An Article from Neena Susan Thomas
“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three is public restrooms.
7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.
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REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.
THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”
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Small artists you need to understand that when you see an artist who you think has 'made it' tells you not to worry about the numbers and to not fret about getting more likes than reblogs they are not telling you it because they think you are stupid for caring or because they dont need to network to survive they are very likely telling you that because they have witnessed first hand the way the numbers game tears people to shreds in terms of mental health and motivation
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it is very important that everyone blocks and hopefully also reports the following account.
They are going around being a creep and asking for CP. They are targeting mostly TADC artists.
Some screenshots below.
I'm sorry, but I need to do this. this post will be about the situation with my close friend, and how she was grossly slandered. the situation about the fact that she is a TW MENTION OF GROOMING groomer, which is utterly irrelevant nonsense, let's remember that when the situation happened BOTH parties were not 18 years old, and everything could be solved then with words. the only thing I don't fully understand is: why didn't the "victim" refuse right away? Why did you have to agree to all this if you were uncomfortable? what the heck is that anyway?? why then STALKER a person and condemn them for actions that were several years old? why spread misinformation that she didn't apologize when she apologized PUBLICLY on her twitter? (proof below)
she herself admitted to me what she did once, and that she sincerely regrets everything and apologized, but, as people understood, she was not heard. I'm just - I'm incredibly tired of people mistaking her for being a disgusting person, but she's far from that and hardly ever was. I know her personally, I communicate with her personally almost every day, and she is a very kind and comfortable person to communicate with! it's certainly terrible that she did such things once, but she clearly understands and realizes that she behaved incorrectly, and APOLOGIZED TO THE VICTIM!!!! And, according to her, not just once. but what did she get in return? right, stalking on social networks and bullying from people who do not know the situation from both sides, because it is so difficult for people to let into their brain that people can change over time.
this all happened THREE, THREE YEARS AGO...why can't you people, kind of even educated, accept that people can actually apologize for their actions and become better people? why stir up the distant past purely for your own benefit? I read the situation from the side of the victim and sincerely laughed, because I had not read such nonsense for a long time since the time when I adored fanfiction. Where did you get the idea that she refuses from the whole situation? she did the right thing, apologized and forgot about everything that happened, she just DOES NOT WANT to remember it again! For her, this is the same traumatic event in her life!
why can't people forget about that too? I myself had traumatic events in my life similar to this, and even worse, but instead of spoiling my offender's life, I forgot and worked it out with a psychologist! (I was 12, they were 19) I understand that there are different people and everyone’s brains are different, but what’s the point of remembering the same traumatic event over and over again and thereby bullying another person, not knowing whether they has changed or not?
Hey guys, I know it’s been a while but I’ve been busy and I do want to try and show more of my art but I want to get the main characters of my blog first so with that being said
Meet Mad Frost Hatter, she’s as mad as the winter is cold and she’s Cheshiresnowcat’s girlfriend
(Side note : for all the white spots on her clothing, they are just their own thing. They are not part of her skin. Unless it’s her face and her arms, not counting her gloves, It’s it’s own thing. )
Hopefully, I get the rest of the characters out so I could show off more of my art
See y’all later and remember
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All of the illustrations I’ve done so far with designs by my little sister and I!
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