Healing From Academic Perfectionism

Hey ! First of all, happy new year. I hope you’re all going to spend a very successful year ! I don’t know if you know focumon, a great and very cute website (and app,I think ?) to stay focused and work towards your goals.

If someone wants to progress with other students to stay motivated to study, you can check out my party : https://www.focumon.com/parties/466-the-study-party

I hope you can all manage to find motivation, focus and do your best this year. I believe in you. Good luck to everyone !

Happy new year 2025 !

me every three seconds when i'm not in the mood for studying:

From Burnout to Glowing: Finding Motivation Again

✨ Burnout happens to the best of us, queen. It’s a sign you’ve been working hard, but it’s also your mind and body saying, “Hold up—we need a reset.” Let’s flip this energy and find your motivation again.

1. Permission to Pause

First things first: Rest is productive. Burnout doesn’t mean you’re weak; it means you’ve been running too long without refueling.

Give yourself permission to take a break—watch your favorite comfort movie, journal your feelings, or take a long walk.

2. Reconnect with Your “Why”

Ask yourself: Why are you doing this? Whether it’s a dream school, personal growth, or even just proving to yourself that you can, reconnecting with your “why” is like reigniting a candle.

Write your goals down. Visualize them. Feel the pride of your future self.

3. Reset Your Study Space

Burnout can make your desk feel like a prison. Transform it into a haven—clean it, add some fresh flowers, switch out your stationery for pastel vibes, and light a candle.

A new environment = a new mindset.

4. Small Wins, Big Motivation

Start small. Instead of diving into hours of work, set a 10-minute timer and focus on one task. Small victories build momentum.

Reward yourself for progress (a face mask, your fave snack, or a cozy nap).

5. The Glowettee Affirmation Method

Use these affirmations daily to rebuild your motivation:

“I am capable, even on hard days.”

“Rest is a part of success, not the opposite of it.”

“I am proud of my effort, no matter how small.”

✨ Remember, burnout isn’t forever. This is just a chapter in your story, and you’re about to turn the page to something incredible. Take it one soft step at a time—you’ve got this.

💌 What’s your favorite way to reset? Reblog and share your glow-up tips! 🌸

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The Odyssey, Penelope and Odysseus, Tischbein, 1802

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Study Like an It Girl: Paris Geller Energy 📚✨

If there’s one fictional character who embodies the ultimate study grind, it’s Paris Geller from Gilmore Girls. Her level of ambition? Unmatched. Her drive? Relentless. And while her methods might sometimes verge on chaotic (okay, very chaotic), there’s so much we can learn from her approach to academics. I'm gonna break down how you can channel that Paris Geller energy while keeping your sanity intact. 🌸✨ (hopefully...)

1. Set Clear Goals (Be as Extra as Paris)

Paris didn’t just want to do well; she wanted to be the best. While you don’t have to make your life a competition, having clear, specific goals can give you direction. Instead of saying, “I want to study more,” try:

“I want to get an A on my next chemistry test.”

“I’ll complete three hours of focused study for math every weeknight.” Specificity helps you stay on track and keeps your energy focused on the right tasks.

💡 It Girl Tip: Create a vision board for your goals, Paris-style. Include dream colleges, career aspirations, or anything else that fuels your ambition. Keep it somewhere you can see it every day—manifestation meets motivation. (digital or IRL is good, USE PINTEREST!)

2. Romanticize Your Study Environment

Let’s be honest: Paris wouldn’t study in a messy, uninspiring room. Your study space should feel like an aesthetic haven. Think:

A tidy desk with your favorite stationery ✏️

Soft lighting (fairy lights or a warm desk lamp) 🌟

A pastel mug filled with tea or coffee ☕

Background music (try classical, K-Pop or lo-fi playlists for the ultimate vibe) 🎶

You’re the main character of your life!!

3. Be Aggressively Overprepared, But Aesthetically So

Paris Geller never walked into a study session without knowing everything. Her energy was all about overachieving to the point of intimidating her competition. You don’t need the rivalry, but you do need the prep.

