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Reblog if all you did this year was become more gay.

i’m just gonna leave this here as a reminder that “hitting bottom” doesn’t mean “staying on bottom for the rest of your life and dying as a piece of crap”

I am desire

I am passion.

People need to hear this!

Dear teen girls,

Stop abusing your boyfriends and yes what you are doing is abuse.

Stop:

Yelling at him in front of his friends 

Hitting or slapping him when he does or says something you don’t like

Telling him he doesn’t have a choice when it comes to decisions that involve both of you 

Telling him he can’t hang out with friends because you don’t like him

Telling him to not talk to other girls even if they are his friend

Forcing him to spend every moment with you 

Belittling him and pointing out all his flaws

Calling him stupid or making fun of him for making a mistake

Threatening to break up with him if he doesn’t do what you want

Being emotionally manipulative and crying until he does what you want

Accusing him of cheating every time he’s not with you

Blow up is phone if he doesn’t text you every five minutes 

Telling him you are the must thing that has ever happened to him and no one else will love

Physically attacking him when ever you are mad

Forcing him to have sex despite that fact that he said he didn’t want to

Invading his privacy by going through his phone

Getting mad at him for changing his password and demanding he tell you what it is

If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abuse but since its the other way around its considered normal. Throughout High school I saw many girl treating their boyfriends like shit. Sometime even physically abusing them in the hallways and no one trying to stop it because its a girl attacking a boy. 

Boys: If your girlfriend does anything on this list leave her. It is abuse and you deserve better.

Girls: if you find your self doing anything on this list to your boyfriend you need to knock it off because you are being abusive. 

misha babe i love you

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Monomyth II: The Mentor

Another Monomythic element Joseph Campbell identified was the Mentor. The mentor is wiser, older, and more worldly than our soon to be hero. They also offer the necessary bit of encouragement. Classic examples include Merlin in Arthurian legend, Obi Wan in Star Wars: A New Hope, Moiraine Damodred in the Wheel of Time series, and maybe even Bayaz in the First Law trilogy. Vogler in his famous missive identifies “the crusty Robert Shaw character” in Jaws as a mentor.

As a DM, you can use this mentor as a tool to provide knowledge, quests, and a safety net for low level PCs. After a few levels, the mentor can make the ultimate sacrifice to raise dramatic tension. 

Knowledge Most heroes start as young foolish mortals who have decided to leave the safety of the town for the first time in their lives. They often know very little of the world beyond their homestead. The mentor can fill in this gap by being a large warehouse of knowledge for the players, even adding the occasional cosmic overview (“…the thing about a shark, he’s got lifeless eyes. Black eyes. Like a doll’s eyes.”). Mentors never tell their heroes everything, the impatient protagonists aren’t going to listen anyway. The truth is hidden, overly simplified, or, if your father was seduced by the dark side, from a certain point of view.

As DMs we are all thrilled with our endless world crafting, but in reality players don’t care after four sentences. If the mentor is spouting pre-written lore, compress it down into into its barest elements. Think about how Obi-Wan explains the force to Luke: “The Force is what gives a Jedi his power. It’s an energy field created by all living things. It surrounds us and penetrates us. It binds the galaxy together.” The Star Wars Religious Experience in sixteen seconds.

Quests Along with knowledge the mentor can also give quests. This allows the DM to nudge players in a certain direction or even call them to adventure. Mentors can also use their knowledge to impart the importance of the quest to the PCs. For example, Obi Wan gets tapped for a quest to save a princess, and then drags Luke, Han, and Chewie to go along with him. Moiraine requests that Rand, Matrim, and Perrin travel to the White Tower with her. The forest spirit tells Logan to meet with Bayaz.

As a DM you need to be careful to ensure that your wizened mentor isn’t running the show. While they can offer initial quests, their influence wanes as the heroes grow in strength and knowledge. They shouldn’t be telling high level heroes what to do.

Safety Net Low level heroes are idiots. Time and time again they go off into the wilderness only to come tumbling back, bloodied, broken, and bruised. Sometimes our characters even need to be rescued. Strangely enough, mentors often have just enough magic to save everyone from certain destruction. Obi-wan saves Luke from the Tusken Raiders with a call from Krayt Dragon. Moiraine saves the town of Edmond’s Field from Trollocs with a well placed “ball of fire”. How many times does Gandalf save… everyone?

While a mentor can save the low-level party from a TPK, remember that he or she won’t always be around to protect the party. At some point they will stand against the darkness alone.

Increasing Dramatic Tension So for the first 5-8 levels, the mentor has been aiding our adventures. Saving their butts when the adventure got too real, asking them to keep the dark lord imprisoned, and dropping the occasional, if obfuscated, knowledge bomb (“Dude, Vader totally killed your father…”). Hopefully your characters have come to know and respect their mentor as a friend and a honored member of the adventuring party. So far so good.

Now, if you are familiar with all of the examples that I have been spouting, what happens to all of them?

Obi-Wan: Slain in a duel with Vader Moiraine: Presumed dead after a fight with Lanfear Quint: Eaten by Jaws. Gandalf: Dies fighting a Balrog. Merlin: Beheaded or disappears, depending on the tale.

Half way through the story, the mentor is killed by agents of Darkness. Although their spirit may live on to spout lore (from a certain point of view) or the mentor may even get resurrected, but for now the heroes going to have to face the darkness alone.

