I H8 When Im Way More Obsessed W Someone Than They Are With Me

thinking about how i never truly felt like myself or experienced desire until i truly learned what butch and femme meant, it opened up a whole world to me that i had seen but never known, i hold so much gratitude for older butch and femmes but also for the butches, studs, stemmes, and femmes i’ve seen now, who are actively educating younger folks like myself, im so grateful to be able to learn about these identities and realize that, i too, belong

diary of an aging girl #1

I grew up with this overwhelming shadow of discreetness, I stayed still in the uncomfortable seats of my school waiting for my peers to turn and acknowledge me.

In being discreet and timid, my need to feel more than a child, more than a girl hoping for a better future came to fruition. I think about it now and how desperate of a fourteen year old I was, desperate to be understood and taken care of. To talk with someone who understood my feelings more than I did, who had already surpassed the years of longing and had become their own person.

What transpired until I became an adult was something sinister and addictive. I can read back through my old journals and see this girl who knew what she wanted even in the haze of desperation, even when she knew it was wrong.

But I can remember the intricate ways in which these men who were aware of my age understood this brutal need and took my desperation as a total yes into corrupting something that should have been mine for many years to come. It had happened too fast and for too long, when my mind was trying to come to terms with an identity brewing.

I like to think I have put past those memories, especially after coming out as a lesbian. I still have this need to be wanted and it distorts with my hypersexual tendencies. It’s not a good thing and framing my younger self as desperate is not ideal since I’m sure at the time it was just a need to feel desired.

-doaag xx

Haley Lu Richardson as Casey in Columbus (2017) dir. Kogonada

watching coming of age movies to reinstall my love for living

Marcy and Sarah, photography by Ricky Lee, "Driving Ms. Diesel", circa late 90's

everytime i listen to this song (3 times a day or more) i cry

Photo from the Dirt Dyke Dive, Leeds, 2025

Custom carabiner made by J West Engraving (you can order your own here)

📸: Eli Williams

they’re such a good person and so affirming i acc don’t care that they’re much older than me. like it’s never going to gon anywhere but i feel good and it’s nice talking to them.

Emo Artists with koalas pt1

beauty, overwhelming

i will dislocate my jaw to fit it all in