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Your guide to REAL selfcare

If you go on any social media and type "selfcare", all you recieve is pretty girls doing extravegant skincare, dior makeup and all. But the problem is everyone does the same thing and things just cant work same for everyone. Also, It doesnt feels authentic rather it feels like consumerism. So, I am gonna tell what to do so you feel the best.

Knowing yourself:-

You can only do yourself a favour if you know yourself and the best way to do that is JOURNAL.

If you are new to it, then you can search journal prompt ideas on pinterest and make that a part of your routine. It helps so much.

Do shadow work. Go on pinterest and do the same thing.

Dont be ashamed of yourself, rather accept yourself and change for the better. When you'll journal then you will get to know tons of good and bad things about you but our brain loves to focus on negative things so u might get stuck on that.

Record your likes and dislikes. Which books you loved, which dramas you adore, which food makes you comfy and which movies you wasted your time on. Record these things, this is just so fun and helpful when you feel "bored" or sad.

Being Mindful:-

Most of the time, the problem is not that big but our thoughts just traps us and we feel that problem is bigger than it might so take a step back and try to not overthink about past or future.

I know this is easier said than done but meditating helps a lot with mindfulness.

When you watch a movie or drama or even ytube video then just do that. Dont scroll reddit reading the "discussion" thread of the episode or try to find instrumentals on spotify for reading books. Just do one thing at once.

Dont multitask. Just take a task and then focus on that. (This might not work for neurodivergent people.)

Do 5,4,3,2,1 grounding technique. Identify

5 things you can see 4 things you can feel 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell 1 thing you can taste.

Cut negative people off

This is so hard because you feel mean for doing this but once you cutoff toxic people who just drags other people down and all they talk is negativity then your life become so much better.

Cut off all the negative content you watch and limit the time you spend on social media.

Do your future self a favour

This is truly the best selfcare.

Study hard cause' your future self will thank you for letting her be the top student

Learn some skills. Read those books. Watch that documentry. Do things that will make your future self proud.

Some selfcare ideas

Organizing and planning

excercise or take a walk.

Reading books.

Cleaning your room

Watching fun movies

Studying about yourself. Knowing what products suits your skin and your hair. What color brighten you and what makes you look dull. What haircut looks good on your face and what clothes flatters on your body.

Get your nails done.

Listen to your fav album while painting, baking, or gardening.

Do your hobby without feeling presurrized. No you dont need to read 50 books a year, chill out and enjoy while doing it.

Dairy writing. Its so fun to read what your day looked like on a random tuesday after 2-3 years.

Explore new things in your hometown. Maybe there is a new cafe that opened 2 weeks ago or there is a hiking trail you are not aware of? its always fun to do that.

How I’m feeling now 👾

Hey gals! I used to wear wigs for gyaru until I did my hair and stopped wearing them , I am looking into getting those big puffy wigs they are so cute , I can’t wait for summer 😞 and I need to get my nails done I miss long nails 😞 I could get the ones that are stick on but they break easily 🙁✌🏻

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💗🎀SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO GET UNCOMFORTABLE TO GET COMFORTABLE💗🎀

💗If your brain has a negative default setting , you need to DELIBERATELY think positive thoughts about what you want. Your mind will be filled with negative thoughts that will hinder you if you fail to intentionally think positive thoughts. To get rid of negative thoughts or the old story, it's necessary to ignore them, even though it will be uncomfortable. Don't dwell on the old story . Do not pay attention to it. Sometimes you need to force yourself to ignore the old story and focus solely on what you want.

🎀If you keep focusing on the old story , you are consciously or unconsciously , persisting in it. The more you persist with the old story, the more it will take over. That is why it is important to focus on what you want . Align your beliefs to what you want . If there is something you want to turn around in your life or something you want to take away to the next level in your life , you need to focus purely on that. Keep in mind that what you place your focus on EXPANDS !!!!

💗Sometimes we are stuck in the old story because we have victim mentality or we are addicted to toxicity , we become comfortable with the old story even though we know we do not want it. Being a victim is easier than taking ownership. All you need to do is blame others. Stop waiting for someone else to come and save you. You owe it to yourself. You are the ultimate solution . You are not a victim , you are the creator of your life ! You are so powerful , do not give your power to anything.

🎀Train your mind to focus on what you want , focus on what you want to experience. Detach from the old story , it does not serve you. You are ALLOWED to change your mind.

💗Break up with the old story, the old story where you feel powerless or bad about yourself. You are not that person anymore . For example , If you got a new phone, would you still use the old one when it does not work at all ? Will you continue to use the old phone even though you don't like it ? If you have a functional new phone and love it, why would you switch back to your old one ? You have the OPTION to choose . Why dwell on the old story when you can persist in the new story and create a beautiful life for yourself !!!

🎀When you are feeling sad, avoid listening to sad songs. Expressing your emotions can be beneficial. I suggest journaling. Listening to sad songs and romanticizing sadness is not good for us. When you are sad, listening to sad songs or watching sad shows is like eating a box of donuts because you feel fat. It is not helping at all. Listen to songs that lift your spirits. In my opinion, listening to sad songs and romanticizing sadness is reinforcing the old story. This will cause the old story to become dominant and manifest. For example : If you feel you are caring too much about other's opinions , listen to songs like " Yes and ?" by Ariana Grande or " Wasabi " by Little Mix.

💗Saturate your mind with the new story until the old story no longer bothers you.

☆moodboard;¥ulia

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