Give & Take & Take & Take

Give & Take & Take & Take

Equal relationships are about give and take. You give a little, you take a little, and you get along. But being with a submissive male is quite different. You see, being submissive means he gets his pleasure from giving only and is quite happy getting very little or nothing in return.

It took me a little while to realize that to give him what he needs and desires, I had to learn to become a taker and to even deny him some things.

To be the woman of his dreams, and fulfill his fantasies, I had to learn to become selfish. I needed to become his superior, make him serve my needs, and to take control of him. He needed and wanted to be pussy whipped by me.

It’s a hard concept to try to understand and for most people it makes no sense. But it is his kink to be used, abused and neglected and I try to do this in a loving and caring way.

That’s why I tend to concentrate on physical control and away from the sadistic abuse you find in most pornography these days. That stuff is brutal and I want no part of it and he doesn’t either.

I think that is why I shied away from dominating him before thinking I would have to do all the beating and torture. All of that stuff is hyped up in the pornography and isn’t necessary at all to be dominant.