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How to Get Your Guy Into a Chastity Cage

1. Tell him why you want to place him into a chastity cage.  For example ”I want you to always be your Horniest around me’ or “ I hear all the time from women how this will greatly improve our Sex Life” or “You Know I want total control of your erection my love.

2. Start Cheap. I recommend a cheap device from Ebay. Search for Male Polycarbonate Chastity.

3. Put it on for him. Be careful and extra gentle, the first time takes a while. If he has groin hair down there, leave it. He will discover he needs to shave on his own. Shaving himself will be his gift to you, if you want it. Tell Him that you Love it…

4. Put his clothes on and take him out somewhere (like to dinner or a walk on the beach) where you can both see how it feels while walking, sitting etc.

5. When you get back home he’ll want it off ASAP, Tell him you’ll take it off but only later. Visually tease him with lingerie & your sexiest clothing (purposefully bending over… ect…). Eventually Take it off of him and Have him jack off for you – following your precise instructions - Make sure he Cums Really Hard (and make it memorable), It’ll be the last time he Freely Explodes for quite a while.

5. Then have him put it back on himself. This is usually the time he will bring up shaving. If he wants to shave, have him do it right (as instructed). Downward strokes. And after have him put deodorant on it, Not lotion or oil as so many recommend. You want that freshly shaved area to remain dry to prevent razor bumps.

5. Tell him after he locks it and hands you the key, he will be in it for three days. That’s just enough time to drive him absolutely crazy with your lingerie & sexiest skimpy clothing. 

6. For the next three days, Introduce him to his nipples. Have him wear a T-Shirt and lightly play with them frequently. Not nipple torture, light pleasure. Explain to him (WHY), that the nipples are directly connected to his brain and prostate area, thus giving him much better Orgasms. With repetitive training he can eventually have an orgasm that feels great, but leaves him beautifully hornier. This will take the attention off of his inaccessible penis while giving him a new path to pleasure

7.  Monitor and inspect him not only daily but every few hours. Check for his comfort. This might not be the right cage for him. It can be too tight over time or too loose and pull out.

8. On day three he will really want sexual activity if you’ve been visually teasing him properly. It’s time you introduce him to his first ruined orgasm. Be sure to Tie his hands behind his back or to the bed first, then take the penis portion of the cage off Only, Leaving the ring on around his balls. As slowly and seductively as possible, suck, stroke or play with him until he is Fully Erect (the ring you left on him will mystically accelerate this process). Then just make sure to let go of his “Joystick” just as he is about to Erupt. Always remember, It’s Better to stop 15 seconds too early than 1 second too late. You can always stroke/edge him more if you need to. This will ensure that his ejection is not pleasant for him, and over time he will not want it any more. Anyhow when he’s finally deflated enough, Lock him back up (using a cold wash cloth with ice if necessary). This time WAIT for 7 days. 

9. Have him really practice / concentrate on using his nipples for pleasure. After some repetition he will be able to release some oozing boy juice into his cage relieving some pressure from his balls, but more importantly he’ll keep getting hornier and hornier.

10. On day 7, make sure you tie him up again before removing his lock and cage. Most likely He’ll spring to life almost instantaneously. Keep him as Hard as Possible - as Long as Possible, Strategically Prolonging his Desperate Erectile Situation with Frequent Sustaining Breaks. “Enjoy’ your escalating feminine power as you (most ardently) Edge Him for as long as your heart desires. Handle him “Delicately” until you’ve Eventually given him another perfect ruined orgasm. At this point both his Libido and Dopamine levels will be hyper peaked and His psyche will be Astonishingly Horny and Exploitable. This is the perfect opportunity to mount his eager face if you so desire. Keep in mind, His Manhood will stay Quite Erect for a good long while after a ruined orgasm. Needless to say, When you’ve had enough, lock him back up in his cock cage. Keep on this effective 7 day schedule until he’s utterly begging and promising to do (Anything) - whatever you ask of him, without delay, if you will only Let Him Cum Profusely. Upon the day of your choosing, After a Series of Exquisite Ruined Orgasms, Mount his “Empty” Traumatized (But Extremely Virile) Erection for the Ultimate Subjugating RIDE of a Lifetime - Whatever Duration You Choose - Trust me Ladies, It’ll be the Best Sex of your Life.

Now you have a Humble, Good Boy - that wants nothing more than to Please You ! ! !

troubleshooting your chastity lifestyle - part 1/2

i will often get messages from followers about problems that they are having in their chastity relationship. lets start the new year by trying to fix some of these problems. instead of responding to everyone individually ill be spending the next few posts answering some of the common problems people are having.

many keyholders have expressed frustration that they aren’t quite getting the submission and/or the loving attentive and affection husband that is promised by chastity. or they are getting it for a little while and then it goes away. i’ve noticed some common mistakes that people are making…

1, avoid the “lock it and leave it” mistake. chastity is NOT something that can be passive! keyholders must play an active part in the game being played. the surest way to fail to achieve all the benefits of chastity is to just lock your partner up and ignore him. in fact, this will likely have the opposite effect causing frustration (the bad kind) and resentment.

you should be doing something every single day that engages him with reguard to his chastity. this can be fun exciting things that take time and effort or this can be as simple as a comment about his cage, a joke or a tease about it, grabbing his cage in the kitchen, or demanding a picture of his cage when he is out of the house. for the love of god though, you need to do at something!

2, avoid what i’ve heard people describe as “traffic jam chastity”. this is when you don’t keep him locked, teased, and denied long enough. understand that in order to get to the sweet spot of chastity you need to have a minimum amount of lock up time (plus constant teasing). this will vary by each couple but it is certain that only having him locked for a few days at a time will result in failure. i suggest at least 4 weeks at a time. ideally more! it takes time for him to build up sexual tension and frustration and to convert that into constructive emotions and actions. if you’re unlocking him too often then you will never reach the promised land and every time you unlock him, you’ll have to start over.

some keyholders are worried about being “too strict” and keeping him locked for too long but you should remember that if you’re already in a chastity relationship then he wants to be locked up! unlocking him is likely the opposite of what he wants. still, if you are worried about how long you keep him looked and denied then play this fun game: chose a number of weeks that you think is reasonable to keep him locked for. maybe like 6 weeks to start. write it down. tell him that you’ve chosen a period of time for his next chastity sentence. tell him that he has to also choose a period of time and write it down but if he chooses a time period less than what you chose then you will double the your number! (ie if you chose 6 weeks and he chose 3 weeks then he will be locked for 12 weeks! oof…) but if he chooses more than what you’ve chosen, then that will be his new sentence (ie if you chose 6 weeks and he chose 7 weeks then he will be locked for 7 weeks). this is a fun game that also let’s you know exactly how long he thinks is appropriate.

3, As the keyholder, you must set clear rules and expectation. you have to make and enforce your will. do you want nightly back rubs? make it a rule. want him to clean the house? make it a rule. want him to give you and orgasm. demand one. i’ve been giving many examples of things you could do to keep chastity spicy. pick a few and do them on your terms. he is probably starved for this kind of attention and if youre not giving it then no wonder he is acting out! chastity is a give and take and the more effort and energy you put into it, the more benefits you will receive from it.

more FAQs and trouble shooting to come.

Lauren Southern

There are so many great ideas out there to try with his chastity.

Wedding today, and learning how his marriage will be female Led

and later that evening he experienced his first spanking as a married man

then the consummation of the marriage

and they lived happily ever after