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on inattentive traits of adhd

tl;dr at the bottom

so today i was at the dentist and they saw that i take adhd meds. he said something like “your case must not be as severe as some peoples. my son has adhd and he is always bouncing off the walls. but i can just sit here and have a normal conversation with you.” 

there is so SO much stigma involved with adhd and it drives me insane. i’m so sick of the “10-year-old boy who can’t sit still” stereotype. this is definitely a way that adhd is presented, and of course they’re struggles are very valid. but neurotypicals only seeing adhd through that lense is so harmful. first of all, adhd is NOT just a “kids disorder”. seriously with this one? every article you find is “my child has adhd how to fix?” or “does my child have adhd?” as if only children struggle with adhd. as if it will just magically disappear. i’m so freaking sick of it. next, it’s the lack of understand of the inattentive side of adhd. this most likely comes from many of the symptoms being more difficult for the untrained eye to pick up on. inattentive adhd isn’t “less severe” then hyperactive adhd or “easier to handle”. it’s just different! as someone who is primarily inattentive, people just seem to constantly underestimate the effect that it has on our lives. they don’t see that we spend hours and hours on a project, all they see is that we turned it in late. they don’t see that we have to actively focus on focusing, all they see is us not paying attention. we have to work longer and harder than our nt piers (i’m not saying we have to work harder than nt at everything, just many tasks that a nt would find easy and fast we don’t because of the way our brain works!), but since people can’t see that, they see us as lazy. “pay attention” “try harder” “look at the board” “are you listening” “look at me when i’m speaking to you” “it’s only a few problems”. these are things i’ve been hearing since i was in kindergarden. this goes for any neurodiverse person: you aren’t “weak” for using your accommodations. they are there to help you, to even out the playing field. i use all of my extra time every time i take a test. is it kind of annoying? yeah. but at the end of the day, it drastically helps me. school and our society in general can be very ableist, and just because you’re struggling with something that neurotypicals aren’t, doesn’t mean that you are “less capable” or “more stupid” than neurotypicals. be kind to yourself and don’t compare yourself harshly to a neurotypical who may be able to do what you can in a much shorter period of time. that’s not fair, because you have an extra barrier to work with. if you struggle with these things and feel unseen, i see you, and there are many others going through the same thing.

if you have primarily inattentive adhd, or inattentive traits in your adhd, or adhd at all, you are such a badass!

!! of course everyone with adhd is valid and a badass! and primarily hyperactive people are amazing and have some of these struggles and some different ones that i don’t fully understand i just wanted to address some things about the inattentive side. i also know everyone’s adhd is different, i don’t speak from everyone whos primarily inattentive and they won’t relate to everything i say!

*this is based off of my experience and research but i’m not saying everything here is a fact, i just want to start a discussion.*  

i realize that i just wrote an extremely long post about adhd, so here’s the very crucial tl;dr:

inattentive adhd is so valid and isn’t “less severe” then more hyperactive forms of adhd.

just because people can’t always see your problems right away, that doesn’t mean they aren’t valid.

you aren’t weak for using accommodations!

just because somethings takes longer for you than a nt doesn’t mean you are bad at it, or that you are stupid.

Number of people I have seen that are Jewish saying that criticising individual Jews, thinking Jews "aren't perfect" or saying that criticism of Israel is inherently antisemitic: 0

The number of non-Jews I have seen absolutely insist that saying "Jews aren't perfect" or disagreeing with a jew or that having criticism of Israel isn't antisemitic and implying or outright saying this is a common thing: I have lost count.

Weird, you would think that looking at Jumblr and being on Jewbook I would see more of this.

You know, even if there are like....nutters out there who insist on this, the absolute rampant amount of people saying "it is NOT antisemetic to be critical of x y z" is absolutely overwhelming and you should find it weird.

Why don't some of you find it weird? If someone said "no matter what anyone says, you don't HAVE to date someone who is bisexual and it is not inherently biphobic to not date someone who is bi" I know I am hearing a biphobic dogwhistle.

Because no one says that. No one says you HAVE to date a bi woman, or a trans woman, or a...anything. That is not a discourse that exists. What they are doing is strawmanning the discourse that does exist like "if you meet someone and they are great and they tick all your boxes and you won't date them BECAUSE they are bi/trans/whatever then you may have some issues related to those people" and then you will see them responding like "they told me I HAVE to have SEX with someone I don't WANT to" which is certainly....an interpretation of the text, I guess.

So it is...odd, interesting? How many people don't see or chose to ignore how fucking weird it is that this disclaimer is just...everywhere? Literally people I have known for years have added it to posts. Like, they will have a perfectly legitimate post being critical of Israeli action or something and then either preface it with that disclaimer or end it. Sometimes they bookend it.

It is so bizarre.

Because if someone said "Israel is bad and therefore should be bombed off the map and cease to exist, can't wait until they don't exist anymore" that is where you might get someone pointing out that it is the largest concentration of Jews in the world, many of which are from other Middle Eastern nations and have literally nowhere to go. So you might just be being antisemetic to have this particular energy towards Israel and ONLY Israel and not a single other country you talk about being actually destroyed like it is a good thing. (Even if the person was just being hyperbolic, although I have seen a few....less than covert nazis saying similar). Because it wasn't a criticism of anything, just a wish for the dead of many people to solve the problem of...people dying.

Now of course there exists the possibility that people who have been heavily exposed to this kind of rhetoric will be overly sensitive and take any criticism of Israel as bad faith. Of course that exists.

But I should still not personally see so overwhelming an amount of "it is not antisemetic to-" posts that are completely non-sequiter.

And I don't think it is just me. This seems to be an issue that is being noticed by others, that this ratio of people saying it is antisemetic to critique Israel at ALL and the people saying it is not....are wildly uneven.

Y'all need to stop letting Jews be the only ones to call this out, or at least be honest that you don't care.

It is not an appropriate way to engage in this topic. Stop allowing dogwhistles and strawmen to cut off any potential avenue of criticism and continue this "unreasonable jews" narrative.

Tl;dr: when someone says "it is not antisemetic to-" chances are they are about to engage in antisemitism. Just say what you want to say without the "not to be homophobic" type language. If what you are saying is informed and thoughtful then just fucking say it in a way that reflects that, even if people don't agree with it.

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open family and abuse

Guys, please be aware that there are some people in the consanguinamory community or on incest forums who might throw around words like “open family” as code for abusive behaviours involving the abuse of minors. Grooming is abuse. The concept of “open family” often implies grooming, whether these people admit it or not. This topic needs to be addressed sometime more properly, but for now, please be aware. Open family is a code word used by these very sick individuals, just like the term “MAP”.

Consanguinamory allies do not support grooming.