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Dear friends of Tumblr,

Today at my school we had an assembly about internet predators and when I had said that most of my true friends are over the internet and they gave me a lecture about how “I don’t know who I’m talking to” blah blah. So please, if you aren’t a predator in any way, please reblog so i can prove a point.

This is the kind of weaponization of the elderly I can get behind. 

Hello! First of all, thanks so much for this awesome blog. I wanted to ask if you have suggestions on how I can deepen my understanding of psychology—I am INFJ and I'm personally interested in using study the way you do to derive insights and interpretations because I have always been interested in the field. However, when I try to read textbooks or formal sources of information I find myself unable to apply the information or really see the 'point' of it; what should I approach as a beginner?

I’m not sure that I can give you an encouraging response because, in reality, the path of independent learning is a difficult one to travel, and sometimes it is only your own passion that sustains you, i.e., you must be intrinsically motivated. 

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i hate hate HATE the impossible beauty standards in the trans community i hate people especially cis people (but even other trans people are guilty of this) sharing pictures of the same conventionally attractive trans models as "proof" that we can look "normal" (read: not only cis-passing but also extremely conventionally attractive) why the fuck do you need trans people to be supermodels and nothing less for you to respect us. why.

cis ppl can rb just dont add any stupid shit

there’s a popular post on tumblr that says INTJs have two “modes”: one that has no qualms using social masks to achieve goals and one that doesn’t see a reason to be anything but honest.

1. how does having a social mask that goes against their true values affect low Fi types?

2. these “modes” are present for all types, aren’t they?

Sounds like “This INTJ is an Enneagram 3″ vs “every other INTJ.” ;)

Healthy TJs typically have strong beliefs based in a few areas (things of personal importance to them that they work hard toward) but high Te knows you get more flies with honey than vinegar. To succeed in business, for example, being likable, presenting oneself as competent, and proving self worth through reliability and the ability to work with people is how you earn their respect and cooperation. That is earnest, sincere, pragmatic, and not a “mask.”

3s on the other hand can “adapt” to be whatever the situation requires of them – for example, keeping their mouth shut on something when they know to bring it up in their current group would cause unnecessary friction and prevent them from accomplishing a goal, or that it might prevent them from GETTING the job they want. (IE, not supporting 100% everything a business, individual, church, group, etc represents, but being able to “appear” in such a form that they assume you are “one of them” without being one of them.) But even 3-core INTJs do have something they believe in and are working toward.

So… yeah, on this issue I’d say 3-core/fixed vs. not-3-core/fixed (non-adaptable) is the factor. And yeah, the same goes for every other type.

- ENFP Mod

You have two coworkers named John, one short and one tall. As you normally would in this situation, you call them Big John and Little John. One day the tall John tells you that he doesn’t like being called Big John. You’re a decent person and stop doing it. It turns out when his depression was at its worst, he gained a lot of weight, and even though he’s lost weight and is secure in his body image, being called Big John reminds him of that time. He’s much more comfortable being called Tall John, Old John, his last name, or just John

You call everyone dude. You were raised in an area where dude is an all-purpose term. One day your coworker Mary tells you that she doesn’t like being called dude. You’re a decent person and stop doing it. It turns out she’s trans, and even though she’s transitioned and is satisfied and secure in her body, being called dude makes her dysphoric. She’s much more comfortable being called girl, pal, or just Mary.

If situation one is so obvious, why isn’t two? Just be a decent person, don’t call people what they don’t want to be called, and don’t make them give you their reasons. It’s that simple

We need more people like this