i love it when terfs call themselves radical cause like, nothing more rad than falling for right wing pro establishment propaganda
Firstly, here. Second, seems pretty radical to be a radfem when even our most basic level speech on women's rights ignites the anger of EVERYONE
srry but i’m starting to dislike being a part of the “LGBT+” community. and it’s not even like everybody. it’s just being a lesbian is already hard and lately it feels harder b/c the label is being transformed to include everyone under the sun?? it’ll be non lesbians doing it then other “lesbians” just eating it up?? and nobody does this foolishness with gay men so it’s like?? we can’t have shit like omgggg do y’all get what i mean
love watching CBS News cause they're just clocking shit.
"Looking at this inauguration crowd, you don't see one person of color. I wonder why that is."
"People stood and clapped throughout Trump's inauguration speech, which is unusual. And it's notable that the former president's did not."
Sometimes it's really really concerning how much anti-psychiatry and anti-recovery rhetoric exists-- and for once I'm not just talking about endos, but even within the OSDDID internetsphere, especially in actively pro self dx circles. It's not to say that you can't or shouldn't work on things away from a healthcare team, but with chronic and intensely debilitating disorders it is rare, if not impossible to fully be "fine" without help.
Like. If you're experiencing dissociative amnesia or memory/identity issues in general (even when caused by things as innocuously treated online like ADHD if it's at a debilitating level), you NEED someone who isn't affected by those things in order to have a sense of grounding and heal. And it's vital for that to be someone who has a baseline understanding of how dissociative disorders work.
My caseworker calls are sometimes the only thing giving me any sense of the passage of time, and she remembers things during calls that I completely forget or dissociate through. Not even my partner can consistently provide this because of her time blindness, vs the professional who reaches out, doesn't have a disorder affecting her memory, and takes notes during our calls.
My therapy visits, as infrequent as they've been lately, are some of the only reason why we've made progress toward one of our alters no longer making contact with our abusers when she fronts, and that fight isn't over yet. My partner can't stop her from doing it-- she'll wait until they're asleep. They also don't have the resources or bandwidth to address with her why doing this is bad, and if they intervene incorrectly it increases the chance that one day I wake up in another state.
I get from firsthand experience that healthcare, especially in the US, is notoriously inaccessible, and in some places the facilities available are full of inexperienced, incompassionate tools who don't care about their patients. But instead of using that as an excuse to stop trying, instead of pushing others into not seeking care and not trusting doctors, that needs to get channeled into finding and providing resources.
Many states have government funded healthcare available for those below the poverty line. Many facilities offer payment scaling plans even without insurance. A fair amount of insurance companies that "don't cover this" will make exceptions if you go through other channels and get professional referrals. It's not easy, it's not always free, and it's not fast. For those underage, it may be awhile before you can legally access it.
But for the love of all that is sacred on this burning planet, do NOT discourage trauma survivors from trying to get psychiatric help over the potential of a bad experience or a bad doctor. You are not helping people heal and learn to love themselves. You are creating paranoia and enforcing a regressive mentality that can prevent someone from reaching out before its too late.
one time my university invited a motivational speaker and he started by talking about historical figures he found inspirational (like in business/economics) and then asked "what do they have in common?" and a girl in the crowd shouted "they're all men!"
Not sure who she was but I'll never forget her
“Doctors are human and fallible so that means that people should be allowed to just claim to have whatever illness they want if they feel like it!”
The only thing holding me back from the edge these days is knowing the butch experience of adopting a trans identity is actually almost universal and not as isolating and soul crushing as it feels right now. Every day I wonder if the world will ever accept me as a woman again when I look and sound the way I do. Every day I’m recovering from the confusion and self hatred that prioritizing how others perceive my gender caused. When I think about the shitty reality of how much damage my trans identity did to my body and self image, I have to remind myself that I’m not alone. All around the world, there are other butches like me suffering silently. Some are quietly detransitioning, others are stuck with that trans identity, holding the regret at bay and pretending like its all ok. Acknowledging them and feeling compassion for them is what allows me to have compassion for myself. I have hope for myself because I have hope for all of us.
We all went through adolescence envying boys because of our crushes on straight girls, we all rejected patriarchal beauty standards, we all struggled with the rise of social media, and we all mistook puberty, mental illness, sexual trauma, and internalized lesbophobia for gender dysphoria. We walked the same path right into that doctors office asking for testosterone. Right now its hard to see this first wave of detransitioners speaking out get bullied. But I have hope that in 5 more years, this generation of young butch women will be bonding over the hair loss, the surgery regret, the deep voice, the body dysmorphia, the sexual dysfunction, and the isolation of being a medically masculinized female in today’s world. We wont care that we can’t go back in time anymore, because we’ll know we aren’t alone. The worries of our youth will be left behind, and together we’ll be able to close that chapter and go on living with purpose again.
A lot of people on Tik Tok have migrated over to the Chinese app RedNote, and the Chinese users are so fucking funny about it. I saw one comment that was like "Welcome, I was the Chinese citizen assigned to spy on your data, I missed you"
Befriend and care for your local elderly women, if you want to be friends with much older people!
That middle-aged man or ‘transbian’ who is trying to get you to befriend him is NOT safe. He’s not. Get away from him and don’t let him guilt you into getting close bc you’re afraid of getting hit with the ‘puritan’ allegations.
It’s extremely disturbing to see so many young girls obsessed with older men and actively seeking them out. Despite what you may have been told this is not normal or quirky and is a sign that you probably need therapy. That grown man that’s giving you attention isn’t lana del rey vinyl, he’s a predator. You’re a victim of patriarchal oppression that targets young girls.
affirmations
i am a complex organism brutally engineered by uncaring forces of nature
i am a product of billions of years and trillions of deaths
i am building a machine greater than myself
i am able to make phone calls and appointments
When trans people say, "Kill terfs", "rape terfs", they're using their "transness" as an excuse to be violent to women and everyone is accepting it simply because they're trans and misogynistic.
Call me Lark! Detrans lesbian w/ a DSD (chimerism), and 21 years old. Gender-critical. Diagnosed OCD and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Wildlife enjoyer and proud masc lesbian.
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