So If Literally Everyones Biology Is Different, How Do You Even Define A Cis Woman? If Sex Doesnt Exist

a gentle reminder that you did well this year. you met new people, learned new things and felt new feelings. you did so many things that made you scared. you picked yourself up off the floor after feeling completely defeated or heartbroken. there were some really tough nights but you survived them all. you made people happy just by existing. you accepted many goodbyes but the serendipitous meetings made up for them. it was your own hard work that paid off but you always downplay it or compare yourself to others. that’s not fair on yourself. you’ve come so far from the first day of this year. you have more wisdom and strength now. yes, other people seem more “successful” but does that even matter? please don’t think so lowly of yourself to only think about your failures. 2018 was your year of growth. I hope you take a moment to be kind to yourself, and believe that 2019 will be even better.

Arizonans, help save reproductive rights in our state

A group, Arizonans for Reproductive Freedom, is hard at work to get an initiative on the ballot for November to amend our state constitution to include a right to reproductive freedom for every individual.

They need 356,467 signatures by July 7 to get it on the ballot.

You must sign in person. Fortunately, events are happening at offices and businesses throughout the state, mostly in Tucson and Phoenix, to aid this effort. You can find each one and volunteer to collect signatures at https://azreproductivefreedom.com/.

Because Maricopa County has the most people, I’ll copy that county’s locations below, but OTHER COUNTIES HAVE SIGNING LOCATIONS AVAILABLE AT THE LINK.

Maricopa County

Stop Dark Money Office 514 W Roosevelt St M-F | 10am-2pm

Maricopa County Democratic Party 1301 E Washington St M-F | 12pm-4pm

Brick Road Coffee 4415 S Rural Rd Suite 10 M-F | 7am-10pm Sa-Su | 8am-10pm

Copper Star Coffee 4220 N 7th Ave M-Su | 6am-5pm

Gracie’s Tax Bar 711 N 7th Ave Tu-Sat | 4pm-7pm 10pm-1am M-Sun | 4pm-7pm

Monsoon Market 3508 N. 7th St. Suite 140 M-Su | 12pm-5pm

Urbana 44th St. #202 M-Sa | 10am-6pm Sun | 11am-5pm

Urbana Scottsdale 44th St. #202 M-Sa | 10am-6pm Sun | 11am-5pm

Hidden Track Bottle Shop 111 W. Monroe Street #120 M-Sa | 12pm-6pm

Foothills Recreation & Aquatics 5600 W Union Hills Dr Sunday | 8am-11am

Toasted Mallow 1034 N Gilbert Rd #3 M-Su | 12pm-8pm

Salon D’ Shayne 1616 N Central Ave #101 Hours vary

Changing Hands Bookstore 300 W Camelback Rd M-Su | 10am-8pm

Thunderbird Lounge 710 W Montecito Ave M-Su | 4pm-2am

Tres Leches Cafe 1714 West Van Buren Street M-F | 8am-2pm Sa-Su | 8am-8pm

Virtue requires a delicate balance. 

being 25 is like: im dying. im living my best life. im a failure. my life hasnt started. everything interesting has already happened to me. im achieving my dreams. im cutting my hair with kitchen scissors. im starting a skincare routine. im a corporate professional. im a sellout. im out of groceries. i have too many groceries. i am never going to be successful. i am going to win a hugo award before im 30. im crazy. im boring. i need to finish this essay. i need to finish this story. i need to start a newsletter. i need to start tweeting more. i need to stop tweeting. i need to ghost all my friends. i need to tell my friends i love them. i need to find a new apartment. i need to take out the trash. i am the trash that needs to be taken out. 

welcome to 2023 :) happy out of touch thursday

Oh joy. I'm just gonna make a small note here that I read this woman's previous webcomic when I was 16-19, looking for sex ed entering my first relationship, I started reading it religiously for advice on everything from handjobs to anal to bondage. It had no small part in leading right into the deep end of fetish and the fetish community.

I made a FetLife account one my 18th birthday, literally the first thing I did when the clock ticked over to midnight. I wanted to do porn and go to week long kink camps. I'm so fucking glad I didn't, but I'm just saying how this *exact* language and treatment of sex and porn and kink can be harmful to teens. Let alone someone as young as 11. (the youngest I could actually see it marketed too, in middle school.)

But you know what? That's the problem. If we and/or the right actually succeeds in pulling this book from school shelves (which they should) oh joy sex toy and it's peers still exist on the web. With all of the shit they couldn't get past a censor, and you don't have to look your librarian in the eyes to get it... This is just a weird symptom of the sex ed problem being Very Bad for years and years.

Sorry , I just have to share these images from Trans propaganda book entitled Let’s Talk About It. Bc I’m so disturbed.

Apparently this book is/was available to kids as young as five years old (K-12 libraries).

All research and credit to this Twitter thread: https://twitter.com/xxclusionary/status/1660035667387088898?s=20

The creator included references for proof that the book is available to an age group starting at age 5. So check that thread if you’re doubtful that children as young as 5 have access to this.

