Old Friends And Old Truths.

My wife has asked me, several times, if I think she is a slut. Or if she is being too slutty for me. I really hate to use that word about her, I like to think I’d break a guy’s nose if he called her a slut.

Has she been a bit promiscuous? Yes. Is she wild? Yes.

Maybe @wifeshottie has commented with a better word to describe her. Is she a bit of a nympho? Yep.

Vocal Tom.

Who knew!? I always thought he was too quiet and shy to be like I have just learnt he really is.

I feel we’re in a really interesting phase right now, partly because of the new developments with Tom but also from a perspective of learning even more about each other. We, to be truthful, I think Louise is learning more about me and I’m enjoying exploring her reactions to things, as they come out or as they evolve.

To give it some more context, just a couple of weeks ago we were talking about my fantasies, I was trying to scale them - one to ten. I told her that watching her suck someone else’s dick is huge for me, it is a huge turn on now and it have been a huge fantasy. Somehow, she actually didn’t know that, I guess I never made it clear enough. Interestingly, she said if she had known things might have started a fair bit earlier for us. She had a lot to overcome before she was ready to have sex outside our marriage but feels that a blowjob, given the right time and circumstances, wouldn’t have been such a big deal. The conversation actually started because I sent her one of those hotwife meme things, one that showed a girl freeing a big dick with a caption that said something like “the dare was just to kiss it.”

Back to the point, vocal Tom. As I said it surprised me, and it was great to learn how it turns Louise on. Some of the things he said to her on Sunday included:

“Fuck, I just love these nipples… I could suck them all day.”

Not long after, when he was rubbing his dick on her boobs, he told her he “could cum like this, all over her tits and her face.”

He often talks about her pussy, and how good it feels to be fucking it. On Sunday he told her how he loves to watch his cock sliding in and out of her wet pussy. He was fucking her from behind at the time.

He also told her he “wants to fuck her in the arse again.”

Louise swears she told me this bit but I must have forgotten, she was and still is the only woman he has got to do that with. After they fucked, and she asked him about it, he told her he thinks about it all the time. He asked the woman he was dating too, if she wanted it there. But no, apparently it isn’t something she will ever do.

Tom does have a deep voice, that I have always known. What I didn’t know is that when he cums, he moans really deeply and, sometimes, they talk up some rather dirty stuff. All about filling her up, cumming in her married pussy and the like. Or he’ll ask her if she want him to pull out, cum all over her tits, or her face. I knew without her saying that her answer would sometimes be yes. Except for the times when she is close to cumming herself of course. I also did not know how much it turns her on.

They are just some examples, there was and often is more, or so I’m told. It’s funny, I asked her if she would like me to be more like that, to talk dirty sometimes, like she does to me (especially when she wants to make me cum). I knew the answer as soon as I asked it though, and pretty much said it myself. It would be too fake, too much like trying to be like him. She did say maybe one day, maybe there’d be a time when it wouldn’t be like that. We’ll see.

He had questions too, about me. Of everything that has happened in the last few days, they may be the most interesting part. I’ll touch on them next.

Well, to stay things have quietened down since June would be quite the understatement. Louise met up with Grant in early June, when he came back to our home city for a long weekend. She stayed the night with him on the Saturday and got home just after noon on the Sunday, she was a rather tired girl.

Then, a couple of weeks later, she slept with Tom for one last time, her first and easily closest FWB. They had chatted during the week and Tom told her that he was thinking of trying to get a bit more serious with another woman that he had started dating (Louise did know about her). I was away at work and he took her back to the hotel where they first slept together. She told me she cried a little in the morning too, nothing to surprise me as I have known she has felt quite close to Tom for a while now. There’s nothing to threaten me in their closeness by the way, they were good friends to begin with and grew a little closer since things became physical between them. It was actually harder for Tom apparently, he had gotten to the point where he was quite jealous of the time Louise spent with his mate Grant and even the massages she has been having. Anyway, time will tell if things work out with his new lady I guess, I’m pretty certain Lou would be quite than willing for their little relationship to kick back off if it doesn’t work out.

