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PRACTICE URGE SURFING

do you have any words of wisdom for rejection? got some bad news tonight 🥲

rejection does not mean you are not worthy of love. rejection means it’s not the right person or sometimes not the right time. my gf initially rejected me and i was devastated then. but that didn’t make me give up on love. it didn’t make me think i was not good enough. it reminded me that some things simply don’t work out how we hope but that in the future, other things will.

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Green Flags in Communication 💚💬

"I want to know when I hurt your feelings."

This shows they are willing to understand and acknowledge the impact of their actions.

"I don't want you to feel alone in this."

This shows empathy and indicates that the person is supportive and does not want the person to deal with issues alone.

"I've been struggling with ___”

This demonstrates vulnerability and trust, as the person is open about their struggles.

"How have you been feeling about ___? I know it's been on your mind a lot."

This shows concern for the other person's issues or worries, showing that they are listening and care about what's important to the other person.

"I feel __ when you __; are you open to trying __ next time?"

This is an example of constructive communication.

"What do you need from me when this happens with your family?"

This shows awareness and sensitivity to the persons family dynamics and a willingness to provide support.

"I appreciate when you ___.”

Expressing appreciation is vital for positive reinforcement and acknowledging the efforts and qualities of the other person.

"I didn't handle that well."

This is a sign of self-awareness and accountability, recognizing one's own mistakes and being open to learning and growth.

"I'm sorry, I was wrong to say that. I'll try to be more mindful in the future."

Shows you are able to apologize genuinely and a commitment to improving behavior.

"Tell me more about that; I'm really interested in hearing your perspective."

Indicates a genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings.

"I noticed you seemed a bit off today. Is everything okay?"

It shows you are attentive to the other person's emotional state and a readiness to provide support.

"I'm here for you, no matter what you need."

Offers unconditional support, creating a sense of security in the relationship.

"I love how passionate you are about your hobbies. It's inspiring to see."

Expresses admiration for the other person's interests.

"Let's work on a solution together. What do you think would be fair?"

Focusing on collaboration rather than conflict.

"I trust your judgment on this."

Trust and respect for the other person's decision-making abilities.

"Your happiness is important to me. Let's make sure you're taking time for yourself."

Prioritizes the other person's happiness and emphasizes the importance of self care.

"It's okay to feel that way. Do you want to talk about it more?"

Validates the other person's feelings.

"I appreciate how you handled that situation. You're really good at ___."

Praises specific strengths or skills, boosting the other person's self-esteem.

"I know we disagree, but I respect your point of view."

Acknowledges differences in opinion while still maintaining respect and understanding.

Solange for Document Journal

its 1am now I hope something comes up for the better in 6 months, change, something that makes me feel like my heart actually beats

How do you romanticize your life? Xx

I guess I do a lot! Let's see, I:

Set my alarm 15 minutes early and open my blinds so I can stretch in the sun before starting my day

Sit in a sauna for 15-30 minutes daily while drinking cold lemon water

Consume sappy harlequin novels like they’re going out of style

Go on 2-3 hour long walks in nature several times per week

Meditate for 30 minutes before bed

Repeat affirmations in the shower and while brushing my teeth

Tell myself I'm beautiful every time I look in the mirror

Work at a daycare 3x per week because I love squeezing toddlers

Rub glycolic acid all over my body and top it with a rich cream after showering

Eat tons of watery fruit and drink 2 gallons of water daily

Host Charcuterie Sundays, Taco Tuesdays, and Pizza Fridays

Stay out all night Saturday and sleep all day Sunday

Listen to musical theatre while working

Watch at least one cheesy Netflix Romcom per week

Volunteer at my local nursing home once per month

Eat a bit of dark chocolate every night before bed

Keep a dream journal

Add to my vision board and read through my list of long term and short term goals daily

Exfoliate my face and body every Sunday night

Light a candle every evening

Purchase cheap beauty, health, love, and happiness spells on Etsy

Listen to Neville Goddard every morning while getting ready

Make my own floral arrangements and often gift them to other people

Walk bare foot in my backyard because it feels amazing

Open a recipe book at a random page and cook whatever I land on

Get on my knees and pray every night before turning out the light

Repeat "Thank you, God" in my head more times than I can count daily :)

Lovingly,

Elle

"if you see someone shoplifting, no you didn't" no but like. i really didn't. i have never in my life seen someone shoplifting because i'm not watching anyone else in the grocery store..? how are y'all noticing things like that. my only goals are enter the store, survive, exit the store

note to self becca

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