1. Emphasise Your Waist While Balancing Out Your Figure.

Would going on estrogen effect broad shoulders? I have really broad, fairly masculine shoulders and they make me really dysphoric.

Chrissi says:Unfortunately not my sweetpea…

Oestrogen does not alter your skeletal structure, unless taken pre puberty, and even then, if you have broad shoulders then it wont help you. I’m sorry lovely, there's a lot oestrogen can do, but it can’t do that… :(However, if they make you dysphoric, there are some things you can do to help with that.Here’s a Chrissi special top tips list peeps! ;

1. Emphasise your waist while balancing out your figure.

Think peplum, it cinches your waist but the flaring on the bottom balances out your shoulders. Also, omgosh pretty.

2. Avoid tops with detailing at the shoulders, or balance them out with volume on your lower half.

If you have a beautiful top with detail on the shoulder, pair it with a flowy skirt that balances out your shoulders and lower body.

3. Embrace the skater skirt, she’s your friend.

Skater skirts flare out to balance your lower body with your upper body, so even with a detailed top, proportions are balanced.

4. Yay to scoop and v-necks.

Wearing lower cut tops keeps the attention away from your shoulders, leading the eye down instead of from left to right.

5. Avoid structured shoulders and pads.

Shopping for the perfect blazer or jacket? Try finding one without structure or padding, or remove the pads for a sleeker look. If your favourite blazer or jacket is padded but awesome, pair with a flowy skirt or patterned pants to balance your lower half out.

6. Sport a long necklace.

Like v-neck tees, long necklaces bring the eye naturally downward.

7. Pair a dark top with light bottoms, creating the illusion of a narrower upper-half.

This doesn’t have to mean sticking to black on top and white on bottom, as long as the top is darker than the bottoms, your figure will appear more balanced.

8. When choosing tank tops and halter necks, the thicker the strap, the better.

The more material between the neck and shoulder, the smaller your shoulders will seem.

9. Know the types of tops that will accentuate the broadness of your shoulders.

Strapless and off-the-shoulder tops lead the eye to the shoulders, sometimes making them seem even wider than they naturally are. Avoid the extra attention by pairing one of these tops with a bottom that adds volume, or go for a full-bodied dress. Because sexy sexy sexy.

10. Make sure the seam lines on your shirts and jackets actually fall on the edge of your shoulder.

The seam lines on your shirts and jackets are made to fall on the edge of your shoulder, so if they’re anywhere closer in toward your neck, it will make your shoulders appear further extended.

11. Go for a diagonal cut sleeve, rather than horizontal.

Horizontal sleeves will add weight to your shoulders, while a diagonally cut sleeve will soften the area.

12. Choose jackets and cardigans that elongate your figure.

Cropped jackets look boxy, which can make your upper body look wide and short, accentuating your shoulders.

13. Sign yourself up for a drawer full of dolman sleeves.

A dolman top’s sleeve has a dropped seam and usually a wide top and narrow wrist opening. Due to the natural slouchiness of this garment and the dropped seam line, shoulders appear slouched downward, not outward.

14. Puffy sleeves, though cute as hell, will definitely draw eyes to your shoulders.

The puffiness extends the shoulder line and adds bulk to the top, so balance the perfect puffy-sleeved top with a patterned pair of bottoms or perhaps a skirt of a lighter colour than the top.

15. Invest in a kimono top.

The extra material in a kimono sleeve flares out past your shoulders to minimize them.

16. Choose dresses and tops with an empire line.

Empire lines cinch under the bust line, thus drawing attention to the smaller part of your torso rather than your shoulders. Dresses that are full and flared will give additional volume to your lower half, drawing the eye downward.

17. When sporting a collar or lapel, go for something thin and narrow.

For shirts and jackets: go collarless whenever possible to minimize attention to that area.For blazers: a narrow lapel will bring the attention down and in, whereas a wide lapel brings attention outward.

18. Trick an observer’s eye downward with detailed bottoms.

Embellished skirts or patterned pants paired with a plain top will bring the attention down low instead of up top. Ruffles, pleats, beading, lace, and patterns all fit the bill on this one.

19. If you’re going to wear skinny jeans, pair them with a plain top.

While glorious for boots weather, skinny jeans taper your lower body, making your top half look more voluminous. Pair with a v-neck tee or a top like the one above that draws attention downward and you’ll be good.

But honestly, do what works for you, girl.

Own it. Work it. Love it.

Followers, feel free to add on!

Transfeminine Presentation Resources Masterpost

(For a transmasc version of this post, click here)

Some of this could also be useful for other feminine people and transneutral people who were camab as well! And of course feel free to add to this post if you have more good links and/or info to share.