Now Grant is in a similar boat, just a few weeks ago he told Louise he was bringing someone with him next time he came back home. He actually said he’s not fully serious yet and wanted to still see Louise, but she won’t have it like that. It’s not that she expects guys to be exclusive of course but she doesn’t want to have anything to do with them playing around on someone they’re in a relationship with. She did say things were cooling off with Grant anyway, her night with him in June was still fun (and she did have some amazing orgasms) but there’s just not the same spark, or connection, she really needs to keep it going. Like the sex was really fun but now let’s move on kind of situation.

That same thing happened even quicker with my friend Steve. The messed around a few times and then just stopped, we’re both sure he was a bit weirded out by having sex with his mates wife and, again, the connection (other than being friends) wasn’t really there. It was probably just right to finish up as it was, which is not to say something might not happen at another time of course.

Although the visits have been much less frequent that they were for a while, her massage guy is still in the wings. She has just found it harder to get the time to treat herself of late, things have been really busy with her work and, ironically I guess, I have been away with work more often which actually makes it harder for her to find the time to have a little fun (just by me not being around to share the load of being a mother and housekeeper). But, I’m home now for a few weeks and she does have an appointment next week.

So, with all of that, the intense sexual excitement between the two of us has also waned, just a little bit. I got home from my latest work trip just a couple of days ago, and did get a very welcome blowjob in the spa by the way.

Louise raised the subject, while we were still in the spa, just after that blowjob. As she usually does, she started off by asking me how I was feeling about things, was I having any regrets over what we have been doing for the last year or so. Of course I haven’t, no regrets whatsoever and I told her, if anything, I was hoping things would pick up for her somehow, sometime soon. She had been thinking along similar lines and told me she had some ideas

First of all, she reminded me of the sexual bucket list I sent her a few years ago. She had deleted it, out of her usual fear of someone (our children) finding it in her emails and wanted to know if I still had a copy. She said it might be fun to see how many items we would tick off as done now and, also, went on to suggest something new to do with it. I have now been tasked with getting the list ready for our first day of the beach for this coming summer season (I’m really hoping for some warm weather very soon!). We do talk about sex a lot when we’re together at the beach, it’s our little thing I guess, and she wants us to do a couple of things with the list. First of all is to go through it and talk about all the things that have been done, have some fun recounting a few things. I have to tell her my top three moments from all of it too, and the three biggest turn ons. That is going to be hard but not as hard as finding the three things I liked the least.

Then she told me to pick a number between one and ten. I’m dumb as a post sometimes, I wish I had chosen ten, or even nine but I said six. Then she told me I have to pick the top ten things from my bucket list (I am allowed to add new ones if I think of them) and she will do her absolute best to do six (my chosen number) over the next six months. You know, I very nearly said three, I’m so glad I didn’t.

So, I have some work to do, especially with trying to be creative with picking my next top ten from the bucket list!

@inboxdenver it is like your whole blog reads my mind, especially your own stuff.

She has unrestricted permission, who will be next I wonder?

I can’t help but wonder what else is on your bucket list @causeidalreadyknow 🔥

Dares Completed

I wrote in my last post below about Louise raising my bucket list and her little game that resulted in her saying I can pick ten more items and she will commit to doing at least six of them in the next six months. In reality, my “bucket list” is nothing more than a compilation of dares copied from here on tumblr. My favourite 100 if you like. Some are copied directly, some have been slightly modified and there is just a few that I actually wrote myself.

This is the list of those dares that Louise has actually done. It probably looks like she is a raging exhibitionist and super experienced hotwife. Let me just say that is absolutely not the case. Whilst the hotwife thing pretty much exploded into something huge in a short time, it actually took over twenty years from the first time I mentioned my fantasy and over four years from the time we seriously talked about it. She had tried via dating sites but just couldn’t bring herself to do it, not until an unexpected blowjob one night for her friend Tom.

Even just the sexy dares are very few and far between, the list of completed ones below is all there is to tell. She is actually super shy, and really not confident of showing her body. She still will absolutely not go braless anywhere apart from around the home. She still struggles to wear a sexy bikini anywhere apart from when we’re away on holiday, she is almost terrified of bumping into someone we know if she wears one.

