I Fucking Hate The Boredom Aspect Of ASPD

Transgender people in my phone you’d better live you’d better love you’d better live long enough to become old and annoy your great grandnephews you’d better watch trashy movies you’d better meet new people you love and hate and forget and remember you’d better hang in there for better and worse you’d better smell the dust after the rain and remember that you’re alive and full of beautiful sturdy bones you’d better hold onto that friend and never let them go you’d better keep living and living and living and never stop

i wish all narcissists reading this a very big kiss on the forehead

you are simply the very best ever!!

i love the way you persevere through life even though there may be challenges.

i love you narcissists soo much. you truly are so talented and wonderful. you light up every room you enter and amaze everyone in your life.

you deserve the entire world ❤️

i think it took me so long to realize i have NPD because part of my narcissism is masking my symptoms too be better than people.

even though the fact i’m getting ignored is pissing me off, i’m not gonna lash out- because that’d be immature. and the people ignoring me right now are immature. and i am better than them. so i will be mature about this.

i’m not going to point out i’m better than most people (even though i am) because that’d probably hurt their feelings, and hurting people is below me. i’m better than that.

ARE YOU A FELLOW NARCISSIST LOW ON SUPPLY???

well look no further!

literally just dm me and i will spam you and compliment you and shower you in affection bc you deserve it

Nobody apologized for how they treated me they just blamed me for how I reacted

Inspired by @arrgh-whatever's post on helping ppl with BPD

Edit bc I forgot to add this: Being vulnerable means smth different for different ppl, something that could read as being vulnerable to you can read as just another Tuesday for someone else

ID under the cut

[ID: a simply-drawn comic, narrated by a person coloured-in in pink.

Panel 1: The pink person narrates: "So there's a lot of "signs your ex is a narcissist and how to deal with them" and it's not very accurate. So here's how to actually "deal" with a narcissist from someone with narcissistic personality disorder."

Panel 2: This panel has the heading: "1. Supply." The pink person narrates: "People with NPD have very fragile self-esteem, and supply is what keeps us from having a mental breakdown. Supply can be many things, but often attention and praise are effective. Stuff like "Wow! That's super cool!!" can go a long way." A person is shown saying this to another person, who smiles.

Panel 3: This panel has the heading: "2. Criticism." The pink person narrates: "Oh boy. So narcissists take things as personal very easily. It's because if anyone contradicts our delusions that we have built our entire self-image on, it feels like you are attacking us as a person." There is an example shown, where one person says "hey, you were a bit too rude back there," but the other person hears "You're an awful dick no-one likes." The alternative manner of phrasing is suggested as "Hey, you were a bit too rude. You're cool, but some people took it poorly." The second person in this example thinks "I'm still a cool person. It's not my fault, but I can do things to be better." The narrator continues, "We don't really understand the concept of a harmless mistake."

Panel 4: This panel has the heading: "3. Boundaries." The pink person narrates: "With narcissists, setting down strict boundaries is very important. 1. Knowing we have hurt you because you didn't set down boundaries can really upset and annoy us because the delusions that we can do no wrong and know you best get broken. 2. If you let us break boundaries, it can lead us to see you as "weak" and devalue you. Communication is key."

Panel 5: This panel has the heading: "4. Anger." The pink person narrates: "So people with NPD tend to be prone to anger. This is a defense mechanism, because to us, it's either facing the inaccuracies of our delusions and having a mental breakdown, or blaming something else. We do not mean to lash out; we just don't have the skills to cope properly. You can help by: 1. Letting us express out emotions without judgement; 2. giving us praise or attention; and 3. Distracting us from what angered us." Each example of how to help is accompanied by a small cartoon.

Panel 6: This panel has the heading: "5. Other NPD things!" The pink person narrates: "'Love bomb, devalue, discard' is actually: we are genuinely obsessed with you and want you to recognize us as cool, we lose that obsession and move on, we feel threatened in some way and lash out. We can't really handle being seen as vulnerable. We take sympathy and empathy as pity and pity as you telling us we're weak. Not acknowledging we're being vulnerable and acting as if nothing is wrong can be helpful in these situations. People with NPD have a very warped view of reality. We do not mean to hurt you and often do not realise we have. Remember, this won't work for everyone, and talking is very important."

