This Time Of Year Can Be Frustrating For People In The Aro/ace Community.

Don’t Take Up Spaces that Aren’t Meant for You

I go to use the elevator in a high rise building only to find a sign that says “Please ask security for access to this elevator”. A week ago, that sign wasn’t there. When I ask the security guard why the sudden change in policy, they said that people from other floors in the building had been abusing their access to the elevator and that they needed to lock it down. 

Let me make this perfectly clear: I could no longer independently access the only elevator available to take me to this part of the building because other people decided to use / abuse a space that was not meant for them instead of taking the stairs right next to the fucking elevator.

Here’s another example: In order to have access to an accessible room on a cruise ship, I have to submit a form stating that I do in fact  have a physical disability that prevents me from using a normal state room on the ship. I have to do this because able-bodied people have, in the past, been dishonest about the level of accessibility they require in order to have access to a larger stateroom without having to pay a premium.

How about this one: I go into the restroom of a massive convention center. Every single stall  in this restroom is empty except for the one handicapped stall in the back, which is being occupied by someone who does not need to use a handicapped stall. I now have to wait for that one person to exit the stall before I can use the restroom. Remember: This bathroom has 7+ other stalls that are built specifically to work for them, but they chose  to use the one space that is available to people like me.

Dear able-bodied people: Handicapped bathroom stalls, seating areas, staterooms, and elevators are not meant for you and you should not use them.

I do not care how big of a hurry you were in and how that elevator got you to where you needed to go faster. Because of you, I have to go find someone every time I need to use this elevator and if I can’t find them I GET NOTHING. 

To you, that cruise ship can house 2000+ people and you have an opportunity to get a massive stateroom at no extra cost if you’re wiling to fib a little. To me, that cruise ship has a capacity of around 12 (the number of accessible rooms on the ship) and if they’re all full, I GET NOTHING.

To you, that movie theater has four really great seats right in the middle that just happen to have a handicapped accessible sign on them. To me, that theater has four seats and if they’re all full, I GET NOTHING.

And let me address the bathroom thing in particular. I don’t give a flying fuck if the handicapped stall was the only one available. You should pretend like it doesn’t fucking exist and wait in line like everyone else. *

Don’t take up spaces that were not meant for you. Because everything but those few precious spaces were not meant for us. 

* Unless it’s literally the only stall in the bathroom or you’re about to absolutely shit yourself. Then it’s fine. 

Noooo Titch my beloved

RIP Titch, that was fucking intense (and holy shit, over 400 people voted)

Everything wrong with society

Society raises robots 

Boys are taught that they can’t cry nor show emotion, taught that they can’t be human.

Girls are taught to hide their emotions, lest they be asked “are you on your period”, taught that it’s shows that you are weak.

Society is huge on double standards

‘Boys must be over 6ft, and have muscles"

‘Why are girls so self conscious?’

If you hate yourself, you must be fishing for compliments.

If you love yourself, you must be narcissistic.

Society has an obsession with victim blaming and ignoring the true problem

‘Boys can’t be the victim of rape because they always want sex’

'All men are trash’

'She was obviously asking for it’

'Well what were you wearing?’

As if you could blame an entire gender on the actions of a few

As if the amount of skin you show determines your ability to consent and say NO

We are supposed to be able to think, we are not savages and should be able to understand that an absent of a YES means NO.

What was the point of this mini rant? 

To call society out on it’s bullshit! and to rant because of frustrations  

The point is we are not robots and have the right to emotions, we have the right to love ourselves because a bit of body positivity never hurt nobody, and IT IS NEVER THE VICTIMS FAULT why is it so hard to understand that?

Sweaters: Knitted ✔ Puppers: Petted ✔ Gender Diverse Friends: PROTECTED ✔✔✔ I think we all need a little trans positivity on our social media right now, so here’s a preview of an upcoming post 💖🏳️‍🌈

Old lady Margaery, don’t enjoy this TOO much

Meet Maiden & Princess, a children’s book set to launch in April 2019 about a maiden who falls in love with – you guessed it! – a princess. 