She’s been married once before, to a very controlling and jealous guy. He would freak out if another guy so much as looked at her, the thought of wearing something sexy when he was around just never happened. He was also very picky about her appearance, telling her things like her boobs were too saggy after having her first child. Although we have broken down most of those things I am sure they still play on her mind, at least sub-consciously. There is no doubt having sex with other guys has given her confidence an enormous boost. I think Grant has especially done that, he is quite a bit younger and to have had him lusting after her, telling her lots of dirty things he wants to do to her sexy body and the like has given her a boost that I could not give. There’s nothing like hearing it from another guy I guess.

But then, just occasionally and even before Tom, the dormant, naughty Louise would come out. I would often see and experience it for myself after a few margaritas or white wines and, over the last four or five years, see glimpses without the help from a little bit of alcohol. Louise has always had a thing for massages, in her own words she just loves to be touched. Our first real dirty little secret occurred when I organised an interstate trip for a tantric massage for her. It wasn’t perfect, but the guy did fill her with compliments and he did have a hard on for the whole massage, all of which helped her self-esteem. Whilst nothing else remotely sexual happened for another few years, there was a noticeable change in her “sexiness”, especially over the summer and in the way she dressed. Suddenly, and thankfully, cleavage started to become normal as did shorter dresses.

I should also say Louise has loved going to the nude beach for several years now, for a long time it was the one and only thing where I’d get a chance to show off my sexy wife. She started off still being pretty demure about it all, we’d walk forever to get past the crowd and she’d get really uncomfortable when guys got close. Those barriers are well and truly gone now, she no longer cares who or how many people are around or what they see, there has even been a few special times when she had made sure a lucky guy has gotten to see all the goods.

So here’s the cut from my 100, the list of 49 completed bucket list items (haha, I did not know we were so close to fifty!).

Wear short dresses with sexy underwear

Wear short dresses without underwear

Wear a dress that is slightly see through, with sexy underwear

Wear a dress that is slightly see through with no underwear

- these are all regular occurrences, she often wear dresses like this now. I actually really like the slightly see through ones with her sexy underwear. We went shopping at a big Ikea store once, after the beach. She had on a white dress that was just a bit see through, with a black bikini bottom underneath. I pulled the bikini bottom up high, up her bum so it looked cheeky and she walked around the shop like that for a while, it was very sexy to me. She wears the same dress without underwear, or a bikini, underneath but it actually isn’t anywhere near as noticeable as something sexy and contrasting. I’m working on getting her to wear her red thong bikini underneath it one day, with a stop at the shops planned on the way home. Wish me luck.

Wear a short, loose or split skirt/dress on a breezy day with sexy underwear

- this happened just once, way before any dares or the like ever happened. We went out for lunch and she was wearing a long dress that has a big split right up the side (I loved that dress, it was very sexy). The wind caught it and blew the front of it right open, fortunately for me right as two guys were approaching us. Louise got all embarrassed and held on to the dress tightly for the rest of the walk to our car, I thought it was super hot. It was also well before she knew any details about my big fantasies but, that day, she did get some confirmation that I love her dressing sexy.

Wear a dress that is very see through, with no underwear - twice

- The first time was at a hotel while we were on holiday, she took her wet bikini off (that was naughty and sexy in itself) and walked to our room just wearing a very, very see through black cover up. We passed two gardeners who definitely would have gotten a good look.

- The second time was after a morning at the nude beach, she has a short, flowery black dress that she sometimes wear. She was washing her feet under an outdoor shower, the way the sunlight was made her dress very see through, she had no bikini bottoms on and her pussy could be very clearly seen. There was people everywhere too, mostly guys, one stood watching her waiting for the shower, he had to have seen. I actually had no idea the dress was so see through and made the mistake of telling her (ha ha), now she won’t wear that one to the nude beach in case we see someone we know on the way back to our car. I should clarify that the nude beach is a walk along the sand from a popular, public beach. We have to come back past the main beach and then into the big car park, there’s usually heaps of people around.

Go very see through on the balcony

- she has done this twice, once during the same holiday as the see through walk mentioned above, we were on the second floor and the same gardeners were working just below us. She wore the same see through cover up while leaning against the rail, having a glass of wine.

