people All Of A Sudden Up In Arms About This Kiss And Calling So Abusive Like

 people all of a sudden up in arms about this kiss and calling so abusive like

yes the kiss was problematic good job sherlock it was supposed to be

“hae soo did nothing wrong” yes and no

hae soo took someone who has been abused and isolated, both physically and emotionally, his entire life, befriended him, swore to him that she would never betray his trust, and then did just that. she physically and emotionally pushed him away, repeating to him the things that triggered him. “i’m afraid of you.” “you’re going to ruin everything.” the exact opposite of what she’s said in the past, she’s done a complete 180 overnight, going from his closest ally to someone who doesn’t even want to be near him with zero explanation. this isn’t to say hae soo is a bad person, or that her fear was unjustified, but her handling of the situation was careless to an extent. the only person so had ever trusted or opened up to. for abuse victims, trust is a huge freaking deal and this boy had come so far in his healing process.

does that excuse the kiss? does that mean soo was wrong for being shaken by her visions? does that justify claiming ownership of someone and forcing yourself on them? of course not what the fuck. there’s nothing to excuse such behavior. but it is a violent way of trying to hold onto something you’re losing. we’re not supposed to see it as this great romantic gesture. it’s sad, it’s pathetic, and it’s extremely in character for wang so. he’s lashing out, something not uncommon for childhood abuse survivors. and it’s gonna be something he needs to overcome. he’s not there yet, which is understandable, especially since he’s still in a pretty damn abusive environment. i’d be a little annoyed if they did away with all of that simply because he fell in love with someone, because that implies that an abuse survivor needs only a significant other to be “fixed” and that’s not true. it takes time, years upon years of time. but look at where he was in ep 1 - he’s grown so much since then. but he still has a long way to go, and this is one way of showing that.

please stop acting as if this scene is “person a is evil and person b is an angel sent from heaven above”. please don’t write the scene off like that and ignore the episodes of character development and growth between these two. please don’t pretend that good and bad aren’t happening on both sides and that both characters are handling extreme trauma in questionable ways. please stop forgetting about how much abuse and trauma are shaping their decisions and are ingrained in their personalities. these are not two dimensional characters and this is not a two dimensional scene. please stop trying to oversimplify it to avoid being problematic. it’s a problematic scene - let it be.