Traumagenic And Endogenic Headmates Aren't Enemies By The Way. Sometimes They Play Minecraft Together.

protector culture is being so used to protecting the host that as we get better and better you start fearing you won't be needed anymore, even if everyone in the system still says they love you and that you matter beyond your role

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Some wips~ and I have a blue sky (polararts)

bastard sounds great in an irish accent. if an irish person calls you a 'daft bastard' it just feels right

the welsh have the monopoly on things ending in hell. fuckin hell and bloody hell hit different in a welsh accent. its like music to my ears

the scots have piss and shite for sure. "its pishin it doon out there" "this is a load of shite" absolute poetry

if i may speak for the english i think we do penis related words very well. dickhead, knobhead, twat, etc.

and for all the shit we give them, you gotta admit that no one can deliver a 'goddamn' quite like an american. theres a certain weight to it that you just cant achieve in other accents. when an american says goddamn you know shit just got real

Love to all the ‘scary’ caretakers

Caretakers that are also persecutors

Caretakers that swear a lot

Caretakers that aren’t good with kids

Caretakers that look like something out of a horror movie

There’s no ‘right’ way to be a caretaker

I’ll write a post on here that clearly says “I don’t believe anyone should ever be forcibly institutionalized in any circumstance” and someone will reblog and tag it “I totally agree, nobody should be incarcerated except my family member with BPD/schizophrenia/*insert stigmatized diagnosis here*, sometimes people just need to be locked away for their own good” and I’m like no…you don’t totally agree & I don’t think you understand…I mean that all people deserve bodily autonomy, including the people you’ve been conditioned to believe are the most scary, inconvenient, and burdensome

Hi!! We’ve recently discovered we’re a system, and your posts have been immensely helpful.

Currently, we’re trying to improve intra-system communication and get to know each other better. Do you have any ideas for activities that might help with that/activities we could do together? Thank you! :)

Hi! I think a little tip is to treat this as making new friends/getting to know your friends, because often that's just what it is! Obviously there are differences, but still. And communication is different for everyplural, sometimes systems need to really focus and meditate to talk, other times they just need to be doing something to call one another to front or have something to focus on. It's important to figure out what works for y'all :]

So what we personally really enjoy doing is things like board games, card games don't really work for us but if we're co-con/front board games are really fun, and often require enough communication to strengthen it but not too much that they're unplayable without it. Plus they usually work for our younger headmates who sometimes feel left out from our older ones

So some fun activities could be, that I could think of hehe:

Just asking questions : including truth or dare and such, 20 questions, you can even look up ( or buy if something physical would help ) questions for groups, etc. A great way to talk and get to know one another

board/cardgames : as I said, these can be really fun and are 'compatible' with a lot of systems, especially board games were good for us early on

making picrews of yourselves : if you're unaware, picrew.me is a site people can make character creators on that others can then use. This can help not only with communication but we find it helps differentiating ourselves, it's also fun to just make characters up together!

^ a game we play is one person makes a character, and then we all get to make up a backstory and such for it. Picrew isn't even necessarily needed for this

arts and crafts/creating in general can be really fun plus you get something out of it. Anything and everything art wise can be a really fun group project, even just all of you doodling something personal on a sketchbook can be fun and is a great way to get to know one another

exquisite corpse/consequences : not a game we can always play, but when we have played it's been really fun so it gets an honorary mention ( look it up if needed, I didn't even know the name and we'd always called it various things like "paper fold game" or "the nonsense character" lmao )

story/option games : now these for us always result in arguing(/affectionate) on what choice to pick, but games like these are also really enjoyable for us and require a lot of communication to do

^ puzzle (games) also

what do you individually like doing? Why not try out each others interests or hobbies! if you don't have any or aren't sure, find some together and see what you enjoy!

and that's just a few activities/games to both get to know each other and in consequence have communication ingrained in them, and personally the best way we've improved our communication is just talking and talking!

Other systems are highly encouraged to add onto this! this is just what we could think of, and have personally tried

Good luck getting to know each other!! ^_^

Also no idea what this is but it was included in the original placeholder draft and.. I've grown fond of it..

getting attached to a piece of media where a character is split into two (or more) or has multiple people in their head is probably a plural canon event

sometimes being a system is like having a twitch chat in your brain but sometimes its like banging your head against the wall in the dark to find a switch that will send a working-but-very-dim bat signal to the other side of the world and just praying they’ll see it and understand

Hey, it’s not your fault. You were just a kid. You may still BE a kid. But I know a few things for certain:

You didn’t ask to be born into this world.

You didn’t ask to be treated the way that you were treated—whether it was by bullies, parents, or other family members.

You didn’t ask to “be a burden” to your caregivers, you deserved that space to be loved and safe

You didn’t ask for your consent to be broken.

You didn’t ask for the shame and guilt someone put you through.

You aren’t bad for something happening to you. You aren’t your trauma.

I’m sorry if you were ever made to feel that way, and I know that may never mean much coming from a stranger, but I know it’s something I wish I heard more.

Oopsie, forgot to post here! Work from home CaitVi request!!