If you use a mentor, this is an utterly important step. Remember the adventure is about the heroes not the mentor, and like the flamboyant Mercutio, she or he cannot be more fun than the PCs. Use this to your full advantage. The death of a mentor should increase dramatic tension and provide meaning. Gandalf’s fight with Balrog, Obi-Wan’s with Vader, and Moiraine’s with Lanfear are all excellent examples of this. The mentor makes the ultimate sacrifice because they truly believe in the heroes.

Pulling it all together Although not required for a good campaign, this is an expected trope, and stories can feel empty without someone filling this role. If used with care, an NPC mentor can enhance the game at lower levels, and ultimately increase the dramatic tension in the story. Here are a guidelines to follow when using a mentor:

While the mentor can be more powerful than the heroes, the he or she shouldn’t steal the spotlight

Avoid long winded speeches. Keep pre-written lore to a minimum and don’t flesh it out. This allows the story flexibility to bend to player agency.

Mentors should only be for low level characters, once the players get past Level 5 or so (in D&D 5e) the mentor should take a reduced role.

The mentors should be respected by the PCs, this may not be time for a “bumbling” character

These are just guidelines, bend and break the trope and see what happens.

The Final Bits: Variations on a Theme Once you understand the role of the mentor in a heroic story, you can begin to play with trope. Maybe you can collude with a PC (who starts a few levels higher) who acts as the Mentor to the rest of the party. If they sacrifice themselves for the party, their death would be ultimately more dramatic than the death of an NPC.

Or maybe, the mentor is only interested in using the PCs as pawns in their schemes (Bayaz from the First Law series is a good example of this). How are the PCs going to feel if, time and time again they saved the Mentor, only to be wrapped up in his schemes for power?

Playing against the expectations this trope provides can be just as dramatically powerful fulfilling them.

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Reblogging because fuck tumblr! I have a similar story to this and I have been dming people for a long time about trying to figure things out. I hate that things must end this way.

Please, sex possitivity, talking about it showing it to one another, living it and discovering it is the only that we can grow.

*I wrote this a few days ago, but I’m shy, so…

I’m trying to find the words to describe how I felt when I logged on to tumblr today. It’s so much more than porn to me.

My first tumblr was erotic art. I still follow my favorite blog from that very first tumblr. She talked to me once, and I remember thinking about how that was so cool, I could actually talk to the person who was creating this art.

I started to “like” other things, things I thought I might like to try, things I thought could communicate to my partner what it was I needed. I’ve never been very good at finding porn, so it was amazing to have this tool for communication. I’m the type that will DO the really nasty, dirty thing, but I will never, ever say it out loud. (I’m working on it.)

I started to search for things, anything really. I figured if I found every single type of porn it would somehow give me an idea of whatever this “stuff” was that I was into. Until then I’d been sexually adventurous, with a high sexual drive, but I didn’t really know anything except vanilla sex. I searched everything. One thing led to another and another and I went on this crazy ride of self discovery. I have never fallen more deeply in love with anything in my life, and it changed the course of my dreams.

Sexuality has always fascinated me, but I never realized how much, or how deeply until I started that search. This time it shifted everything for me. My dream has always been to go back to school to become a therapist, but I realized I wanted my focus to be on sexuality. I started learning how to become a sex therapist.

There’s only so much you can actually learn about sexuality here, so I took my research elsewhere. But for MY personal research, for MY sexuality, I stayed here.

I stumbled on this little bubble of tumblrs that all seemed connected somehow, that all posted the kinky type of things I had learned that I was into. (Before tumblr I was terrified to ask my partner to slap me in the face. Terrified.) What I had stumbled into was the BDSM community on tumblr.

I read everything. Absolutely fucking everything. How the hell did these girls know exactly how I felt inside? Maybe they’re just really good writers, maybe I’m just identifying with these emotions because I’m being empathetic maybe, maybe…

I denied being submissive for a while. For as long as I could. Until I just couldn’t anymore. I’m not “just kinky” as much as I wanted to be.

I got a few more tumblrs. I dove a little deeper with each one. Once I even reached out to another member of the community and told her all about my vanilla relationship. She told me I could start over and that it was ok to have these needs. I bought a couple of her books because she was so much like me.

I always thought about writing here. But what was I going to say? I’m a submissive stuck in a vanilla relationship and I can’t leave? There were other submissives who had vanilla partners, but they were with their partners because they loved them. I was just stuck. And it hurt so bad to see everyone have the thing I needed so badly.

Eventually I wrote. I decided to keep a JUNO journal this year. I decided to leave my vanilla relationship. I met my Dom on tumblr. I’m starting my life completely over.

I wouldn’t have known any of this if it weren’t for tumblr.

Obviously there’s more to my story, and this is just a glance at all of the things I’ve gone through in the past 3 years here. But it just has to be said because it’s ending.

Maybe this is good for me. Maybe I need to branch out a little bit instead of staying in this little comfort zone. God knows I spend hours upon hours on this site. But tumblr ending is like a little piece of my life ending. I regret not writing more, not reaching out to the tumblrs, especially the women, who changed my life. So I guess that’s kind of what I’m doing now.

@darkmekare @amysubmits @cherished-property @dwpreturns @instructor144 @fireflyflashes @littlemisssubshine @pleasurewhore (even though those two are gone now) @cynicaldom @female-orgasm-denial @i-could-be-the-walrus @sadisticgames

You all literally helped change my life. Reading your posts made me realize I am submissive, and now I get to live it.

And of course @ombratoire for being the best Dom ever 😘