Perhaps She Was The One Who Said,       Turn Around.

Black Mirror - “San Junipero”

thinking about the last scene of fleabag and how it’s about life still having meaning without an audience.........your best and worst and most boring moments still mean something with no one around to see them. our worth isn’t based on the perceptions of others and learning that is the first step to take toward growth

about periods

they’re the worst

make sure you have Comfy Clothes

heat packs/hot water bottles? absolute essentials

if you don’t have them, lying on ur stomach helps LOADS

if you’re feeling nauseous, the smell of peppermint eases the nausea. no one likes throwing up. if you don’t have an aroma diffuser, drip a few drops of peppermint oil into a cup of water, smell it if you feel like puking

chocolate !!! especially dark chocolate

hot drinks, like soup,,,,, or tea !!! hot tea is so nice during periods, and it has health benefits !!

ice cream is nice but not great for periods :( TEA IS GOOD !!!!!!

this list goes out to anyone who doesn’t have periods as well. if u know someone who has periods, know that cramps are bitches. help them out.

sometimes the nausea gets really bad, but ALWAYS REMEMBER TO EAT REFULAR MEALS. when u wanna puke eating is hard, i understand sweetie but even a snack. not eating makes the nausea worse.

if the cramps get real bad, remember to BREATHE. unclench your jaw, loosen your shoulders and neck, breathe in for 4 seconds, out for 5. repeat.

if there’s someone to rub ur back or play with your hair, ask them to !!

seriously, it feels better

periods are like small demon babies that bloat your stomach for five days and make u feel icky, you deserve someone to rub ur back for ten fucking minutes goddammit

keep hydrating. water, tea, whatevs. but hydrate.

pee regularly, change your pad/tampon regularly. REMEMBER THIS. set reminders if you need to.

play some chill music, watch a sitcom

REMEMBER THE HOT WATER BOTTLE. THAT SHIT IS A LIFESAVER

i’m lying on my stomach as i type this now and i feel the sweet warmth blossoming in my sad bloated stomach where the bad gremlin period baby is hiding

THIS GOES OUT TO PEOPLE WHO DONT’T HAVE PERIODS

THIS GOES OUT TO PEOPLE WHO DONT’T HAVE PERIODS

THIS GOES OUT TO PEOPLE WHO DONT’T HAVE PERIODS

THIS GOES OUT TO PEOPLE WHO DONT’T HAVE PERIODS

THIS GOES OUT TO PEOPLE WHO DONT’T HAVE PERIODS

THIS GOES OUT TO PEOPLE WHO DONT’T HAVE PERIODS

seriously please help us we are but sad uterus-bearing souls haunted by stupid blood babies

please

good luck period-bearers ily all

oh yea if you sleep a certain way (on your stomach, on your side, etc) make sure to adjust your pad so that you won’t leak

borax is good for cleaning period stains

AIVAZOVSKY, Ivan (1817-1900)

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Because of coronavirus, a lot of recent grads are moving back home. After four years (or more) of freedom, being back home is a big adjustment and it’s easy to revert back to our teenage behaviors. Here are some of the things I’m doing to feel a little more like a grown up while I’m living at home!

i. make your space your own

Just cleaning out your room can make a huge difference. Donate your old clothes and take your old posters from high school down. If you’ve got the time and resources, a fresh coat of paint or new bedding can also do a lot to make your old room feel more adult. You can also rearrange furniture to make a workspace if you’ll be working from home or applying to jobs.

ii. set boundaries

Lovingly set some ground rules about how you can best support each other. This is especially important if you’ll be working or taking classes from home – let them know you’ll be unavailable during certain hours so they don’t barge into a Zoom meeting. 

iii. build a routine

Even if you’re not working or in class at the moment, it’s important to be intentional about your time. The biggest thing that contributed to me feeling like a kid when I first moved back was spending my days watching Netflix and napping. Which are totally valid! But add in other daily activities, like taking your dog for a walk and making yourself a nice breakfast.

iv. make time for friends

I normally hate virtual hangouts, but they’ve been so important for my mental health during quarantine. Schedule a weekly Zoom coffee date with your group of friends. FaceTime your old roommates. Meet your high school bestie in the park and have a distanced picnic (don’t forget masks!). Having a support system is so important right now!

v. find new hobbies

This is the perfect time to try out new hobbies. Plus, craft stores have been having great sales since they know everyone is cooped up all summer. I found some really fun craft kits that I never would have tried normally, and now I’m the proud owner of a woven frog wall hanging. A few ideas: painting, tie dying, embroidery, yoga, running, learning a new language, reading, etc.

Having a long-term project to work towards – like a larger art project or trying to master a difficult yoga pose – helps to keep the days from running together.

vi. find ways to feel “normal”

Everyone, no matter their living situation, is feeling really upended right now. Find the little ways to bring back pieces of your “normal” life. Learn how to make your favorite coffee shop drink at home. Cook for yourself. Wake up at your normal time even if you don’t have to. Keep up with your normal exercise and self care routines – they’re more important now than ever!

👀Eyes Never Lie · The Handmaiden (2016) · Portrait of a Lady on Fire (2019)  · Ammonite (2020) · Carol (2015)

For when you need distractions

If you are bored or just need to distract yourself, here are a few cool things that may help you <3

• Do nothing for 2 mins

• Take an interactive 3D tour of our galactic neighbourhood

• For every question you get right on this vocab test, 10 grains of rice are donated

• Make your own galaxy 

• Make cool symmetric patterns

• Hacker typer - type any gibberish and it will make it seem like you’re a hacker hackin’ your way in a sci-fi movie

• Astronomy Picture Of The Day by Nasa

• Click to remove - a pretty useless game where you have to click on words to remove them from the screen. Recommended for people with adhd.

• I am awesome - it will tell you if you are awesome

• Engrish - misspelled word of the day that made it to hoardings (very funny)

• Spend bill gates money

• Gravity points -  a digital pen that lets you add gravity centers to any part of your screen.  The more gravity points you add, the more particles get absorbed, eventually forming a black hole.

Julio Cortázar, Hopscotch (trans. Gregory Rabassa)

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