[blink, Blink] Ok, I Realize That I’m On The Fringes Of Fandom, So I’m Probably Not Representative

Your flat tire is more likely to happen during difficult conditions, when it’s harder to see the road and any hazards.  If you can, keep an old blanket or sleeping bag in your vehicle so you have something to kneel or sit on when you’re changing the tire.

Please vote! Even if it feels like you are only voting against the worse candidate or voting for the Less Bad candidate -- we need those votes to make sure we don't get the worse candidate.

Also, vote in all of your local elections if you can. Those are the people who decide whether books get banned in your community's schools and libraries. They decide whether your local police department gets training on de-escalation procedures or bigger guns. They are behind your community's social safety nets (or lack thereof), what types of community events are held, what's in your local parks, and much more.

Voting for Democrats is the "leaving the house, getting some exercise, and drinking more water is good for your mental health" of societal change. Everyone keeps telling you to do it, worst of all your mom keeps telling you to do it, and it's not a magical cure-all, but it actually works and rotting in your room shitposting does not help in either scenario.

Thank you!

Thanks to the person who sent me The Patriarchy Isn't Going to Smash Itself from TeePublic!  (Hooray for geeky, nerdy goodness with strong females!!)  Unfortunately, the package arrived without any indication of the sender. :(  If you let me know who you are, I will happily shower you with direct appreciation as well as indirect.

So cute!

Transparent Jellyfish Pride! 

You can buy these as shirts or stickers without the watermark on my Redbubble! 

EDIT: I forgot to add the Pan Jellyfish!! It’s added ;v;)b

I love octopodes, and this one is particularly stunning!

Entranced by this larger Pacific striped octopus? Us too. “Rediscovered” by our own Rich Ross & UC Berkeley’s Roy Caldwell in 2013 (which validated another scientist’s 22-year-old findings), its unusually social behaviors—including beak-to-beak mating—"fly in the face of nearly everything we know about cephalopods.“ Learn more: calacade.my/1N6WbRt. 📽️ by biologist Tim Wong

If you haven’t read Tab’s Minority Monsters comics, I highly recommend them!  I’m about to succumb to the added temptation of the ace succubus charm and buy the print copy for myself.  (I’m pretty sure I can find someone who would like a charm if I win the giveaway, too.)

Looking for some Queer Cheer this December?

I’ve got a Bisexual Unicorn and an Asexual Succubus looking for a home this festive season! Like, comment or share this post on Facebook, Tumblr or Twitter to enter a prize draw on the 25th and either of these could be yours!

If you don’t want to take your chances then I’ve got 25 of these adorable squishy charms (12 Asexual Succubi and 13 Bisexual Unicorns) which I’ll be giving away with every copy of the Minority Monster book bought this December (tinyurl.com/minoritymonsterbook). First come first served, just pick your monster in the drop down menu!

Perfect for hanging on a tree, keeping you company in the cold or being used as a stress ball for difficult family dinners.

Rules

-Each like, comment, share or retweet counts as an entry, multiple entries are fine. -First winner gets their pick of the two monsters, second winner gets the other one. -If you buy a book you can still enter the prize draw

This is incredibly frightening.  In addition to the definition of domestic violence, the definitions of stalking (old vs. new) and sexual assault (old vs. new) were changed between December 2017 and April 2018.

The Trump Administration Quietly Changed the Definition of Domestic Violence and We Have No Idea What For

It is too early to assess the full impact of the change.

Without fanfare or even notice, the Department of Justice’s Office on Violence Against Women made significant changes to its definition of domestic violence in April. The Obama-era definition was expansive, vetted by experts including the National Center for Victims of Crime and the National Domestic Violence Hotline. The Trump administration’s definition is substantially more limited and less informed, effectively denying the experiences of victims of abuse by attempting to cast domestic violence as an exclusively criminal concern.

The previous definition included critical components of the phenomenon that experts recognize as domestic abuse—a pattern of deliberate behavior, the dynamics of power and control, and behaviors that encompass physical or sexual violence as well as forms of emotional, economic, or psychological abuse. But in the Trump Justice Department, only harms that constitute a felony or misdemeanor crime may be called domestic violence. So, for example, a woman whose partner isolates her from her family and friends, monitors her every move, belittles and berates her, or denies her access to money to support herself and her children is not a victim of domestic violence in the eyes of Trump’s Department of Justice. This makes no sense for an office charged with funding and implementing solutions to the problem of domestic violence rather than merely prosecuting individual abusers

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Check this out if you’re on Instagram and want to try to win a book with an ace character!

Win an asexual book of your choice! [Details here]

“Find what works for you and work it.“

I’m so glad that my mother was willing to raise my sister and myself to be weird and to accept that we would never be, and didn’t need to be, normal.  Unless you’re sharing living quarters with someone and their needs conflict with yours, make your space work for you.  Why try to make yourself live somewhere that doesn’t fit you, just for some illusion of normal?

Ridiculous yet effective ways to deal with Executive Dysfunction

Dealing with executive dysfunction and ADHD becomes so much easier when you stop trying to do things the way you feel like you should be able to do them (like everyone else) and start finding ways that actually work for you, no matter how “silly” or “unnecessary” they seem.

For years my floor was constantly covered in laundry. Clean laundry got mixed in with dirty and I had to wash things twice, just making more work for myself. Now I just have 3 laundry bins: dirty (wash it later), clean (put it away later), and mystery (figure it out later). Sure, theoretically I could sort my clothes into dirty or clean as soon as I take them off and put them away straight out of the dryer, but realistically that’s never going to be a sustainable strategy for me.

How many garbage bins do you need in a bedroom? One? WRONG! The correct answer is one within arms reach at all times. Which for me is three. Because am I really going to get up to blow my nose when I’m hyperfocusing? NO. In allergy season I even have an empty kleenex box for “used tissues I can use again.” Kinda gross? Yeah. But less gross than a snowy winter landscape of dusty germs on my desk.

I used to be late all the time because I couldn’t find my house key. But it costs $2.50 and 3 minutes to copy a key, so now there’s one in my backpack, my purse, my gym bag, my wallet, my desk, and hanging on my door. Problem solved.

I’m like a ninja for getting pout the door past reminder notes without noticing. If I really don’t want to forget something, I make a physical barrier in front of my door. A sticky note is a lot easier to walk past than a two foot high cardboard box with my wallet on top of it.

Executive dysfunction is always going to cause challenges, but often half the struggle is trying to cope by pretending not to have executive dysfunction, instead of finding actual solutions.