Maiden & Princess is intended as a companion to [author Daniel] Haack’s Prince & Knight, which was released in May as the inaugural effort in a new partnership between GLAAD and Bonnier Publishing USA. Acknowledging that both books “exist in the same universe,” Haack told HuffPost he was particularly excited about Maiden & Princess because he believes same-sex love between two women is even more underrepresented in children’s literature as compared to that between two men.

“We wanted to take that fairy tale structure with real human characters and tell a simple love story between these two women, complete with all the anxieties and excitement of first love that would resonate with kids,” Haack, who resides in Los Angeles, said. 

Beautiful. Learn more over at HuffPost. 

if you’re lgbt and a transmisogynist like i’m really sorry you’re an idiot and don’t realize trans women literally created this community cause that’s really sad, like we wouldn’t have a community without them. you waving your pitchfork and incomprehensible rhetoric  to thank them is sad. and all i’m gonna feel in response is utter secondhand embarrassment for how stupid you are. like you’re dumb bye

Mori Kei for Boys-And-Boyesque-People

I’ve talked about cottagecore fashion for masc-aligned people, but mori kei is a similar-yet-different fashion. I’ve mainly only found guides for our femme-people, so I’ve decided to make my own guide!

First note: mori is Japanese for forest, and kei is Japanese for style. The style mori kei originated in the mid-2000s, I believe, because of a girl named Coco. The style harmonizes much with the cottagecore ideals- becoming closer to nature, unplugging from electronics, enjoying simple things, respecting the Earth, and old-fashioned motifs feature heavily, along with natural-themed motifs.

To give you a sense of mori kei on masc-people, here are some pictures: (Note! Does not belong to me, is simply just images I was able to google and locate)

Now I’m going to break down the outfits into key components:

-Layers

-Natural, unsaturated colours

-Natural fabrics, like linen, wool, cotton, leather, etc.

-Prints like stripes, polka dots, florals, plaid, nature-themed prints are prevalent

-Loose fits

-Wrapping elements

-Comfortable, loose sneakers or some form of hiking boot

-Little structure

-Natural accessories, like walking sticks, newsboy caps, straw baskets, straw boater hats, leather belts, etc.

You might think this is all well and good, but how do I achieve this style?

-Stock up on henley-styled t-shirts, short and long sleeve, in colours like navy, sage, burgundy, white, ivory, brown, khaki

-Invest in loose-fitting pants in that same colour scheme. Bonus points for fabrics like corduory, twill, or linen.

-Look for a nice belt. I’ve noticed that a lot of well-done mori boy outfits have aesthetically pleasing belts.

-Pay attention to prints. Look for botanical-like florals versus abstract. Search for textured prints and pay attention to feel.

-Have fun with fabric. Natural fabrics have tonnes of different textures and feels to them. You can use this to make your outfit more interesting.

-Layer! T-shirts, cardigans, heavy coats, pants, socks, scarves, boots… There are many ways to give your mori outfit some more dimension to give it more of an aesthetic appeal.

-If it’s too hot where you are for layers, focus on fabrics and loose fits. Let your linen henley t-shirt drape over your cotton shorts, add a straw boater hat and some weathered sneakers, and that’s plenty mori on it’s own.

-Incorporate adventure-like elements into your fashion, such as a compass on a piece of yarn for a necklace.

Aside from the fashion, how can you incorporate mori boy aesthetics into your hobbies?

-Take up a wind instrument, like the flute

-Read more books

-Learn about folklore

-Watch TV shows like the anime Piano no Mori

-Listen to music like PoPoyans, and also check out traditional Chinese and Japanese piano and flute music for that mori feel.

-Go hiking and camping!

-Draw! Paint! Create some type of art.

-If it’s all you want to do, soak up some sun.

-Dance in the rain

-Take photographs

-Try tea

That’s all for today.

SFTH Google Document

So, for the last month and a bit I have been working on a google Document full of just Shoot From The Hip information: Character Lists, long form lists, specials, etc... I started this before the Fandom wiki was more fleshed out but I figured I would still put it on here for anyone interested. It does include Patreon exclusive content but nothing is linked (if something is linked please let me know). Suggestions are welcome, it is still in progress so its not perfect.

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