Nobody Asked For This From A Heavily Romance-saturated Show, But Samantha Jones From Sex And The City

nobody asked for this from a heavily romance-saturated show, but samantha jones from sex and the city is aromantic and i will not stand down on this.  she’s an aroallo icon in a friend group that practically revolves around romantic relationships/endeavours & i think that’s very brave.

first off, while the other three characters basically obsess over dating woes, samantha has zero interest in dating and instead has lots of casual sex, which her friends are tbh judgey about :/ but anyway, samantha says throughout the show that she’s not a relationship person and doesn’t date (or want to date).

she talks about her sexual encounters instead when her friends talk about romance.  if her friends refer to it as dating, she will correct them and say it’s just sex.

she’s extremely dismissive of romance and the pursuit of it.

she doesn’t want anyone she has sex with to get attached to her; it makes her uncomfortable.

she’s repulsed by the idea of marriage and having kids.  while she’s ultimately supportive of her friends when they get married, her gut reaction is firstly disgust and confusion.

she does get into a few relationships in the series, but i don’t think they contradict her aromanticism at all, and here’s why:

most of the time, her sexual relations are entirely sexual–i.e. not even platonic.  she says at one point in the show that women are for friendship and men are for fucking.  it’s a shitty view to have, but this pretty clearly indicates that she doesn’t see the men she has sex with as people she wants to spend time with in a platonic, let alone romantic, context.

the times she finds herself interested in a relationship are the times when she actually does enjoy spending time with them outside of a sexual context/purpose.  i think she mistakes this for romantic attraction because she’s so dismissive of the idea of being friends with men.

she actually dislikes the relationship aspects of a relationship–as examples, she hates emotional intimacy and finds it tedious, and she doesn’t want to centre her life or any decisions or even weekend plans around other people.  she puts herself (and her career, which is her own business) first, always.

she ultimately ends all of these relationships because she’s unhappy in them in some way.  even in the two that were more serious, she tells them “i love you, but i love me more” and breaks it off.  a life in a relationship is not the life she wants for herself.

and she doesn’t end up in a relationship at the end of the series!  there’s no “finding the right person”–it’s herself and her friends.  she remains single and happy, completely subverting the trope that a happy ending = ending up in a relationship.  not only that, but when her friends end up in relationships, they don’t drift away or de-prioritise their friendship, they all remain close!  good for her.

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Tanjirou is really happy to see Tokito again; he seems to be doing great, even after all that happened in the swordsmith village.

And now he can be trained by him, even if it's just for a while; Tanjirou knows he's very talented, he watched him train with the Yoriichi type zero after all.

"Tanjirou!" Tokito beams; his smile becomes impossibly wide and his eyes glimmer with happiness. "I was waiting for you!"

Such undivided attention makes him feel a little bit flustered, especially because the other slayers around are staring from one to the other like they can't believe what's going on.

"I'm glad you're feeling better!" He mumbles after a couple of seconds.

Tokito nods and tells the others they can take a break. Then he approaches Tanjirou immediately and asks him if he's hungry.

They eat together in Tokito's room while the others stay outside.

Since Tanjirou has noticed that none of the other slayers are shirtless, he puts his own uniform back on. Tokito pouts.

"You can train shirtless if you want, Tanjirou!" Tokito says, eyes roaming all over his body; maybe he's making sure Tanjirou doesn't have any injuries or perhaps he's just curious about the new scars.

"No... it's okay," Tanjirou rubs the back of his neck. "I'd feel weird if I'm the only one like that."

"I can ask the others to–"

"No, it's fine!"

The training session is hard, but Tanjirou likes it; he knows he'll become a lot better that way. Besides, Tokito is an excellent teacher.

At night, Tanjirou goes to the room where all the slayers are sleeping and puts his own futon in the middle of the floor.

"Kamado..." one of the slayers whispers shyly, as the ones around look at him with curiosity. "Could you please tell the mist hashira not to be too harsh on us?"

Tanjirou considers it for a couple of seconds, before turning around in his own futon.

"It's also difficult for him because he's training all of us without a break and then he goes out at night. Maybe he's patrolling the area or something, but he must be exhausted too and yet he's doing this for us, to prepare us for what's about to come."

The others listen to him with their undivided attention and nod.

"Well, at least tell him to be kind with his words, please?"

"I could... but I'm not sure he'll listen to me," Tanjirou says. Besides, Tokito has been a lot nicer to him lately... He has made a lot of progress already.

"Are you kidding me? He adores you!"

"He doesn't–" Tanjirou gets cut off by the noise of the sliding door being open and suddenly, Tokito is standing next to him.

"Tanjirou... come with me," Tokito says, grabbing him by his shirt. "I can't sleep alone."

"Alright..." Tanjirou smiles, thinking about how much Tokito has suffered before becoming a hashira, maybe he misses his family. He understands that completely.

He's about to grab his futon when Tokito takes him in his arms, giggling and carries him towards his room.

"But my futon!"

"Mine is big enough for both of us!" Tokito smiles again, fluttering his eyelashes at Tanjirou.

It's true that his futon is a little bit bigger than the others, but they have to lie really close to each other anyway.

It's alright because Tokito seems to enjoy cuddling with Tanjirou. He buries his face in the curve of the redhead's neck and nuzzles against him every now and then as he purrs like a very content cat.

Tanjirou is happy to help; he even runs his fingers through the Pillar's hair until they both fall asleep.

When he wakes up, Tokito is walking back into the room with breakfast; he looks impossibly happy and even kisses Tanjirou's forehead before kneeling next to him to eat.

Tanjirou wonders why they don't eat with the others, but he's too hungry to ask at the moment.

They dress and go back outside only to see the others are already stretching; Tokito keeps a hand on his waist the whole time and for some reason the others get flustered when they notice it.

"Good morning!" Tokito smiles at them, shocking them for a second; usually he only smiles at Tanjirou. "I had an amazing night! I hope you did too!"

Some of the slayers choke and others turn red before looking away from them. Tanjirou is not sure what's going on.

"Well, I have to prepare everything for today's session!" Tokito grins, before kissing Tanjirou's cheek. "I'll see you later, Tanjirou!"

Only when he's back inside the others seem to relax and look back at Tanjirou with curiosity.

They're still blushing though.

"So did you..."

"Or did he... I mean, how did it work?"

"Was it good? Well, he seems in a good mood so I guess–"

A female slayer hits the ones who were asking questions on the back of the head.

"I apologize on their behalf, Tanjirou. They don't have manners... but we know it's not our business."

Tanjirou is so confused that he doesn't know what to say or do other than nod.

They keep looking at him and Tokito in a funny way for the rest of the day, especially when Tokito touches him, but Tanjirou has no idea why they're so curious about that.

It gets even worse the next day because Tokito asks him to go to his room again.

Maybe the others want to be Tokito's friends too? He'll try to come up with something so the others can make friends with the mist hashira as well.

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