/end ID]

Ty to @aromanticsky for the id

Pro tip: if you know a narcissist who tends to oscillate between “I’m upset, why the hell isn’t everyone rushing to my side?” and “I don’t want to talk to you, I’m upset” a good solution to this is to talk to us, but as if we’re not upset.

Ignoring us while in a fragile state is narc language for “look how much fun I’m having while you’re busy crying. Look at me being so not concerned about you at all. You don’t even affect your surroundings, because if you did the world would stop until you felt better, but you’re basically nothing and everything is moving on without you.”

Trying to help or comfort us is narc language for “I think I understand what’s going on better than you do, and I’m making it your problem. My advice is to stop being upset immediately and do whatever I think you should. I’m now going to explain things you already know about the situation as if you’ve never known a damn thing in your life.”

So please for the love of god, just come over and talk to us like you wanna hang out. Don’t ignore us. Don’t attempt to solve or even acknowledge our emotions. Just say hi and ask if we want to hear a song or something. Make a joke or a compliment. Talk to us like everything’s going normally, and we’ll more than likely start to go along until we feel fine.

Nine times out of ten, what we actually need is just some basic company and supply.

Idk if this makes sense but could you make a flag for AFAB transfem boy? and variation if you want/nf ofc

Here ya go! Hope you like it! AFAB Transfem Boy and AMAB Transmasc Girl

NPD Resources Masterlist

[BPD]

The official resources masterlist for NPD. Includes all the links I've shared in the past and stuff I haven't.

Any posts I've linked about supporting those with NPD have been put in the misc section because I do not want to take away from what this post is really about, which is helping people with NPD, not the people around them.

Diagnostic criteria

NPD diagnostic criteria, rewritten by someone who has it

Official diagnostic criteria

An explanation of the diagnostic criteria

Recovery resources FOR the narcissist

NPD recovery resources

How to find therapy for NPD, common types of therapy and signs of an abusive/toxic therapist

Narcissist supply

What is narc supply?

Things that can give a narcissist supply

NPD stigma

The perception of NPD symptoms vs. how a narcissist might actually experience them

Why those with NPD have a hard time seeking help (spoiler alert: it's not because they're unaware)

A plea from someone with NPD (and some resources debunking common misconceptions)

Narcissism is not abusive / abuse is abusive

Debunking common myths on NPD

Common disproven myths about NPD

Miscellaneous

How to support someone with NPD

NPD Carrd (What is NPD, dpt skills and self-help)

Unravelling the connection: npd as a trauma response

NPD terminology (do's and dont's)

NPD safe blogs

@empath-abuse-awareness

@enigma-in-reality

@loverofmirage

@the-npd-culture-is

@nicepersondisorder

@theegosystem

@mischiefmanifold

NPD positivity so you don't have to go looking

Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead

Reblog to tell your local narcissist that they're the best ever

Happy NPD appreciation day

Positivity for systems with NPD

Be normal about narcissists unless it's to give them love

NPD should be EPD (Epic Personality Disorder)

Of course I have a praise kink, I have NPD

Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful

Positivity for narcissists who like sex

I love my narcissists

Aromantic narcissists are amazing

Narcissists I love you

Easy ways to spot a narcissist (it's not what you think <;3)

Narcissists deserve to be loved

As usual, if something needs to be deleted because it's wrong/comes from a toxic author/etc. please let me know. I tried to look on Google but all I found was ableist shit, so these are all found by your fellow narcissists on tumblr :)

Edit: If you have any resources, please send them to me through an ask or DM and i'll check it out/add it!

AFAB transfem / FtMtF / female-to-male-to-female transsexual & AMAB transmasc / MtFtM / male-to-female-to-male transsexual pride flags ⚧️