🥒 peerlesscucumber
STOP saying Binghe is gay. Actually he's so masculine he's ascended into a new gender binary. He's a sigma male and every other man is a beta which is basically a woman compared to him. In your eyes Binghe is having sex with a man, but to him it's someone who is so far below him in terms of pure raw manliness that it might as well be a woman. Like if I, a man, was fucked by Luo Binghe’s incredible heavenly pillar, I'd probably manage to get pregnant!
🥒 peerlesscucumber
STOP TELLING ME I'M OVULATING.
because I can't find something like this and so I guess I have to make it myself. This is meant for characters on the aromantic or asexual spectrums (grey-ace, demi-ace, romance-favorable, etc.) who are in relationships but doesn't erase that part of their identity
not realizing s/o has a crush on them for *forever* until told explicitly, and being extremely flustered by the attention
s/o giving them time to think through their feelings after the confession, without pressuring them to make a decision
s/o understanding that their affections might not be reciprocated immediately, if at all, and being ok with keeping their relationship as a qpr or a strong friendship in that case.
being unsure if their emotional reaction is anxiety or the "butterflies in your stomach" of a crush
worrying if they'll be a good s/o because they don't "get" romance or sex, but wanting their partner to be happy - needing clear and healthy communication about expectations and boundaries
s/o reassuring them they love them for who they are, and not just what they can do in a relationship
not having a first kiss/first date/first relationship until they're considered a "late bloomer" by allos
learning how to recognize feelings of attraction and being routinely baffled by new emotions (and physical reactions) but enjoying the experience nonetheless
treating "dating" as a vector for reaching marriage, because why would you casually date someone if you don't intend to spend the rest of your life with them? relationships are few and far between, but more serious than their peers (especially in high school/college) (especially especially if raised in a religious household)
slowly testing the waters of physical affection: hand holding -> hugging -> cuddling -> kissing -> etc. and checking that each other are both comfortable at each stage
letting the aspec person initiate the next "level" of intimacy to signal they're ok with that
Alternate ways of showing affection like head butts, linking arms, using s/o as a pillow, kisses but on the hand, shoulder, cheek, etc. instead of lips
boundary levels changing depending on their mood and circumstances
Avoiding PDA, maybe even in front of friends or family because it just feels far far too intimate and awkward
Still gagging at other people's PDA
thinking in terms of "building" or "growing" in love, instead of "falling" in love
it's very important to the aspec one that their relationship doesn't eclipse their other friendships - making the effort to keep in touch, having the s/o be part of the friend group and the friends feel welcomed in their home to avoid 3rd wheel awkwardness
trying (and failing) to flirt with the s/o but its endearing anyhow because the attempt was made
Completely not understanding the premise of "They're a 10 but-" or having a "type", the answer to questions like that being "My type is s/o" or "They're a 0 unless they're s/o"
Part 2 here
romance route unlocked!
based on this post, which seemed like an interaction shen jiu would have
peiquan hehe
Ling-er’s idea of a Christmas gift ;)
(Drew this last year but forgot to post)
Yin Yu. How did you fit in there. Asking for Science
https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGe2k28Xx/
Yin Yu: Shapeshifting is pretty helpful… I’m not a master at it like black water or my lord are ,,, but I can still do things like make myself smaller
Hualian: two guys who seem kinda normal at first blush but then you have a second conversation with them and you realize what absolute freaks they are especially for each other. Luckily they steadfastly refuse to discuss bedroom matters with others (bc you are unworthy)
Wangxian: you meet these two and you’re like oh ok. This one’s the freak and this one’s the guy who keeps him in line. But then as you get to know them you realize more and more that the roles might actually be reversed from your first impression. And THEN you come to the inevitable conclusion that they’re both freaks and nothing is keeping either of them in line except the will to fool others
Bingqiu: hopelessly undisguisable freak4freak. One look at these guys and you know something’s up. You talk to them and just Know that they have kinks you’ve never even heard of nor do you want to. You live in fear of trying to hold a conversation with them.
they’re actively rotting my brain
wait this is the yin yu asks right… ask him what he thinks of lqq 😊
Samantha Jones: aromantic pansexual Carrie Bradshaw: romantic heterosexual commitment-phobe Miranda Hobbs: bisexual Charlotte York: femme lesbian paricipating in comp-het Special Mentions: Trey McDougall: asexual Big: aromantic heterosexual