- The first time was a couple of years earlier, holidaying at the same place actually. It was probably the very first real and deliberate exhibitionist type thing she ever did. We were in a ground floor room and she went outside to hang towels on a rack, wearing just a very sheer, white cover up. I told her how sexy it was and was pleasantly surprised when she came out with drinks and nibbles. We sat on the ground floor balcony for a couple of hours and an older guy in the room next to us even joined us for a beer. She didn’t stand up while he was there but he could very clearly see her boobs. She got really turned on and fucked me wildly before we showered to go to dinner that night.

Open your legs for an up skirt flash, wearing sexy underwear - twice

- an Uber driver got to see this one night, I completely missed it but she told me about it when we got inside.

- the second time happened last summer, it was one of her real take me by surprise moments. We went to my longest and “bestest” mate’s place for afternoon drinks one hot afternoon, another friend and his wife were also there. Louise wore a little summer dress, with underwear one (a fairly conservative bra but with a sexy pair of high cut panties). Us three guys were in the pool when she came over and sat on the edge, with her lower legs in the water. As she sat down, I got a really good upskirt view and I felt fairly sure that either two might have too. The same happened when she got up to get another drink, and again when she sat down again. That time, after getting a drink, the other two girls also came and sat on the edge of the pool (they were wearing shorts), I thought Louise was being a bit careless, or maybe just carefree, as she was making no attempt to stop her panties from being seen. She had her legs parting as she swirled the water with her feet, she even had her knees tucked up under her chin for a bit there. I doubt the other girls would have seen or even noticed but, from the pool itself, us three guys couldn’t have missed it. When we got home, I told her what we were seeing and that I thought it was very sexy, expecting that she didn’t actually know how much of a show she was putting on. But no, I learned it was all very deliberate and for my benefit, she even asked if I noticed how H kept going back to right in front of her and that she thought he even gave up on trying to not get noticed looking. Yeah, it was very hot.

Flash your ass to another man in public

Flash your pussy to another man in public

Open your legs for an up skirt flash, no underwear

- these three all happened when I had my fuel incident, written about in an earlier post here.

Drive or sit in the passenger seat bottomless

Get naked in the car and show off to truckers

- she has done these two several times, the first time a trucker saw her naked in the car was the fuel incident day, it was what got her turned on and made the big exhibition event happen. Going bottomless, or pulling her dress up is a regular occurrence. There was one time we felt sure she got seen too, by an old guy who walked up to the side of our car, to cross the road in front of where I had stopped. It wasn’t intentional, she was just sitting cross legged with her dress pulled right up, neither of us were paying attention and didn’t even notice the old guy until he did a double take and looked straight in through the front windscreen. I hope he enjoyed it.

Wear a Brazilian cut bikini bottom at a public pool or beach

- she has several cheeky bikini bottoms but she actually won’t wear them in public very often, normally just when we’re away on holiday (her fear of being seen by some we know stop it from being regular). The few times she has done it, when on holiday, have been sexy highlights for me. One of the times was when we were lying around a resort pool on sun lounges, I was coming back from getting drinks and she was lying on her stomach wearing her sexy red thing bikini. A passing guy did the full head turn thing as he walked on by her, I loved telling her about it whilst she sipped that margarita!

Get changed at back of car

- she did this at the beach one day, when we got back to the car, changing from a bikini and cover up into a pair of shorts, bra and t-shirt. Unfortunately, there was nobody around but she did get fully naked.

Go nude on the balcony

A pic of her bare boobs pressed against glass. Balcony? Elevator? Shop window? Fridge section of a grocery store?

- she came close enough with these two during one of little weekend away type holidays. I got the boobs on the window photo from our balcony after dinner one night and then, the next morning, got one of her fully naked on the balcony folding up the towels. It was very early in the morning and I don’t think she got seen but still, it was fun.

Get the mail naked

- there was no mail to get but one night, after a couple of margaritas, she did walk to the mail box and back, completely naked.

Skinny dip in the pool when friends are around

- paid this one after she skinny dipped in my mate Steve’s pool, which led to more than just a skinny dip that night.

Send sexy photos to another man

- she sent bikini shots to Tom well before they ever properly got together.

