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Assertive Communication 🗣

Assertiveness

When communicating keep in mind your experiences, such as, feelings, thoughts, & behaviors might be differ from others.

Thoughts and emotions if not handled properly can get in the way off effective communication.

It’s easy to misunderstand what the other person is communicating. We tend to react to what we think they are saying.

Types of Communication

Passive

Overview: those who communicate passively tend to be submissive and compliant. They don’t expresse their feelings or thoughts.

Consequences: give into others and don’t get what they want.

Aggressive

Overview: person will be demanding and hostile. They come of rude and insensitive. At times they can use intimidation to get what they want.

Consequences: upset others and becomes angry and resentful. People will distance themselves.

Passive-Aggressive

Overview: this type of person will say what others want to hear to evade conflicts, but at the same time they will feel anger and resentment.

Consequences: creates future problems for not following through what was established during communication.

Manipulator

Overview: here the person will make others feel guilty to obtain what they want. Other times the communicator will play the victim as well.

Consequences: upsets other people and loses their trust and respect.

Affirmative

Overview: this type of person has healthy communication. They express their needs and emotions in a direct, respectful and honest manner. They actively listen to others and take responsibility for what they say.

Consequences: good relationships and effective communication.

Tips on Assertive Communication

Be specific when speaking.

Use “I” statements.

Decribe what you heard and observed instead of judging.

Politely ask the other person what they understood. This helps prevent future misunderstandings.

Provide positive feedback.

State your limits and boundaries in the beginning.

Saying “No”

Saying “no” does not make you a bad person. There are ways of saying it respectfully, for example:

I’m sorry, but I can’t take on anything else at the moment.

I’m busy, maybe some other time.

I would love to, but I have too much on my plate right now.

At this very moment I can’t, but let me point you to the person who might be able to help.

Keep in mind these responses are enough. You do not need to further explain anything.

“I” Statements

These type of statements help communicate your thoughts and feelings without verbally attacking or acusong the other person. When we are upset we communicate defensively. For example:

Wrong: You can’t continue arriving late! You’re not considerate and completely disrespectful!

Correct: I become worried when you are late. I feel Iike you aren’t considering how I am feeling. How can we arrive to an agreement?

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Courage doesn’t mean you don’t get afraid. Courage means you don’t let fear stop you.

Bethany Hamilton, Champion Surfer (via forbes)

When asked to repeat something more than once, reword your sentence slightly.

Even just stick on a few more words at the start or end to clarify further. I’ve found that if someone mishears you and you repeat the exact same words, they’re far more likely to continue mishearing the sentence.

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6 Signs of Psychopathy/Sociopathy

Most, if not, all of us have an encounter with someone who’s at least a bit of a psychopath or sociopath. We usually find out afterwards, but sometimes you can tell nearly straight-away by their qualities that they’re not the most mentally stable person. Psychopaths and sociopaths are a lot more common than you may have thought. In fact, the people you would’ve never thought that were psycho or sociopaths can in fact be either of those two or even both!

Here are 6 unmistakable signs to tell if someone is a socio/psychopath so you can know in advance next time you meet one.

1. Inability to feel negative emotions

In 1994, there was a study in which 25 non-psychopathic controls asked 25 psychopaths to attribute emotions to a story protagonist. The only emotions the psychopaths felt were happiness and indifference, failing to feel emotions such as guilt, sadness, and embarrassment when expected. It’s a common misconception that they can’t feel emotion, as they can, in fact, feel happiness.

According to HealthyPlace.com, sociopaths, a little differently than psychopaths, “view their world as their party” and “can cry if they want to”. But, like psychopaths, they can’t feel remorse, and, with few exceptions, don’t feel, and high-functioning sociopaths can fake emotion really well and are very manipulative! Their insincerity’s part of…

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