Imagine A World Where, If You Deadname Someone, You Legally Have To Change Your Own Name To That Name.

Imagine a world where, if you deadname someone, you legally have to change your own name to that name.

Possibly a better world than our own...

A while back my pharmacist saw my deadname on my profile and accidentially called it out, he corrected and deleted my deadname from the system so only my preferred name shows up now. There was a crowd of people behind me, so as he hands over the pills he apologized, in equal tone and volume as when he called my deadname and lied saying it's been a long day and he didn't mean to call out -his own- name. I quietly told him it was fine and he didn't need to do that for my sake.

His response: "No, it's my name now."

I went to the pharmacist yesterday, his nametag is my deadname. He informed me he's immigrating and in the process he's changed his first name to my deadname to have an English sounding name. That's why he's now able to get a reprint of his nametag to be my deadname. And repeated, with the intense seriousness of someone who is going to die on this hill: "It's mine now. Not yours. I'm taking." His tone indicated that decision is final.

Bro literally deadnamed me once, and has committed to flat out stealing my deadname. It's his now. Legally. Officially. I over heard his co-workers call him by the name.

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3 weeks ago

Oikeesti rakastan suomenkielistä musiikkia! Noista sun mainistemista kuuntelen ite oikeestaan vaan cmx:ää (Vallat ja väet, Kain, Olet tässä yms. on niiiin hyviä), toki tiedän suurimman osan enemmän tai vähemmän. Omiin kuunteluihin kuuluu kans Happoradio, Apulanta, Haloo Helsinki, Tehosekoitin, Itä-Hollola Installaatio, Uniklubi, Ursus Factory, 51 Koodia, ja hyväl tuuril kans pari jotka unohtu. Kiinnitän kans paljon huomioo biisien sanoihin, ne on aik kivoi (ja oon monesti myös harmittunut kun (hyviä) sanoja ei löydy netistä).

Kaipaan ihmisiä jotka nauttii suomenkielisestä musiikista. anssi kela, cmx, pmmp, lasten haustausmaa, zen cafe, puhelinseksi, salaliitto, musta valo, ultra bra, maija vilkkumaa, teini-pää. mitä näitä nyt on. tunnettuja ja vähemmän tunnettuja. mulla ei oo koskaan oikeen ollu kavereita jotka ois jakanu mun musiikkimaun, ja vaikka oiski sietäny tai jopa tykänny niin ei varmaan samalla tasolla. ite aina obsessioin biisien sanotuksia, ja harmittaa kovasti jos niitä ei löydy netistä.

suomenkielinen musiikki on parasta musiikkia.


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3 months ago

4) from what I've learned from all the queer spaces I've been in, the boxes dont actually exist and the best spaces are the ones that dont put you into a box, and you kind of forget that the boxes exist in the first place. Straight is just another sexuality, and a queer space that doesnt make a divide between cishet and queer people feels usually the most comfortable. Just people facing each other as people, not as members of a gender or a sexuality.

Now that I read this again it doesnt actually read like an added point to this list, more just me dumping my thoughts. I kinda like it that way.

I'm kind of at a point where the "queer spaces" i feel safest in are the ones that have a pet cishet dude or two hanging around


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2 weeks ago

Holy shit im so good at getting existential crises from listening to bands with dead singers at 3 am


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3 months ago

And to this day I still read it as I shit the gay, and it takes conscious effort to think of it as anything else

Before I knew what istg actually meant, I tried to decipher it by using the first words that I came up with that fit the thing.

What I came up with:

I shit the gay


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3 months ago

Walked past some 12 year olds spray painting 'sus' a bunch of times on a wall outside.

2 of them had also climbed to the top of a light tower.


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3 months ago

nah it was huomenna by uniklubi

When I am listening to songs in Finnish or whatever, I often get stuck up on translating some of the words to english. Not like in an "I cant think of a translation" kind of way, but in an "I wonder how translating this like that would affect the flow of the song" kind of way.

Anyways, today I was listening to a song that had the words "olen surullinen", or "I am sad" in English. I noted how the Finnish version is much longer than the English one, that "sad" translates to "surullinen", a much longer word.

Then I that rabbit hole of a thought went a bit further, and I realized that the the Finnish word for "sadness" is much shorter, "suru", even though it is longer in English.

A nice enough thought on its own, but the hole goes deeper. I went on to think about why this is, and realized that in English, the adjective "sad" is the base form from which the language derives the other forms. In Finnish though, the base form is "sadness", which basically is the essence of being sad, the noun, from which the language gets the other words. And from this perspective of having the noun be the base form, being sad could be interpeted as having the essence of being sad. Thats what the "-llinen" ending in "surullinen" (the adjective, the feeling) means, having something or similar.

Not really sure if there is a point to any of this, just reflecting on how different languages "think" and also discovering a part of why translating songs between English and Finnish is so hard.


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3 weeks ago

Like as much as the guy annoys me otherwise, I gotta say Neil DeGrasse Tyson's analogy of the golf player sums it up really well.

There's something about atheism that I've repeatedly tried and failed to put into words on several posts on this blog but I think I finally got it.

Atheists are the only religious minority who, even (or sometimes even *especially*) in ostensibly progressive spaces are not allowed to ever act like they're sure of their beliefs.


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1 month ago

Move to the Ivory Coast, start a cocoa farmers' union, help them fight for better workers' rights and better pay. This raises the price of your chocolate cereals, making them harder to get.

For an increased effect, repeat in Ghana.

Hey does anyone have suggestions on how do I make myself stop eating my own weight's worth of chocolate cereal every single day. Entertaining both good and bad ideas. Not having it in the house is not an option. Rendering the cereal inedible or unpalatable in any way is not an option.

3 weeks ago

This is also my opinion on gender

There's something about atheism that I've repeatedly tried and failed to put into words on several posts on this blog but I think I finally got it.

Atheists are the only religious minority who, even (or sometimes even *especially*) in ostensibly progressive spaces are not allowed to ever act like they're sure of their beliefs.


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2 months ago

I once killed a fly with my eyelids


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