I've No Idea Where This Is Going

I've no idea where this is going

One of the first comments I've ever received on my work was that I should use 3rd POV because people usually don't read 1st POV fanfictions. Which, I agree. As a reader—especially of fanfictions—I didn't like reading from a 1st POV. For some reason, I wanted to keep that distinction between me and the character. I wanted to be separate. I want to exist only as an observer, not as a character in the story. At the time, when I was writing it, I did think I should probably go 3rd POV, and I did write some chapters in that POV, it was a POV changing fanfic. I read that comment and edited my fanfic as a whole to be strictly 3rd POV. And, I still write BL fanfics today. The thing is, to keep a distinction between the two characters, I would write the other as "them/their/they". But the problem arises that it's confusing if the "they/them/their" doesn't refer to the single character but to two or more characters. But I also do not want to write them both as "he/him" because then, that's even more confusing. Now, I'm writing something. And I honestly just said "eff it", I'm writing in 1st POV. I have been meaning to write in 1st POV for a long time now, too, sooo, that's good. I'm still thankful to that person for writing that comment, it was constructive criticism and as a writer who does want people to read, it was a good suggestion. But, where I am now, I'm trying to care less about it. That fanfic that I was talking about, the one they commented on, the first part of it has been in writing since 2020. THE FIRST PART, BRO TT