- She sent the same shots to a guy we met through some dog training we were doing, I actually though, for a while, that there was a chance she might have sex with him. He would have been the first but it didn’t eventuate.

Go to a nude beach and spread your legs to give all the men full visual access.

- this is almost a common occurrence now. It was one of her dares the first time it happened. Then, a couple of times, I asked her to do it when a particular guy used to come and sit near us. She has probably done it, or bent over in front of a guy, at least another half a dozen times now without me asking. That’s the deliberate times, I’m not counting the incidental stuff that happens when you’re naked on the beach, just when she has very deliberately given someone the full show.

Sext someone

- she did some mild sexting with the dog training guy, she told him she would make him tap out if they ever got together in a bedroom and said something about how her oral skills would be something new for him (there had been blowjob inferences in what they were talking about at the time).

- she did some really dirty stuff when she was trying the adult dating profile thing, with two guys that she thought about taking things further with (before she got cold feet). She very explicitly talked about sucking their cocks and how she would love to taste their cum. One of the guys asked where he could put his “big Italian cock” and she told him no holes were off limits, she even told him something like “yes, I would love to feel your big bare cock cumming in my arse.”

Openly talk dirty to another man on the phone in front of your husband.

- she did this with Grant one night before he came home for a weekend (she really was quite dirty too).

Be spanked by someone

- Grant and her regular massage guy have both done this for her, it is something she has always loved.

Talk dirty in the bedroom, tell me what he’s doing to you.

- this used to be a sometimes fantasy thing, before anything real actually happened. (Now it happens frequently and a lot of what she says is real).

Get a lap dance from a female stripper

- we did this nearly a year ago, the last time we went away for a few nights. She had a sensual massage, with one orgasm, in the afternoon then we went to a strip club the night. Louise had a private dance with one of the girls, one she thought had the sexiest arse ever. Then we sat by the stage and paid a bit extra for two girls to get it all off right in front of us.

Another guy gives you a nude massage.

- has happened with four different guys now, one was actually very early in our marriage, but it was non-sexual.

Another guy gives you a nude, sensual massage. With orgasms.

- I have lost count of how many individual times this has happened but she has done it with three different guys, just once with two of them, then heaps of times with her now regular, local guy.

- I am hoping for a repeat visit to the second guy this summer, with more to happen this time.

Touch or hold your masseur’s dick, through his jeans is ok but not preferred.

- this happened a fair bit with the first massage guy, she held and squeezed his bare dick after he basically put it in her hand. Interestingly, she didn’t actually tell me about that bit for many months, she was too worried I’d be jealous and get angry.

- she felt the second guy’s hard on, against her arm but didn’t touch it herself.

- her regular guy is usually naked and she does more than just hold his dick.

Suck your masseur’s dick.

- this has only happened with her regular guy.

- still hoping for it to happened with the second guy if/when we head interstate and include a visit with him again.

Have sex with your masseur

- as above, it has only happened with her regular guy. There isn’t much they haven’t done now too, except for something mentioned below.

Make out with someone

- well, that has happened with four guys now

Give a hand job

- Grant, Tom and the regular massage guy have all had hand jobs. I would love there to be someone, maybe a stranger, that it is the only thing she does with him.

Receive oral sex from someone else, double points if I get to watch

- all four guys have enjoying going down on Louise, I have watched it with three (not the masseur).

Give oral sex to someone else, double points if I get to watch

- ditto, I have seen it with the three.

Send texts telling your husband what another man is doing to you

- maybe not quite to the letter of this one but she has texted me, between fucks, to tell me what Grant has been doing to her.

Spit roast - suck one cock while getting fucked by another

- she has done this with Grant and Tom, with Grant and me, and with Steve and me.

Do anal with someone other than your husband

- both Tom and Grant have been lucky enough to do this. Tom has done it twice, I don’t know how many times with Grant now but I’d guess at least three or four. She said the first time with Grant was quite scary, as he’s big, but she was surprised how quickly she relaxed and started to enjoy it. It is now something we do far more regularly that we ever did before, I especially love doing it when she has her vibrator on her clit. Feeling her orgasm while I’m in her ass is pretty amazing.

