Hey Let's Start Spreading The Reminder Now That You Cannot Safely Self-manage An Abortion With Herbal

There was a time when rough sex meant some hair pulling, mutual scratching (nails down backs or w.e.) and biting kisses, maybe a spank or two to a butt cheek and was more about the quality of the thrusts involved than it was the rest of the actions. Rough sex was desperate, hurried, rushed, and a bit animalistic, but it was more often than not a mutual level of roughness. The fact that BDSM has gone incredibly mainstream has taken what used to be, in my mind, an acceptable level of roughness to something considered "vanillas" by most people and instead introduced things that at the time I was discovering sex were considered hard core -> gore into the every day lexicon and sexual expectations of the porn addicted adult is incredibly concerning. Even those within the scene are growing increasingly alarmed at what is going on in the new scene where the "rights of passage" aren't being upheld. Where people are doing these incredibly hardcore scenes without any kind of education on the safety backups integrated into them, where they aren't checking in on their partners, where they're either unable or unwilling to read their partner's non-verbal cues. I was talking to an older professional leather butch a few months ago about this, about how there's been this shift away from safe & sane to an attitude that as long as it's consensual in the beginning it's fine for a growing number of faux-doms who got all of their education on BDSM from the kink castle's pornos and have never been a sub under someone else. These faux-doms can not manage to maintain arousal outside of a scene and that the focus has shifted from the subs' needs and desires to those of the dom/domme. Face hits were taboo, even in the scene for a long time, especially closed fist ones. Now we have doms openly bragging about punching subs in the face. BDSM has expanded so rapidly and warped so much darker than it was even 10-15 years ago in comparison to what it's become now.

whenever someone says kink is unethical they’re not talking about how you’re into feet or whatever, they’re talking about men who beat, choke, and pretend to rape their girlfriends during sex and play it off like it’s #progressive

Anyways, BoyToy and I are now planning a renfaire weekend.

Actual Conversation Today Between BoyToy and I:

Me: 😷 I wanna snuggle

BoyToy: Not happening.

Me: I know 🥺

BoyToy: You got ADv and I got strep. What kinda bioweapon you trying to create?? 😂

Me: With you? The kind USAMRID would lock up. 🥹👉👈

Him: 🤣🤣🤣 Go back to sleep, I'll see you when we're both healthy.

There are about 2 people I'd let mess with my glasses: My best friend, and my boy toy (who has never actually seen me in my glasses and doesn't know that I've never really seen the details of his face particularly well up close) I'm far sighted and have occasional issues with vertical nystagmus in my right eye due to a traumatic brain injury as a teen so I don't generally wear them since I do alright with compensating unless it's night time or I'm dealing with a migraine. But! They've expensive as hell with fancy prism lenses, like 4 different specific coatings, and they're an older frame style that I just buy new lenses for every few years. The lenses alone cost me almost $500 with my insurance. My best friend has touched my glasses twice during wine and whine nights when I've passed out on the couch, and boyfriend doesn't know they exist, but he's going to figure it out fairly soon because I'm sick of not reading before bed when he comes over.

Read enough stories featuring characters who very notably wear glasses, and you start to notice certain trends in romantic scenes.

All of this! I love natural materials; they last beautifully, are easy to mend on your own, and don't look dingy after 3 washes. The only real problem is you must learn how to do laundry properly rather than dump all of your clothes together into the washer with 2 tide pods and then blast them with the dryer 1-3 times. Like... A waxed cotton canvas barn coat is significantly warmer than my polyester polyfill jackets on drippy dark hikes, wool & cotton socks don't give me blisters, silk (actual silk, not nylon and elastane) stockings don't give me rashes on the backs of my thighs. Natural materials are your friends!

Idk exactly how to explain this but the softness of real wool and real linen is very different from the artificial softness of polyester “sherpa”, fuzzy faux-fur, spongey acrylic knits and people have gotten too used to the soft plastics and now associate wool with “itchy” and linen with rough and cotton with “too heavy” and then go and wear 100% polyester fleecy sweatshirts and say it’s so warm and cozy but actually they’re just staticky cooking in their sweat locked inside a plastic membrane and you are paying too much to be wearing filaments of petroleum products and the money isn’t going to the people sewing them either. I’m saying you all need to touch grass and the grass in this situation is good quality textiles made of natural fibres.

tribute to a maidenhair princess and large silly guy watercolor on paper. thanks for participating in this fundraiser (details)❤️

America be like "you cant have free healthcare or easy access to disability but you can have a gun"

It’s honestly traumatizing and my heart goes out to anyone who’s experienced this

I'd add one more to make this the perfect list: separate volunteering from one to evolve your mindset.

One to Give Back:

Finding a cause or local group in your area (not online) refuels your larger activism, offers networking opportunities with like-minded and morally aligned individuals, and fosters community engagement and your emotional investment in your community.

Examples: your local women's shelter, student government, your local animal shelter or rescue, soup kitchens, your local YWCA, your local Junior League, volunteering at the old folks home, joining the breakfast/meal team at your religious institution, getting involved with a community garden, or park cleanups.

five hobbies you should have 🎧

hobbies play a significant role in enriching our lives. they provide inspiration and make good use of your time and energy. here’s 5 types of hobbies that you should include in your daily life:

one to keep you creative. having a creative hobby is like giving your brain a delightful playground where it can roam free and explore new ideas. these types of hobbies provide stress relief and self expression, as well as growing in your skills and confidence. suggestions include: drawing or sketching, painting, baking or cooking, editing, creative writing or scripting, gardening, & crafting projects like sewing, making jewelry, knitting.

one to build knowledge. having a hobby that builds knowledge is incredibly valuable and helpful. hobbies of this type keep your mind active and focused. it is rewarding to reap the benefits of engaging in these hobbies, benefits like enjoyment, fulfillment, success, and problem solving skills. suggestions include: reading books, articles or journals, watching inspirational YouTube videos, learning a new language, studying history or subjects, & blogging.

one to evolve mindset. having a hobby that evolves your mindset is key to carrying out a successful life. these hobbies broaden your perspective, give you confidence in challenges, and make you more open to experience. suggestions include: traveling and exploring, volunteering or helping others, reading self help books, listening to a daily podcast, & time alone in meditation.

one to keep you in shape. hobbies that involve physical activity are helpful for staying healthy and maintaining a clear mind. they are fun ways to stay active, boost your energy levels, and improve your mood. suggestions include: yoga and pilates exercises, running or taking a light jog daily, dancing to your favorite tunes, cycling, & sports like tennis and swimming. weekly meal prepping is also a fun hobby!

one to make money. hobbies that make you money provide many benefits like financial security, turning your skills and passions into a source of income, and give you personal fulfillment. these hobbies also give you valuable experience and attract opportunities for expansion. suggestions include: running a blog, setting up an online store for products or services, selling handmade items, content creation for social media, reading financial literacy books, & working a job you enjoy.

if you desire to have less stress, improved mental health and better confidence, i encourage you to consider these 5 hobbies and make time for one of each type every day. they all provide a positive outlet to escape from daily pressures, ultimately contributing to a more fulfilling life. anything is possible! 🌱