically wants from you. You should keep a schedule, it’s unacceptable if She has to remind you to cook dinner everyday. There are certain jobs that you should just do without your Wife having to order you.

Have an idea of what responsibilities you have to attend to. Wake up at the right time to make breakfast fresh, so that it’s hot and ready the moment She wakes up! Know what time She finishes work, and start dinner so that it will be ready when She’s back. Clean, dust, mop, do the menial tasks that your Wife is above.

These are just commonplace duties for a husband, but you must cater to your Wife’s specific expectations as well. Maybe She likes a foot rub while She eats, comply without Her having to command you! Show Her that you are of some worth to Her, that you are capable of serving Her effectively!

Know what you must do on a day-to-day basis, on weekends, and for special occasions. Your Wife should never have to remind you to do something that you do on a regular basis. Your Wife should not have to micromanage you. Understand Her expectations, you should make life more convenient for Her, not more stressful.

Work on your appearance

To start off with the basics, make sure you have proper hygiene and grooming habits. Work these things into your schedule so as not to bother your Wife, preferably when She’s out of the house. Also make sure to know Her preferences! Cut your hair the way She wants, shave however much She prefers, apply whatever cologne She finds appealing.

For clothing, defer to your Wife’s preference. Remember that you don’t have autonomy over the way you present yourself. You belong to you Wife, so must dress the way She wants you to.

This also applies to your figure! Your Wife might want muscle bound, built, toned, thin. Whatever Her preference, work yourself to meet Her standards. Never forget the nature of your relationship with Her, you are property. By allowing Her to dictate the way you look, you are offering another part of you to Her. It is a wonderful sign of devotion, sacrifice, and subservience. Women are above men, we are objects for Women to use as they see fit. 

Go above and beyond

Everyone needs relaxation from time to time, but do not get complacent. If you find that you have a few hours of free time regularly, ask your Wife for more responsibility. Your job is to serve Her, not to sit around.

You might consider getting a part time job. Help pay the bills, it might free up some extra cash so that your Wife can indulge Herself. And you know that She deserves it, so get out there! (As long as you have Her permission).

You could incorporate yardwork and gardening into your schedule, make the house nice and tidy inside and out. Just remember to always run your suggestions past your Wife, She knows better, and you should always defer to Her judgement.

Some situations may call for a bit of initiative. Make sure that when you act outside of both what is routine, and explicit commands, that you should be extra careful. With that warning aside, let’s consider an example. Say your Wife comes home and She’s silent, disgruntled, just generally in a bad mood. She might be hung up on something frustrating that happened during the day. Fetch Her paddle, whip, etc. Crawl to Her, ask if She would like to use you. Let Her take out Her frustrations out on you. Then while She eats your homecooked dinner, rub Her feet, worship Her Pussy, whatever She wants. Let Her know that the moment She comes home, She should feel in charge, and be waited on by an adoring husband.

Be what She wants you to be

This is the golden rule, as the true sign of submission is obedience

The above are general guidelines on how to serve Her properly, but ALWAYS defer to her wishes. It’s fine to have preferences, but remember how meaningless your they are when compared to Hers

Be Strict!

Dominance works best when she is strict about it. Being strict gives her a commanding presence. He can feel her attitude just by looking at her. When she is strict, everything she does is noticed by him, because everything she does matters. Her body language matters, her words matter, her attitude matters. Because he knows that she will enforce her rules if he doesn't pay attention.

Being strict does not necessarily mean, being mean. She can be lovingly strict, and still have no mercy. The most wonderful thing in a FLR is that she never has to settle for less than she wants from him. this doesn't just apply to being sexual. It applies to domestic chores, errands, and the way he worships her. She gets to direct him on every level, and be strict about it.

Body worship for example, can be done with her rules in place. He can only worship certain areas at a time. Perhaps she says feet only for a bit, then maybe it's massage only, hands only, tongue only.... She decides every aspect of the worship that takes place, and for how long.

Domestic chores, are to be done to her standards. He must meet her expectations. The house should be as clean as she expects it to be. No half assing it, no sweeping things under the rug. She will check. As long as she is strict, he will strive to meet her expectations, or face the consequences.

The consequences can take many shapes and forms. They can be having to re-do chores, or being assigned more chores. It doesn't have to be painful involving a pain or a whip, but that is also an option she can opt for, if she feels the need, and wants that type of training in her FLR. She can also be strict about his pleasure. She can take it away as she sees fit. Not allow him access to her pussy.

One of the worst punishments for a submissive, is being denied access to her body. Not even allowed to see her naked. A couple of days of that, and he will be very sorry. He craves her, and being allowed access to her is something he will always strive for. So when she is strict, he knows the stakes, he knows what she may do, and it's just not worth it.

Her attitude really sets the tone here. A no non-sense approach that says, you will submit to me, the way I want you to submit to me, or you will face severe consquences until you do. He will quickly start conforming to her rules and obeying her without any more hesitations. Her attitude, and strictness in this manner will arouse him, but also bring him deeper into obedience.

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