Don't clean up before letting your husband fuck you after getting fucked

- yeah, ok, this has happened plenty of times now. After all four guys actually. It used to be something she said she couldn’t understand and, even if she did ever sex with another guy, she didn’t want me to have “sloppy seconds.” I can’t help it if my dick gets really hard after she has been fucking someone can I?

Jerk a man off in a hot tub across from your husband

- I paid this one because it has happened in Grant’s swimming pool. Close enough. She gave him a full handjob (making him cum) while I sat next to them and watched.

Fuck another guy with your husband watching

- I have watched her with Grant and with Steve a couple of times

Fuck two other men with your husband watching

- Just the once. With Grant, Tom and I taking turns and them doing it to her together while I watched.

Go on a vacation with another man for sexual adventures - text and send pics to hubby at home

- paid this one as she had a dirty weekend away with Grant once. I got some dirty texts but no pics. It’s another thing she is paranoid of, the boys accidentally intercepting naughty pics or them sharing across our cloud accounts.

Have bareback sex with someone

- all four guys have done this now.

Have someone cum inside you.

- as above, all four guys have done this

Find a boyfriend for regular sex

- Tom would have fit in this category.

Try dp

-she first did this twice with Tom and Grant before I got to experience it.

- the first time was with Tom in her ass then, later that same day, the other way around.

Do something sexual that you’ve never done with your husband.

- per the dp above one, I had only dreamt of this before she did it with Tom and Grant.

- this dare is one that I can put out there again, now that I have been lucky enough to do the dp thing too!

Sucking two guys

- I don’t believe she has tried to get two into her mouth at the same time but I have watched her take turns on Tom and Grant as they sat side by side on the edge of Grant’s pool and again, in his bedroom, as she knelt in from of them.

And that is it, for now at least. Finding some new sexual dares, to include in the ten, is going to be tricky. she has now done almost everything I could have ever dreamed of.

Finally, here’s the other 51. I need to pick my next top ten soon.

Wear a dress that is very see through, with sexy underwear

Go braless in public

Go braless in public while wearing something a bit see through

Flash your boobs to another man in public

Wear a thong bikini at a public pool or beach

Wear a sexy bikini top, preferably too small

Take sexy or nude photos in public places, upskirt, bend over, flashing

Wear a bikini that goes see through when wet, then get wet

Wear a very small or micro bikini

Give a down blouse view without a bra on

Answer the door wearing something sexy

Answer the door in just a t shirt and sexy undies

Answer the door topless

Answer the door bottomless

Answer the door in a towel

Answer the door in a towel and drop it

Give the landscapers/repair men a show (I could probably almost pay this, given that she did go braless under a t shirt once, something she just never does)

Go topless in the hot tub when friends are around

Go nude in the hot tub when friends are around

Send nude photos to another man

Get a small risqué tattoo, or one in a private place

Change into your bikini at the beach, you must be a little bit careless

Stay topless on the beach for a while

Change into your bikini at the beach, it can be quick but make no effort to cover up

Do a nude walk, outside somewhere where there is some chance of being seen

Perform the hallway challenge

Go topless on the balcony

Pantyless in restaurant, short dress, one that is risky

Same as above but flash the waiter

Submit a sexy review photo to an online shopping site

Naked in hotel spa

Let a guy feel your boobs, clothes on

Let a guy squeeze your arse, clothes on

Let a guy feel your bare boobs

Let a guy squeeze your bare arse

Let someone finger you

Have sex with a stranger

Send a picture of you holding a big cock

A female gives you a nude, sensual massage. With orgasms.

I watch a guy give you a sensual massage

Have a threesome with another man and another woman

Make husband lick your clit while another man fucks your pussy (I’m not sure I actually want to do this, at the time I picked it to be a little controversial).

Have someone cum on you and pic for hubby

Give someone a blowjob and pic for hubby

Have someone take naked pics of you on their bed and send to hubby

Shower with someone and Skype it for hubby

Have sex with more guys since you've been married than you had sex with before

Have sex on a boat

Be a unicorn for another couple

Go down on another woman

Have an MFF threesome while I watch (there is no point in even listing one where I participate).