It Girl Twist: Gather extra resources and organize them beautifully. Think color-coded binders, pastel-highlighted textbooks, and aesthetic digital flashcards.

Why It Works: When you know more than what’s required, it builds confidence. That’s Paris power.

💡 Mindy Says: “Overprepared = unbothered queen vibes. Let your notes be so cute they could double as Pinterest posts.”

4. Master Controlled Chaos

Paris’s intensity could sometimes spiral into chaos, but she always managed to pull through. Instead of avoiding stress, embrace it as a sign you’re pushing yourself—and learn to channel it constructively.

It Girl Twist: When you’re overwhelmed, do a quick brain dump into a journal or planner. Write down every single task, no matter how small. Then organize it into bite-sized chunks.

Why It Works: Getting everything out of your head and onto paper clears your mind and gives you control.

💡 Mindy Says: “Your chaos is part of the process, babe. Just make it chic— glittery gel pens and mood-boosting playlists.”

5. Develop an Intimidation-Level Vocabulary

Remember when Paris dropped SAT words like confetti? It wasn’t just for show; she knew that language was power. Building your vocabulary can make you feel (and sound) unstoppable.

It Girl Twist: Learn one new “power word” a day and slip it into casual conversations or captions. Bonus points if it’s super niche and makes you feel like a literary goddess.

Why It Works: Knowledge isn’t just for exams—it’s for life. Plus, it’s fun to impress people with words they have to Google.

💡 Mindy Says: “An eloquent queen is a glowing queen. Vocabulary flexing is the new subtle flex.”

6. Treat Every Day Like It’s a Debate Prep Day

Paris’s debate skills were unmatched because she thought critically about everything. Adopting her mindset means questioning the world around you and staying curious.

It Girl Twist: Pick one topic you’re passionate about and research the heck out of it. Pretend you’re preparing to debate Paris herself (but in a cute, less intimidating way).

Why It Works: Critical thinking is a muscle—flex it daily. It’s also a low-key way to keep studying exciting.

💡 Mindy Says: “Be curious. Be informed. Be iconic. Channel your inner Paris and make intellectual sass your superpower.”

5. Take Pride in Your Ambition—Unapologetically

Paris never dimmed her ambition, even when people found it “too much.” Embrace that energy and stop apologizing for wanting more—if it’s higher grades, dream schools, or a future as the CEO of your life embrace it!

It Girl Twist: Write a “brag list” every week. Note down everything you’ve accomplished, big or small, and let yourself feel proud of it.

Why It Works: Celebrating your wins keeps you motivated and reminds you that your hard work is paying off.

💡 Mindy Says: “Being ambitious isn’t extra—it’s iconic. You’re not ‘too much,’ babe. You’re just enough to glow brighter than everyone else.”

✨ Final Thoughts:

I hoped you girlies loved this blog post. I wanted to try a different style. If you all noticed the "Mindy Quotes" they're all words by me! I'm Mindy/Glowettee! I wanted to give you personal words of encouragement! Love you all!

“to live is the rarest thing in the world. most people exist, that is all,”

one of the biggest things I can advocate for (in academia, but also just in life) is to build credibility with yourself. It’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking of yourself as someone who does things last minute or who struggles to start tasks. people will tell you that you just need to build different habits, but I know for me at least the idea of ‘habit’ is sort of abstract and dehumanizing. Credibility is more like ‘I’ve done this before, so I know I can do it, and more importantly I trust myself to do it’. you set an assignment goal for the day and you meet it, and then you feel stronger setting one the next day. You establish a relationship with yourself that’s built on confidence and trust. That in turn starts to erode the barrier of insecurity and perfectionism and makes it easier to start and finish tasks. reframing the narrative as a process of building credibility makes it easier to celebrate each step and recognize how strong your relationship with yourself can become

“If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.”

— Cicero, Ad Familiares