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How do you figure out everyone's names?

question 46:

🕷️BlipBugBug🕷️

hey shout out to plurals with "frustrating" or "socially bad" traits.

plurals who seem indecisive, "hot and cold", disloyal, dishonest, etc. to others due to subtle switches, passive influence, being median, amnesia barriers, etc. between headmates with very different opinions, wants, and moods

plurals who have headmates with "scary" attributes/symptoms, like hallucinations, delusions, anger issues, hypersexuality, low/no empathy, selfishness, need for attention, etc. especially those afraid they're perpetuating the "evil alter" stereotype

plurals who never know who's fronting. especially those with memory barriers, those who struggle with feeling any sense(s) of personhood, and/or those who struggle to keep close bonds with people due to this

plurals who struggle with meltdowns, tantrums, outbursts, pathological demand avoidance, poor sense of social norms, and other tendencies/issues that make being social or just existing in public difficult

plurals with fluctuating sexualities and/or triggers that make it difficult to remain with a partner/partners (or to date in the first place)

plurals who infight in-system and have trouble making decisions without intense internal backlash

plurals who have trouble keeping self care (and may go out of the house dirty/disheveled) due to other mental illness or due to frequent fronters being unmotivated, forgetful, or having sensory issues or triggers that interfere with self care tasks

plurals whose "self defense" relies on people pleasing, avoiding stressors, getting overly defensive, or getting angrier than "reasonable"

i write a lot of this cause i need to hear it, and i figure others do too. you are loved, you are appreciated, you deserve to be a part of society, you deserve to be happy, you deserve to be understood and given patience... you deserve to be able to create, love, heal, be respected, be treated like your own age, to lead, to have a voice, to feel safe.

is your system a council or a twitch chat

- 🥀

rb this to give the person you reblogged from a very tiny frog

Love to all the ‘scary’ caretakers

Caretakers that are also persecutors

Caretakers that swear a lot

Caretakers that aren’t good with kids

Caretakers that look like something out of a horror movie

There’s no ‘right’ way to be a caretaker

One thing that might be helpful as an aid is a heated body pillow. They're about $100, but it can help to simulate hugging. The combination of that and a weighted blanket works particularly well. Cheaper option would be a heating pad & a regular pillow, you might already have those laying around. It won't be quite as nice, but it could still help.

Combining visualization (within a headspace situation) with hugging someone who is co-con can also work well. And combining all of these things can work *very* well.

How do I hug my headmates and have them actually feel it? They're cool and deserve hugs :]

Hello! I relate to this a lot,

Now I'm not familiar with stuff in headspace or an inner world as we don't really have one. However! I often will hug the body/ourselves, with the To Be Hugged in front or co-con with me, and that works. In fact, all physical affection we want to show to one another and feel it is through the body .. it's actually really comforting ^♡^

There are likely other ways, and this may not work for everyplural, but this is what we do! I hope they get their hugs <3

you deserve all the safety and love and care and joy you begged the universe for as a child

I have decided to kin for fun so i am now a character that I share a name with because he has good taste in hobbies and a massive cock