1. Male and female bizarrely rebranded as “testosterone rich” and “estrogen rich”. Girl-dick and adult nudity straight off the bat.

Insinuates the default male and female relationship is a jock+ hyper-feminine damsel and that variance only exits via transition or w identities outside the m/f binary. Apparently impossible for a female gf to like sports and a male bf to not be hyper masculine.

Every black female depicted as androgynous or trans masculine. 1% of the population who take artificial sex hormones represented on almost every single anatomy page.

Transwoman cited as having broad hips and depicted as the most femme kind of women throughout the book. More girl-dick and “testosterone rich” /“estrogen rich” speak.

Graphic PIV sex depicted. Again, book available to 5 year olds.

How to Use Butt Plugs Guide. Again. Target audience 5-18. Even for 16-18 year olds, is butt plug usage something you casually get into at that age? It’s a hardcore sex toy. Why was this included?

Why does addressing the stigma against STDs have to mean presenting them as No Big Deal? Also dangerous if this book ends up outside of the US or Europe in developing countries where STI testing and treatment is still a struggle, health care systems are slow + underfunded and HIV/ AIDS is still a deadly illness.

“The internet is a great place to research kinks!”

Directing people under the age of 18 to search porn for sex and “kink” info explicitly against the guidelines and laws of most countries is so delusional and irresponsible.

The conflation of sex education with How To Fuck manuals for kids is a disturbing development. More needs to be done to give young people helpful information about their bodies and sexuality without veering into casual exposure to adult sexuality. Also, content should be better streamlined towards distinct age groups, with young babies being protected from more mature themes. And trans people, particularly white transwomen, being hyper-represented when they make up a tiny portion of the population is a disturbing bias.

just had a flashback to me in 3rd grade absolutely blissed out just staring at this pic

she says he won't let her get a dog, which is fine, because they're in an apartment, and that's the kind of thing people say about their partners. he won't let me get a dog. and you're at a dinner party and you tilt your head a little to the side just like that dog he won't let her get, because is this the thing that's going to upset you? you don't know every corner of their relationship, she could be joking, they could have had so many healthy conversations about the dog, right, and maybe she's not letting herself get the dog because of money and time and whatever. but, like, she did say let

and she wants to move away from his hometown and he wants to stay and then he tells you with a wink and a conspiratorial stage whisper don't worry i'll convince her and she laughs about it - so clearly this is something they laugh about. but you do just stand there and stare at him like what the fuck, man. you can't say what you want to say which is why do you get the final say on everything because they're both obviously aware of the other person's stance on this and have obviously had private conversations about it and what are you going to do about it except make a scene and then he'll be mad at you and call you one of those bitches behind your back and she'll cut you off, which is a loss that doesn't feel worth it just because he makes you a little skeeved out every 3rd comment

and they both agree he just isn't the type to get flowers which is fine because everyone shows love differently, and are you really gonna judge someone based on their sense of individual relationship responsibility? maybe he's constantly cleaning her car and writing her poems and making her furniture or something. maybe she doesn't even like flowers and this is perfect, actually. and no you couldn't date him, obviously, ew; but like, she tells you she's happy. you almost send her a tiktok that says don't be 25 and the cool girl that doesn't need anything, you'll hate not getting flowers at 30, but that's like, starting drama & you shouldn't start drama needlessly.

and you're a little older than her but not so much older you can pull the whole trust me on this one babe thing and besides that wouldn't have worked anyway (when does it ever) and besides you have trauma so you and your therapist both agree that you're always looking for a problem even when there isn't one. and you tell yourself that just because you see them for 15 minutes every month does not mean you can identify every single red flag based on a single shitty half-joking(?) comment

and besides, what are you going to do? she says i actually wanted another stand mixer but thankfully he stops me when i'm about to spend too much money and you're standing there like are you okay? is this normal? is this just something people say? and again - what are you going to do?

to your therapist you try to language it - it's not, like, any of my business. but sometimes, doesn't it feel like - you should do something. there's got to be something, right? you've tried dropping little hints but they sail right through and you've tried having a single serious conversation and she got upset because why does it matter to you, yes it's different but we're happy, it doesn't need to make sense to you and you're like. really unwilling to push a boundary about it anymore; because the truth is that you know logically it shouldn't matter to you, as long as both parties are happy.

and besides, you've been wrong before. it's just... like, every time you see them both, something else happens, some kind of shiver down your spine like do you even hear each other when you talk. it's their strange, bickering orbit. just the way he's on his phone through dinner or watching sports instead of helping in the kitchen or, fuck, another one of these little throwaway comments he makes about we'll see about that, babe. she laughs when he calls her passions stupid shit and meanwhile she gets him tickets to see the knicks and he tells you well at least she's smart about something and still! it's none of your business.

you say get the dog anyway and she laughs. like, this is is you being funny. and not you saying - no really. get the dog. get the dog and get out of here. pack up and start running.