That Ask Is A Bit Too Relatable 💀💀💀

that ask is a bit too relatable 💀💀💀

When I was a kid I associated with the term ‘tomboy’ a lot because I didn’t want to be seen as feminine. Gender ideals had always felt restrictive to me so my 7-year-old rationale was along the lines of ‘tomboys get to do boy stuff while also being girls, so that means if I become a tomboy I can be whatever I want!’

It probably also had something to do with being autistic and unable to relate to the other girls around me or feel included in their gendered social dynamics. The shared experiences and community of being a girl was never something I was a part of, so I sought out something else on my own.

Finding out what being Agender is was honestly really freeing. I can define my identity to myself and pick out my relationships without having to conform to or oppose gender attributes and stereotypes. I’m not a woman or a man or another specified gender, I’m an autistic artist and a bunch of other things too :D

I'm glad you figured it out! Gender norms can be confusing, even if one doesn't have a gender.