& the obligatory disclaimer: transfeminine people can present however they want. There’s absolutely no obligation to do the stuff listed here.

Chest:

Optical Illusions

Bra Sizing

Buying a Bra as a Trans Woman

For flat-chested people

A post about bras

Non-fetish options

Using Socks

Bra inserts: one, two

How To Stuff Your Bra

“Chicken cutlet” bra inserts + Where to buy

GenderMender

TheBreastFormStore + Size Fitting Guide

Amoena

For swimming: one, two, three

Tucking:

Safety

Pain and related issues

WikiHow

Video

Explanation

Explanation #2

Underwear

DIY Gaff

Hair:

Hairstyle Guide

Pintrest hair inspiration: one, two, three, four

How to Take Care of Black Girls’ Hair

Egg Treatment

Wig Info

The Do’s & Don’t For Wigs

Wig Buyer Guide

Hair Extensions

Hair Extensions Video

Short hair: one, two, three, four

Voice:

Voice Analyzer App

Eva Voice App

Voice Training with Singing

Voice Traning for Trans Girls Video

Voice Training Regimen

Free Trans Voice Resources

Trans Voice Subreddit

Nails & Makeup:

How To Nail Polish Video

Makeup For Beginners Video

Feminizing Makeup For Trans Women Video

Makeup Tutorials For Black Girls

Hiding Facial Hair Videos: Part 1 and Part 2

How to Cover 5 o’clock Shadow Video

Clothes:

Thrift Stores

Shoes

Dresses

Dressing Like a Grown Ass Trans Woman

Dressing for Broad Shoulders

Tall Girl Resources

Discrete

Butch / tomboy

Sizing: one, two, three

Swimwear

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cassidyrose53

6 years ago

Just in case this needs to be said:

It’s the first draft. Use the word “suddenly.” Put as many dialogue tags and adverbs as you want. Say “he saw” “she remembered” “she felt” “they wondered” as many times as you need to. Put the em dash there, put in too many commas, use semi-colons with reckless abandon. Type in [whatever] instead of thinking up a title for something. Just write it. If you worry too much about the particulars, about all the advice posts you’ve seen saying whatever you’re doing is wrong or not good enough, you won’t get anything done. It will slow you down as you go back and try to reword what you just wrote to make it better, proper. The first draft doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be done. And when you get to the end, you’ll find that all those “mistakes” are just clues for your future self to put together to make it all better.

Putting in adverbs and certain dialogue tags are a note for you as to who is saying something and how they’re saying it. When you’re editing, you can make sure it shows through the story instead. The word “suddenly” is a reminder to make things more abrupt. The first draft is just you mapping out where you want to go and how you want to get there. Don’t waste time trying to get it 100% right now, because then it will never get done. Don’t think too much– just write. Save the thinking for editing later.

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cassidyrose53

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Reblog if you think asexuality is normal and valid

Trying to cheer up my ace sister @galpalaven

We’re not broken people. Aces are normal people, nothing is wrong with us. Please show your support

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cassidyrose53

7 years ago

Are there any LGBT dating sites/apps that aren't Grindr? I'm over 18 so age isn't an issue, but the amount of transphobic people on Grindr (I'm a pansexual trans girl, pre-everything) and the people just looking for hookups make it impossible to use.

personally, i’ve used Her in the past. it’s original purpose was for lesbians, but it’s definitely super trans girl friendly, as well as just trans friendly in general. funnily enough it’s actually where i met my girlfriend-turned-best-friend back a few years ago. tinder is like….okay. it really depends on where you are in terms of people, but it is definitely trans friendly. interestingly enough fetlife is pretty trans friendly, but the interface is total garbage and that’s definitely more for the kink crowd and that’s not everyone’s cup of tea.

i hope this helps!

~kacie

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Secret Recipes To Try At Home

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cassidyrose53

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Things almost every author needs to research

How bodies decompose

Wilderness survival skills

Mob mentality

Other cultures

What it takes for a human to die in a given situation

Common tropes in your genre

Average weather for your setting

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*hears footsteps* *closes 12 tabs and goes to facebook*

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cassidyrose53

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Makeup basics for all my girls out there. Learning to do your make up properly can be pivotal in how you feel about yourself, how confident you ultimately are in yourself as the woman you

This is for my girls out there… fundamental makeup basics are essential ladies…doing your make up well has a big impact on how you feel about yourself- from your confidence in public to making you feel sexy or more feminine. (Hint… Practice makes perfect girls)

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