Squee!  I Love These So Much.

Um, yeah, I definitely support asexuals.

Reblog if you genuinely support asexuals

It terrifies me that there’s so much raging passion in the lgbt+ community that insist on marginalizing asexuals and implying that asexuals don’t deserve to have safe spaces. There’s still so much acephobia so I just wanna know which blogs are genuinely supportive and a safe space for asexuals

I don’t have many followers, but if any of you know someone in the Chicago area with kids who want to take them to a queer-safe Santa, please pass this along!

Squee!  I love Gail Carriger’s Parasol Protectorate series, and I’m looking forward to her new M/M romances in a modern setting.  I made the mistake of reading the prequel short story before I realized that The Sumage Solution hadn’t been released yet. 

Goodreads giveaway for The Sumage Solution is going on right now! http://ow.ly/vRTR30clgzz . #gailcarriger #bookstagram #instabook #booknerd #bookworm #books #booklove #booklife #bookcovers #giveaway #widn #mlm #romance

If this is your attitude, you need to 

A: Learn to care about people who aren’t yourself, and

B: Learn some freaking history! 

Everyone else is having their rights taken away, but they’ll stop before they take MINE away…. Right?

One of the soap vendors at my local Ren Faire has a big sign, “SOAP,” outside of their shop.  There are bars of soap displayed prominently.  The person handing out samples usually says, “Would you like a sample of soap?” or something similar.  

They also have a chalkboard where they tally the soap eaters for the day.  There are almost always at least 10-20.  On a hot day, when people have been hitting the beer booths heavily, they can get more than 50.

The market for this card may be larger than you think.

I’m still reeling over the fact when I went with my friend to a renaissance fair, there was a lady who was handing out samples. My friend took a bite of it and all I heard was

“My lord that’s soap”

Have yourself a pretty decent little Christmas, a not-so-bad Hanukkah, a mediocre Hogswatch, and/or a reasonably happy Whatever You’re Having.  Enjoy it in your own way, whether that’s glittery or gloomy.  You certainly don’t need my permission, but if you want someone to say, “Yes, it’s ok if this year isn’t the best, the brightest, the most amazing ever,” I’m here for you.  (And if it is the best and brightest and most amazing, that’s ok, too.)

I was looking at making a family christmas card for the first time in our eight years of being a family, and i feel. just.  kinda bummed out.  all these cards on shutterfly are foil-stamped and covered in glitter and say things like “merriest christmas,” “happiest holidays,” “best year ever,” “awesomest year ever.”  and maybe for some people it was.  but this wasn’t our glitteriest happiest merriest awesomest year.  and i know it wasn’t the happiest merriest awesomest year for a lot of other people too.  

for me one of the crappiest parts of commercialized christmas culture is all this pressure to make it pretty.  to be the -est: the best, the merriest, the happiest.  like if you go get professional photos taken at a christmas tree farm with wavy hair and coordinating outfits and put those photos on a embossed glittery card then somehow it erases the fact that your wife lost her job or your new baby spent three months in the nicu.  

why isn’t it ok to just have a mediocre christmas? why isn’t it ok to have a christmas card that just says plain old “happy holidays” with a mediocre pixelated cell phone pic of your family where the toddler isn’t wearing pants and you have your glasses on and no one matches?  why isn’t it ok to say this ISN’T going to be the merriest christmas? that no one is getting the shinest newest cell phone or toy because dad is in the hospital and we can’t afford it?  that some families are tired and stressed to even put up a tree or hang up lights?  

when you can’t do Big Best Christmas the way all those perfect families on instagram do christmas, the way all those families in commercials and sitcoms do christmas, it starts to make you feel.  like.  left out.  like your little bit of christmas isn’t enough.  like your twenty-dollar plastic tree with tinsel and two ornaments isn’t enough.  like your .99 cent felt stockings with names glitter-glued on isn’t enough.  

the world chants joy!! merry!! bright!! stocking stuffers!!! and you just feel alienated because the world is bellowing CHRISTMAS!! at you through a megaphone but all you want is just to whisper it quietly this year.  not every year is going to be your best christmas ever.  christmases aren’t an escalating crescendo of personal happiness and fulfillment.  some years will be harder than others.  i just want it to be a normal, good, happy thing to just have a little christmas.

Thank you to everyone who voted!  Even if the race wasn’t as close in your area, your vote made a difference.

Here is a neat thing to think of forever: look at “maximum room occupancy” signs — they are everywhere in offices and hotels and restaurants and shops.

If you see one at or around 63, take a good, long look at how physically small the room is!

May this haunt you forever should you think “my vote doesn’t matter. Even though I can vote, I won’t.”

Via

This is oddly enthralling.  You build towers of sand, and periodically, a wave comes and dissolves them.  Then you start over.  That’s the whole game.

I can’t decide whether this little game is ultimately soothing or super frustrating. :D 

I don’t really believe in the luck thing, but it’s a very cute kitty.

This is the lucky clover cat. reblog this in 30 seconds & he will bring u good luck and fortune.

I’m so glad that the QUILTBAG+ folks I know are welcoming and friendly to all, including asexuals and aromantics!

this pride month if i see ANY of you fuckers including ace/aro identities anywhere, if you even fucking say the words asexual or aromantic in any context of pride in any day this June, you have 0% of my patience and respect. this month isn’t for ace/aro identities and never will be. shut the fuck up.