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The endgame

Here is the second post of Skam España appreciation week for International Women’s Week (yes I know it’s just a day, blablabla, I turn it into a week every year). In this post I wanna focus on how groundbreaking it is to have a show say that teen girls’ friendship, that sorority, is necessary to lead a full life for any woman.

I think that the message comes across the best in Season 1, where Eva is lost because her only meaningful relationship is Jorge, I love how much she craves for friends of her own, when she stares at Inés and her friends, it’s not just regret, it’s want, she doesn’t just regret screwing things up with Inés, she WANTS friends.

We are thought from a very early age that we’ll only be complete if we find a partner (male, of course) and a family, otherwise we are useless to society, we are only here to breed to have children and be the perfect moms and wives, Disney movies, the books they make us read at school, when people ask us about our futures… It all points to the fact that we are useless without a husband and a bunch of kids and, don’t get me wrong, if you want this, that’s totally valid, I want it, maybe not the husband part of it but having a partner and a family is one of my goals in this life, but it’s not my only goal and, to society, it should be and the fact that it isn’t makes me a bad woman, conniving, twisted and mean. I’m not, trust me, but Skam España is the only show that I can think of that centres its main message around telling young girls they can be more than submissive women with a bunch of children wrapped around their skirts.

Eva was lonely with Jorge and only with her friends she found the will and the strength to be herself, to leave a toxic relationship (yes it was toxic in a different way than Miquel and Nora’s was, but it was toxic nonetheless), to smile again and to fight for herself. She’s been happy since, she’s had ups and downs like every human, but she hasn’t been as sad, as destroyed as she was in season 1 because she’s got people to go to when things get rough.

Cris wouldn’t have been able to fight for Joanna without them, every time something bad happened, she’d go to her friends and talk it through and ask for advice and they’d help her, they’d tell her they love her and that she was able to do anything and she’d believe them and go back to Joanna.

The girls love each other and give each other strength they are ENDGAME, their endgame is not Jorge, is not Joanna, is not Hugo or Alejandro or whoever Amira’s love interest ends up being, they are eachother’s endgame, their relationship helps them become better people, helps them open up their minds and their hearts and makes them braver and bolder and feel like they’ve got everything under control. And, most important, lets them fly, experiment, have different experiences, love other people, get their heart broken all of that while knowing they have a safe space to ball back onto. They can safely become fully fledged human beings and that’s the healthiest thing in the world.

Okay, so here’s my second post, I hope you’ve enjoyed it, if you have anything to say you are, as always, very welcome to say it.

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On This Day; September 30th, 15 Years Ago, 12-year-old Palestinian Boy Muhammad Al-Durrah Was Shot To

On this day; September 30th, 15 years ago, 12-year-old Palestinian boy Muhammad al-Durrah was shot to death in his father’s arms by Israeli troops.

It was the second day of the Second Intifada, the father and son were caught in a cross fire and hid behind a concrete cylinder. For 45 minutes Jamal al-Durrah shielded his son from Israeli fire as several bullets narrowly missed them. He desperately waved and shouted: “Don’t shoot!” but to no avail.

Muhammad al-Durrah was shot four times and eventually slumped across his father’s legs, who was also shot and lost consciousness.

An ambulance driver tried to rescue the boy and his father but the driver was also killed, along with a jeep driver, and a second ambulance driver was wounded. Muhammad and his father laid bleeding for at least 17 minutes before an ambulance was able to pick them up.

We will never forget.