being abused or neglected really makes it clear how many things are skills that nobody really treats as. skills. exercising autonomy is a skill. listening to your body is a skill. resting is a skill. being liked and being loved are skills. nobody tells you how to do this shit because nobody even told me I was supposed to have learnt these things when I was a kid. I kind of just have to manually figure out what makes me freak out and work from there. unfair as shit
my biggest advice for (especially but not exclusively new(ly discovered)) systems is... to take everyones advice with a grain of salt. whats good for one system is catestrophically bad for another. a lot of posts frame their advice as perfect and infallible (which i doubt is intentional on the posters part), but it really isnt. just do what works best for your system.
A recent post breached containment so I think it's time for some rent lowering:
Trans children should have the right to undergo the correct puberty at the same time as their peers.
Puberty blockers were only ever a compromise and should not be seen as the end goal of trans advocacy.
I've never had an entire account that's just mine before and that's what we're trying to do with this one now. Going back and forth on if I want to stick to the plan (main blog inactive except for long articles & maybe shit we both like if my host is cofronting/coconscious) or if I want to have different shit on each one.
Like my other one could be art and shitposting & this could be system shit and whatever I don't want to put there. I've been putting system shit on the other one with everything else but I keep going real tag-heavy when I post about that and my theme makes that hard to read. I don't want to change themes because my shit is ~aesthetic~ and I like how it looks.
But I don't know, I feel like it should be ~cohesive~ and if this blog went from my host's Vi thirst traps and whatever else to what I'd be posting then it wouldn't be cohesive at all. Have to decide what to do there. Looking at the posts here up until yesterday and it all feels so "not mine" that I feel weird taking it over. But I don't want to delete it all either. We don't delete each other's shit. So I don't know.
Well this is how I found out too
POPE FRANCIS IS DEAD
not what I was going to write . but fine
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(bleeding from my wound) notice anythiung differebt about me ;)
my boyfriend’s purse goat with bonus rag bunny
the essentials